Feeling lost after deferred from my ED school

I got deferred from my ED. I know it’s not a rejection, but I’m having a hard time because I attached a lot of identity/relief to getting in. I keep replaying “if I had gotten in my stress would be gone,” and now it’s months of uncertainty. I also feel like that school is the only one that checks all of my boxes and I won't be happy at other places. I want to enjoy my senior year but I feel like this is going to eat away at me.
Any advice from people who’ve been in this spot — how do you stay grounded and not let it dominate your life?

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the older you get you realize how inconsequential some of this stuff is, especially with college apps which are a complete crapshoot. Obviously its going to hurt in the moment but at the end of the day your career and life trajectory is going to be defind by either your failures or how you respond to failures, and its your choice which its going to be

 

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