Am I off base here?
My best friend and business partner is a pretty jealous guy about his fiancé. She's probably a 7 on a 10 scale in terms of hotness. Nothing special, but she can have her moments. When someone (a male) compliments here appearance it sends my friend into a near jealous rage. If I were to say something like, "Wow, [fiance] looks great today," he'll give me this evil eye. But since I'm not very good looking and I'm his closest friend, it's usually not terrible.
But it all came to a head this weekend when we were at a Starbucks. There's this guy there that is mentally retarded/mentally damaged in some way (he has conversations with himself and junk). My friend's fiancé left Starbucks and this mentally challenged guy, who my friend knows, walked up to my friend and said, "Your gf is hot." My friend became really angry and said, "Don't you talk about her like that!"
I basically said, "Geesh, relax. Take it as a compliment. In 15 or 20 years nobody is going to be saying that, so enjoy it while it lasts."
Am I off base? Is it normal to get really jealous over other men complimenting a guy's fiancé (even if it is inappropriate)? If it were me I'd just say, "Hey, thanks. I'm really blessed."
No, it's not "normal" for him to get that jealous. Kid's got issues.
Insecure much?
He has trust issues.
The dude is a tad bit insecure
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Your friend has some severe trust issues that he needs to work on; your fiance is in the clear. There's nothing a beautiful woman can do about being beautiful: men will compliment her and pursue her, regardless of her social status. Your friend needs to fix those issues, otherwise his continuing unnecssary jealous and anger will make his fiance feel worthless and unwanted. She'll begin to think of what it'll be like to be single, or with gentleman. A man needs to one up other men. I had a girlfriend once; definite 8 or 9. Guys were ALWAYS hitting on her, but because I didn't care, neither did my girlfriend. I was humbled that I was with such a beautiful girl. I always made her feel like the queen of the world, so she never, ever considered the idea of being with another man making her feel that way. Everything has a balance. You should get jealous sometimes. Show your SO that she's your girl every now and then, but don't be a vagina who's jealous and overprotective. But seriously, if your friend wants to marry that girl, he NEEDS to stop being jealous NOW, before they get married. Those trust issues, those fears of unfaithfulness, will only poison the sacred fountain of life that their marriage could one day be.
Your friend better get that shit in check before he gets dumped and/or his ass kicked. That is serious insecurity issues.
That is a really random question. I would not worry. If you're friend is such a freak why bother?
He sounds like a total chump with very low self-esteem. You were not off base at all.
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What would he say if i said: "She looks incredible today. I want it all, and then some".
That's what happens when you trade up. I would be willing to bet that all attributes considered your friend is not a 7+ on a 10 point scale. Probably more like a 5, soft 6 at best. And I'm not just talking about looks obviously.
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I think you're a little off base for being friends with the guy.
What I don't get is that he's actually really good looking and charming, which is reflected in his job (he's a very successful business producer). And he's also a really nice guy, well liked by virtually everyone. I'm not sure exactly what his issue is or why he's insecure.
oftentimes, what everybody else sees isn't what the person in question sees, unfortunately. he's clearly insecure.
I have a friend like that's similar, though he doesn't get that insanely jealous about girls. Just from a wealthy family, good looking, and well-liked, but probably one of the most insecure guys I know
Your friend needs to get a life. I love to be with someone who I can be proud to be seen with.
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