I might be one of the very few here but my background was atypical compared to the normal American kid. Grew up poor, didn't have a halfway decent high school experience that involved spring breaks and breaking out of your shell (high school was straight World Star lol), and college experience sucked hardcore. School was run by the Greek Life scene and it was tough to get a bid for a decent fraternity if you did not come from a well off background. Needless to say, I missed out on the "college experience" and the "best 4 years" of my life, for a lack of funds, depression, family issues and a laundry list of reasons.
Now I see these kids who had a lot going for them growing up such as a supportive family, cool parents that pushed them to be confident, and overall grew up wealthy and well off. These sorts of kids enter their early 20s having done it all and "got it out of their system".
Then you have guys like me who in their mid 20s are hitting their stride. Thank god for dating apps as I have managed to get 10 dates in the past few months alone and been around a few times.
I feel like we finally got our lucky break, we have our paycheck, control of our lives now and everything.
Now I feel like I want to get it out of my system but then I have to deal with society.
Its like on one hand I want to avoid stuff like marriage, kids, long term relationships and "settling down" that so many kids who had it easy growing up get to do. I actually want to go to the music festivals, Greek Islands, make friends with people around my age who want to get it out of their system but I am feeling lost.
I feel like somehow my situation was unique, by 25 everyone already experienced the fun part of life and life is supposed to be "slower" now but I am resisting that because I feel like I am the opposite.
Its like I spent so much of my teenage years and early 20s dealing with issues and being restrained that now I have my freedom and I want to break out of my shell but at the same time, I feel like my case is very rare and most people my age have supposedly decided to become dads with a mortgage by 28 and I cannot relate to them or even bother to talk to them much outside of a business relationship.
Any other late bloomers feeling this way?
Find Your Mentor
- Increase your chance of landing a job by matching with one of our 200+ mentors.
- Our mentors are top employees at the most selective firms.
- Proven process with over 1,100 clients over 10 years.