Black dudes w non black girls

Associate 2 in CB

Black dude working in finance. Feel like most of us happen to date non black girls, not purposefully but more so just a product of the environment you are in/ppl you meet.

If I had to guess most of the ppl here on WSO and not black dudes lmao. I've always been curious about yalls view/immediate thoughts when you see it.

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Dec 12, 2019

I know some people in the community have thoughts on it, but the only white people with thoughts on it are probably not people you'd want to talk to.

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Dec 12, 2019

That's a perfect example of the type who would take issue with it

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Dec 13, 2019

I don't think you should be with a white girl. I think you should be with me ;P

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  • Associate 2 in IB-M&A
Dec 12, 2019

No offense, but no one cares about your personal life. Ain't nobody losing sleep cause some black dude has a non-black girlfriend. If someone has a problem with it, they can back off - don't let it get it you.

Choose any girl you want, just not mine.

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  • Associate 1 in ER
Dec 12, 2019

People certainly care. Going to my office christmas party in the next few days and will for sure get looks. Both for being the only black guy there and for my gf. To be clear the office Christmas party includes ppl from other divisions/departments that I don't work with almost at all. Ofc my immediate co-workers are "used" to me by now.

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Dec 12, 2019

They don't care. Trust me

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  • Associate 2 in IB-M&A
Dec 12, 2019

You're the one clappin' cheeks though....

My stance is that people that have an issue with it, have bigger issues to worry about (themselves)

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  • Associate 2 in CB
Dec 12, 2019

Was just going to say, a lot of this stems from my Holiday Party last night. We have a few older RM's / EVP's who are recent divorcee's so they're back in the market. And I was having to deal with them gawking, making "chocolate swirl references', and general gawking. I guess it comes with the territory. But it was almost to the point where it felt disingenuous or mocking lol. Was lowkey a trash evening honestly because of that.

You right though at the end of the day honestly just dont give a fuck and live life.

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Dec 12, 2019

Mixed babies are way cuter than white babies, that's the extent of my thoughts on the issue lol

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Dec 12, 2019

This is great info if you're Jared Fogle, otherwise it's a poor rationale to date someone based on skin color

I'm a fun guy. Obviously I love the game of basketball. I mean there's more questions you have to ask me in order for me to tell you about myself. I'm not just gonna give you a whole spill... I mean, I don't even know where you're sitting at

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Dec 12, 2019

Haha that's funny but who's advocating for that

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Dec 13, 2019

There should be a way to give extra SB's to comments like this

Dec 12, 2019

Imagine unironically thinking this....

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  • Associate 1 in ER
Dec 12, 2019

I think pussy is pussy and it shouldn't be an issue. Unfortunately it is for some people, in both communities. My gf is white but I've known her since HS (we didn't date since HS) and she understands and vibes with me. We grew up in the same environment so she gets me. I couldn't date a preppyrich chic for an extended amount of time, of any race. She'd rub me the wrong way. I think it's just important to find someone on your wavelength regardless of race. You will get side eye from both black and white ppl tho. If the chic is hispanic it's more "accepted" - which is ridiculous. Asian chics don't fw black dudes for the most part.

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Dec 12, 2019

i know an asian girl who dumped her asian fiance to marry a big black dude...the family was surprised....but the dude is a really cool guy. people are people....but the older generation, on all sides, tends to have strong racial stereotypes. hopefully, that will erase as generations pass

just google it...you're welcome

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  • Associate 1 in ER
Dec 12, 2019
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i know an asian girl who dumped her asian fiance to marry a big black dude...the family was surprised....but the dude is a really cool guy. people are people....but the older generation, on all sides, tends to have strong racial stereotypes. hopefully, that will erase as generations pass

There are always exceptions but judging from my buddy's responses on dating apps and my experiences, Asians would rather be with white guys. My buddy is pretty good at getting dates from every race, except asians.

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Dec 12, 2019

Who cares?

Put your dick in whomever you find attractive and also finds you attractive. As long as the motives are not shady (gold digging/sugar daddying, ...), Most people who aren't bigots won't care

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Dec 12, 2019

We are heading towards 2020, my black bros date black, asian, latina and white chicks. Just make sure she doesn't belong to the video below

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  • Associate 2 in CB
Dec 12, 2019

She belong to the skreets

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Dec 12, 2019

skreetsssssss

  • Analyst 1 in IB - Gen
Dec 12, 2019

Tbh. Pretty typical of the type of black dude working in high finance. No one will blink an eye.

  • Associate 2 in CB
Dec 12, 2019

10/10 agree. But why is that? Is it because we are perceived to come from a pedigree that makes it ok for a white girl to feel comfortable dating us as a black dude? Again, as I said in the original post most of it is probably just general environment we/I grow up in or are around socially. But like for example a lot of my teammates in college, who weren't in finance (and few were) still dated white girls but more of the instagram "non classy" type. Its all so interesting to me.

Dec 12, 2019

teammates? so you're an athlete? there's your answer. since you're a catch to anyone, it's a simple probability equation - 72% of the country is white, 12% is black.

I could start on some red pill shit about how women want a provider and whatnot, but if you have a nice body (athlete), good work ethic (athlete), and a good job, any race would be attractive, you just happen to have the best skin.

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Dec 12, 2019

thinking

What concert costs 45 cents? 50 Cent feat. Nickelback.

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Dec 12, 2019

I've only been in interracial relationships and never had any issues. Never lived in a backwards city though.

  • Associate 1 in ER
Dec 12, 2019
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I've only been in interracial relationships and never had any issues. Never lived in a backwards city though.

Fetish? Aren't you a white guy? You one of the asian-only white dudes? Lol. No judgement I have a friend or two that's the same.

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Dec 12, 2019

No, I'm not white.

Dec 12, 2019

Does it have to be a fetish immediately? I always dated foreigners because I think the experience is more interesting. However, I can't find a Caucasian girl that finds me attractive. So I guess it's desperation.

  • Analyst 2 in RE - Comm
Dec 12, 2019

Mixed guy here, but look semi light skinned/Dominican so I think our experience could be relatable.

I've been dating my (white) gf since I was a junior in college, so about 4 years or so. Grew up and went to school in the midwest (not Chicago) so there was not a ton of diversity like here in NYC. I think it really is just a result of being a product of the environment. I mean, speaking for myself here, but going to private school k-12, private liberal arts college, you are bound to see the same types of people day in and day out. How many black girls would you say get private schooling their entire life? I sure don't know but there were plenty of white girls around me growing up, so of course I'll be attracted to them. Not saying black girls aren't attractive because I've had plenty of good times with a few of them before I got locked down, but that's the reality of the environment - there's not a lot of diversity in private schools/financial industry/etc.

Same goes for working in high finance. Simply put, I don't think many black girls' career dreams are to be an MD at GS or anything, but if there are some, hell yeah more power to you. But that's a fact that high finance doesn't really attract that crowd of people en masse like other groups. Who cares what color your girls' skin is, as long as you two have a common bond and not some fake IG shit.

Anyone who isn't a bigoted racist won't care about who you are dating. You shouldn't really care either because you are the one making the choice.

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  • Associate 2 in CB
Dec 12, 2019

Very well said. Def relate on every level.

Dec 12, 2019

Fuck Racism, Fuck Sex, Fuck Money, Geico can save 15% or more on your car insurance

What concert costs 45 cents? 50 Cent feat. Nickelback.

Dec 13, 2019

1) nobody cares, you're making an issue out of nothing
2) if anyone cares culture is too hyper PC for them to day anything anyway

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Dec 13, 2019
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2) if anyone cares culture is too hyper PC for them to day anything anyway

Yeah, man. Fuck PC culture. Can't even be openly racist about race-mixing these days. Damn libs have gone too far!

face palm

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Dec 13, 2019

Way to take things wildly out of context in order to pretend you've made a point. The reality is that nobody gives a rat's ass who he's dating and of anyone did nobody could so much make a remark about it without being fired and sued, therefore he has no reason to care. I'm running out to Walgreens I'll pick you up some Midol.

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Dec 13, 2019
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Yeah, man. Fuck PC culture. Can't even be openly racist about race-mixing these days. Damn libs have gone too far!

Hell yea brother +1 SB

Dec 14, 2019

who cares

Dec 16, 2019

yes please date all the white girls who want black guys

that way i know who not to interact with

once you go black you never go back.

Dec 16, 2019

I think the more interesting topic is the rise of black people who disparage other black people for dating outside of their race. Too fucked up to describe:

  • Associate 2 in CB
Dec 16, 2019
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