Black dudes w non black girls


Black dude working in finance. Feel like most of us happen to date non black girls, not purposefully but more so just a product of the environment you are in/ppl you meet.

If I had to guess most of the ppl here on WSO and not black dudes lmao. I’ve always been curious about yalls view/immediate thoughts when you see it.

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Dec 12, 2019 - 2:21pm

I know some people in the community have thoughts on it, but the only white people with thoughts on it are probably not people you'd want to talk to.

Commercial Real Estate Developer
Dec 12, 2019 - 8:05pm

That’s a perfect example of the type who would take issue with it

Commercial Real Estate Developer
  • Associate 1 in ER
Dec 12, 2019 - 2:32pm

People certainly care. Going to my office christmas party in the next few days and will for sure get looks. Both for being the only black guy there and for my gf. To be clear the office Christmas party includes ppl from other divisions/departments that I don't work with almost at all. Ofc my immediate co-workers are "used" to me by now.

  • Associate 2 in CB
Dec 12, 2019 - 2:42pm

Was just going to say, a lot of this stems from my Holiday Party last night. We have a few older RM's / EVP's who are recent divorcee's so they're back in the market. And I was having to deal with them gawking, making "chocolate swirl references', and general gawking. I guess it comes with the territory. But it was almost to the point where it felt disingenuous or mocking lol. Was lowkey a trash evening honestly because of that.

You right though at the end of the day honestly just dont give a fuck and live life.

Dec 12, 2019 - 2:25pm

Mixed babies are way cuter than white babies, that’s the extent of my thoughts on the issue lol

Gun rights activist
Dec 12, 2019 - 3:29pm

This is great info if you’re Jared Fogle, otherwise it’s a poor rationale to date someone based on skin color

I’m a fun guy. Obviously I love the game of basketball. I mean there’s more questions you have to ask me in order for me to tell you about myself. I'm not just gonna give you a whole spill... I mean, I don't even know where you're sitting at
  • Associate 1 in ER
Dec 12, 2019 - 2:28pm

I think pussy is pussy and it shouldn't be an issue. Unfortunately it is for some people, in both communities. My gf is white but I've known her since HS (we didn't date since HS) and she understands and vibes with me. We grew up in the same environment so she gets me. I couldn't date a preppyrich chic for an extended amount of time, of any race. She'd rub me the wrong way. I think it's just important to find someone on your wavelength regardless of race. You will get side eye from both black and white ppl tho. If the chic is hispanic it's more "accepted" - which is ridiculous. Asian chics don't fw black dudes for the most part.

  • Associate 1 in ER
Dec 12, 2019 - 2:35pm


i know an asian girl who dumped her asian fiance to marry a big black dude...the family was surprised....but the dude is a really cool guy. people are people....but the older generation, on all sides, tends to have strong racial stereotypes. hopefully, that will erase as generations pass

There are always exceptions but judging from my buddy's responses on dating apps and my experiences, Asians would rather be with white guys. My buddy is pretty good at getting dates from every race, except asians.

  • Associate 2 in CB
Dec 12, 2019 - 4:02pm

10/10 agree. But why is that? Is it because we are perceived to come from a pedigree that makes it ok for a white girl to feel comfortable dating us as a black dude? Again, as I said in the original post most of it is probably just general environment we/I grow up in or are around socially. But like for example a lot of my teammates in college, who weren't in finance (and few were) still dated white girls but more of the instagram "non classy" type. Its all so interesting to me.

Dec 12, 2019 - 4:13pm

teammates? so you're an athlete? there's your answer. since you're a catch to anyone, it's a simple probability equation - 72% of the country is white, 12% is black.

I could start on some red pill shit about how women want a provider and whatnot, but if you have a nice body (athlete), good work ethic (athlete), and a good job, any race would be attractive, you just happen to have the best skin.

Dec 12, 2019 - 4:11pm

I've only been in interracial relationships and never had any issues. Never lived in a backwards city though.

  • Associate 1 in ER
Dec 12, 2019 - 4:29pm


I've only been in interracial relationships and never had any issues. Never lived in a backwards city though.

Fetish? Aren't you a white guy? You one of the asian-only white dudes? Lol. No judgement I have a friend or two that's the same.

Dec 12, 2019 - 5:45pm

Does it have to be a fetish immediately? I always dated foreigners because I think the experience is more interesting. However, I can't find a Caucasian girl that finds me attractive. So I guess it's desperation.

  • Analyst 2 in RE - Comm
Dec 12, 2019 - 4:14pm

Mixed guy here, but look semi light skinned/Dominican so I think our experience could be relatable.

I've been dating my (white) gf since I was a junior in college, so about 4 years or so. Grew up and went to school in the midwest (not Chicago) so there was not a ton of diversity like here in NYC. I think it really is just a result of being a product of the environment. I mean, speaking for myself here, but going to private school k-12, private liberal arts college, you are bound to see the same types of people day in and day out. How many black girls would you say get private schooling their entire life? I sure don't know but there were plenty of white girls around me growing up, so of course I'll be attracted to them. Not saying black girls aren't attractive because I've had plenty of good times with a few of them before I got locked down, but that's the reality of the environment - there's not a lot of diversity in private schools/financial industry/etc.

Same goes for working in high finance. Simply put, I don't think many black girls' career dreams are to be an MD at GS or anything, but if there are some, hell yeah more power to you. But that's a fact that high finance doesn't really attract that crowd of people en masse like other groups. Who cares what color your girls' skin is, as long as you two have a common bond and not some fake IG shit.

Anyone who isn't a bigoted racist won't care about who you are dating. You shouldn't really care either because you are the one making the choice.

Dec 12, 2019 - 8:58pm

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What concert costs 45 cents? 50 Cent feat. Nickelback.
Dec 13, 2019 - 2:20pm

2) if anyone cares culture is too hyper PC for them to day anything anyway

Yeah, man. Fuck PC culture. Can't even be openly racist about race-mixing these days. Damn libs have gone too far!

face palm

Commercial Real Estate Developer
Dec 13, 2019 - 2:28pm

Way to take things wildly out of context in order to pretend you've made a point. The reality is that nobody gives a rat's ass who he's dating and of anyone did nobody could so much make a remark about it without being fired and sued, therefore he has no reason to care. I'm running out to Walgreens I'll pick you up some Midol.

  • Associate 2 in CB
Dec 16, 2019 - 9:52am
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