As some of you who have seen my previous posts know, I was looking for a new job after I realized that my current gig (small fund) wasn't working out. I finally found another job and tendered my resignation to my PM / boss this week. During our discussions, unsurprisingly, I was peppered with a slew of personal insults, which included the following:
- "you've used my firm as a stepping stone" to get to something better - which isn't true as I initially joined hoping to help him build a bigger biz over time, but unfortunately our dynamic didn't work out and I believed he was trying to sabotage my growth, so I had to leave.
- "you know nothing about investing and don't have any skills" - which is untrue and what I see is nothing more than a personal attack.
- "you will also find you that you have no investment sense wherever you go" - which is again a personal attack and basically a form of "wishing you back luck"
- "you should be thanking me for bringing you out of the shithole firm you were at before, is this how you repay me?"
I tried to reason as politely as I possibly could with him during our final discussion but he couldn't help lowering the tone to a slew of personal insults, disguised as "this isn't an insult, it's the truth" - like he would know what the truth is. His fund has underperformed since inception and he was taking his anger out on me.
I'm glad that I am out of this place, but how would you guys handle an unprofessional and petty boss like this one? Obviously I won't be asking him for any references in the future but just wondering if anyone has run into something like this? Over the past 1 year, half of his small team has quit because of the terrible, abrasive, and unprofessional way he has treated people.
One thing - I do have these conversations recorded on my phone, as I knew he would be particularly abrasive and I wanted to protect myself in case I would ever needed evidence of his abusive tactics in the future.
I don't want to burn bridges in this industry but seems like things like this are inevitable. You can read prior posts by me and see that I've literally done everything I have to leave in a graceful / professional manner, but the way he treated me as I headed out made my blood boil.
Has anyone ever dealt with something similar to this? Petty/abusive/angry/unprofessional boss upon resignation who tries to get a few more insults in to appease his fragile ego?