(Cold) emailing a family friend of sorts

Hi,

So...my mothers colleagues sister's husband is a Managing Director of a corporate law firm in NYC specialising in M&A mostly.

My mum's colleague told him about me, and how I am trying to go to NYC from Europe for an internship. He told her that I should email him.

I have his email and I have no idea how to do this because it's not exactly a cold email, nor do I personally know the man.

What should the subject be? What should I say? I was thinking to start with saying that I was given the email by **** and then a thank you for offering to help me out. After that I should possibly give a brief summary of my experience and education, and then talk about my M&A passion etc... and my ''dream'' of coming to work in NYC.

What do you guys think? Could you please give me advice on how to do this? I'm stuck...

I mean, should I ask if there would be any opportunity for me there? Or should I just ask for information? Maybe he'll decide to refer me to somewhere... and should I attach my resume as well?

Thanks for your help!

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I've attached a sample email below, but to be honest its your sisters husband, you should just ask her to ask her husband to speak with you. Sending a cold email makes NO sense considering its not a cold lead and hes one connection away from family. Don't attach an email and instead of treating it as networking treat it as getting to know the guy considering hes your brother in law. At the end ask, if he has any additional advice or contacts in the field that wouldn't mind talking to you.

If its too uncomfortable to speak to your sis to introduce you, use the below.

Subject: "Your name here" Reaching out

Body:

Hi "sisters husband". Hope your doing well. We haven't previously met but ("sisters name") has told me that you're currently in corporate law and work within the M&A space. Im very interested in corporate finance and I wanted to know if it would be possible to have a few minutes of your time to grab lunch to speak a bit mroe about what you do. Any of your time would be appreciated. Thanks

 

You're over thinking this dude.

"After you work on Wall Street it’s a choice, would you rather work at McDonalds or on the sell-side? I would choose McDonalds over the sell-side.” - David Tepper
 
BoreedThanks, but it's my mother's colleague's sister's husband.

Or the Brother-in-law of my mother's colleague One of my mother's colleagues has a brother-in-law ...

Power and Money do not change men; they only unmask them
 

Agree, you are over thinking it. If they have told him about you this isn't really a cold e-mail call. Hit him up whats the worst that can happen. Just be polite.

Example of sentences: 1) introduce yourself what school and major 2) How you are connected to him (or remind him who told him about you) 3) Quick background of your experience and what you want 4) Ask him to meet or speak on the phone (if you live in a different state) and learn more about his experiences at XXX 5) Thank him for his time

XX
 

Cool thanks! I already sent an email yesterday. I just asked if we could talk and he could tell me about M&A in NYC etc, and he said ok, and also told me to send my resume to him so that he could "pass it on to a couple of colleagues at banks".

Americans are more helpful in this way than Europeans, I have the feeling. Anyway, thanks for your advice everyone.

 
BoreedCool thanks! I already sent an email yesterday. I just asked if we could talk and he could tell me about M&A in NYC etc, and he said ok, and also told me to send my resume to him so that he could "pass it on to a couple of colleagues at banks".

Americans are more helpful in this way than Europeans, I have the feeling. Anyway, thanks for your advice everyone.

You won't get an offer troll

Power and Money do not change men; they only unmask them
 

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