How did you/would you handle a job that you hate so much that you are bad at it?

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This is my first time posting here. I am quite desperate, so please any help would be greatly appreciated.

I hate my current job. I hate it so much that I don't put any effort into it and I continually make dumb mistakes by lack of attention. I'm seriously thinking I might get fired at some point if things don't get better. This job drives me insane. I am a friendly, nice person that everybody likes in general. but at work I am horrible. I don't talk to anybody. I don't greet, and I don"t make the conversation with my coworkers.

I've been looking for threads related to my problem but couldn't find anything really relevant, so here I am. I'm curious to know how did you handle/would handle a job that you hate so much that it affects your mood at work and turns you into a totally different person. I'm starting this new job as an Account Manager at a BB anyways, so will be leaving soon, but want to find a way to deal with this before I leave for my new job.

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Feb 5, 2019

If you have a new job lined up and are so miserable at your current one you should resign and decompress before starting your new one. Even if you think money will be tight during the interim - that will motivate you to buckle down when the new gig starts and do it right from Minute 1. Enjoy some time off doing what you want to do.

FWIW - even if you didn't have a job lined up, I'd advise you to quit if it's that bad.

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Feb 5, 2019

I am honestly considering resignation. I'm supposed to start the next job in September ( HR gave me the option to start in May or September and I said September because I had just started in this job and felt bad to quit shortly). Do you think it'll look unprofessional to ask HR if I can start earlier, even though I have already signed the contract and said I would start in Sept?

Feb 11, 2019

Dude, take a breather and travel or just get some R&R in between jobs... Don't feel bad for quitting if you are that miserable, especial if you work for a bank. I guarantee you they could care less if you leave, especially if you are miserable and obviously don't want to be there...

Feb 5, 2019

Currently in this situation. Live by the motto that anything worth doing is worth doing well. Never complain about anything. Suck it up until you find another job but as long as you are being treated fairly it's your responsibility to put your best foot forward. Life isn't fair.

Whenever we got some bs assignment in the Army, my platoon sergeant used to say "I didn't put a gun to your head to join the Army" meaning it was your choice. Suck it up. No one forced you to take this job.

Feb 5, 2019

I am totally aware of what you are saying. I'm not complaining, just stating a fact. I was wondering how people in my situation would handle it. Anyways, thank you for your reply and advice, much appreciated.

Feb 5, 2019
M225:

I am totally aware of what you are saying. I'm not complaining, just stating a fact. I was wondering how people in my situation would handle it. Anyways, thank you for your reply and advice, much appreciated.

Ya like I said I'm in the same situation...and that is what I repeat to myself every morning before work. Let us know what you end up doing.

Feb 5, 2019

start interviewing and get out. I was in a similar situation when I was in IB... literally fcking hated it so much that it was so hard to find the motivation to do the bullshit fake work that my boss would assign.

longest ~year of my entire life. Love my new job & just received a pretty selective award at my company.... it's hard to thrive unless you're happy and like what you're doing.

Feb 5, 2019

Thanks! How lucky you are to actually like your new job. My concern is that I might not like my next job either, that will really suck. I guess you'll never really know what you like unless you take a job and just do it.

Feb 5, 2019

exactly - you're in commercial banking right now? Are you in Credit/Underwriting? That's actually what I do now.

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Feb 5, 2019

Unless you really, really, really, hate your current job you should stick it out. Honestly, you're a lame duck analyst (no offense), because you already have another job lined up. Literally show up, do what you need to do and go home. I'm not saying be a huge problem at work, but you don't need to hustle for a promotion, and if your work isn't time sensitive, you probably don't need to hustle that hard. Also, you don't take it home with you. Maybe think about what bothers you the most at the job. Again, if your position isn't a time sensitive thing, might not hurt to stroll in a couple of times. Feel it out though.

My reason is, you leave this job in what appears to be a short stay, what happens if you don't like the next, it would be good to have something saved up from your current job.

But think about it. You have the light at the end of the tunnel, September isn't that far off relatively. There was a study done once, where they test people waiting for a train. Two groups, one had to wait 4 minutes for a train, but wasn't told it would be 4 minutes. The other had to wait 7 minutes, but they were told it would be there in 7 minutes. Turns out, the 7 minutes group was less anxious than the 4 minute group bc the 4 minute group didn't know how long it would take.

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Feb 6, 2019

No offense taken and thanks for sharing your opinion. I know exactly what bothers me in this job and there is nothing I can do about it. Since yesterday I started talking to my coworkers and some of them are actually nice people. I've noticed the work became slightly bearable. Only slightly. I still want to hang myself most of the time. Unless you have once worked in a call center environment (which I am doing now) , there's no way you can understand how bad is the work. September might not be that far off, but spend your day talking to wealthy old people who think you're stupid because you have an accent and English isn't your first language, then you would understand me better.

Feb 8, 2019

Unless you know for sure that things are more favorable for you at the end of this process, I would quit. Its one thing to tough out a situation, but if you feel you are at a point where nothing can motivate you on the job you won't make it to September, you could very much get fired or even create a negative entry into the next role/rotation. You always want your brand to be as strong as possible, especially internally. If you can't find another role or quit then you need to find a hobby that will have you looking forward to something at the end of everyday. I know that I like to exercise, maybe doing something like that during lunch or at the end of the work day would be a great way to raise your spirits/distract you.

Either way, whatever you decide I hope it works out for you. Its hard because it never feels like there is a right answer until you have hindsight bias.

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Feb 9, 2019

Been in the same boat bruh (roughly same industry by the looks of it). Two ways it could go:
1) grit your teeth, stick it out and collect the pay check; or
2) resign early, unwind and enjoy your time off without worrying about money.
Do whatever you prioritise more without ruining your brand, just make sure when you start your new job you're on from day one, no fucking around.

Feb 11, 2019

Sorry bro, same. Start studying stuff that would aid in your career. I am doing SQL classes

Feb 11, 2019

Ran into the same situation this year

Usually I fuck around on WSO, much as we all might

I also replay scenes from Frasier in my head while I work. Sometimes I say something to the folks around but everyone is so ghostly undead at my place we don't bother with fake greetings. I sometimes talk like the characters if I see someone I haven't spoken to much (example: one fellow in trade thinks I speak like Gil Chesterton and am secretly a finicky food critic beyond the cube

Sounds like a smart coping mevch

Mar 29, 2019

Thanks everyone for your answers and advice.

I ended up resigning as new job agreed to let me start earlier. Today was actually my last day at work. Will be working in Commercial Banking as account manager at one of the big 5 in Canada. There isn't much information on Commercial Banking here, specially Commercial Banking in Canada. Some people think it's retail which is wrong. I'll try to post more on the subject as I gain experience.

Apr 8, 2019

Was about to drop an advice but seeing that you already filed your resignation and the new job lined up will start ahead of September, just want to say good luck! Hope that it won't be as bad as the previous one, and that you'll learn more as you work on your career.

Apr 8, 2019

Oof, didn't notice until I replied that this post was made in February, anyway, still hoping for the best for you!

Apr 7, 2019
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