Is Anyone Having a Good Time?

I never write anything down and I barely use social media, but today I felt the need to post on this site, because I have a good feeling people may relate.

I've been at this IB gig since the summer of 2017, and have been doing WFH since March 2020. Not gonna lie, I have loved every second of it - until recently. 

It's getting more and more difficult to wake up and feel motivated to do my job.

Why? The people are toxic, passive agressive, out-of-touch, and just plain rude. I'd say I have developed a pretty thick skin, but everyone has a limit and there's a line.

There's no respect for people's time and personal life. I've been feeling extremely jaded and dissatisfied with life. I could say I'm doing well professionally and financially... but I think I may have missed the class on how to achieve happinness.

It's 3am on a Thursday and you ask yourself: "What the hell am I doing?". At least when we were at the office you could shoot the sh1t with the other analysts / some associates. You can't even do that anymore. 

COVID-19 has made me realized a couple of things: 1) Family is vital, I need to spend more time with them, 2) I need to make more friends in NYC, haven't made any new ones (besides work) after ~3 yrs, 3) I need to normalize preserving / boosting my mental health, that will help me clear my mind and find my true passion in life.

So my question is: is anyone having a good time? Because I'm not, but I'll give it another shot.


P.S. Sorry for the long post, I needed to vent.

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Comments (20)

  • Analyst 2 in IB - Ind
Mar 19, 2021 - 7:22pm

Not really and it is hard because we are super lucky to have this job but there are lots of small fixes that could be made to make life so much better and it doesn't happen. Of course we're going to get blasted for any complaint, but the boos are 100% coming from the cheap seats/people who couldn't hack it. I'm trying to take care of myself, look out for the analysts below me, and remember that this too shall pass.

Mar 20, 2021 - 10:40am

If you're not having a good time... it's good that you've recognized that you're not here for a long time... as the song goes. 

I wasn't having a good time but put my foot down and left to a place that sure was it a bit of a pay cut absolutely. Am I 1000x happier now because I've gained back a substantial portion of my day and can sleep 7-8 hours daily absolutely. 

Not meaning to make this is a gloating party about me, merely important to add to your findings that YOU are in CONTROL. You've been doing this thing for a while you have options on options on options to change YOUR situation. Go out and find something better if this is no longer working for you - so you can have a good time... because the sun can't shine everyday...

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Mar 22, 2021 - 3:18pm

Hi, if you're under 30 I'd recommend joining some erasmus facebook groups or something of the sort. Go to a couple of house parties and mingle. You'll be making a couple of friends in no time. For me, having healthy friendships is so freaking important.

Mar 22, 2021 - 9:23pm

Go for a long run during the day cut out of an hour or a workout. Nobody will notice if your wfh trust me! In the grand scheme of things its not a big deal. I see too many juniors worried about being online every second of the day and night.

Mar 22, 2021 - 10:00pm

The good news is that it's pretty easy for someone with IB experience to jump to pretty much any $$$ job easily. Find a cushy Series C+ startup to work at.

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Mar 23, 2021 - 4:18pm

I'm with you on the overall sentiment of things. While not in IB, I spent most of my 20s intensely pursuing a career in medicine then switching to finance to take over my parent's businesses (I'm now a CPA). I'm now 31 so I spent the past 12 years buried in books and work, most of which I didn't enjoy. This was the time when I was going to take my foot off the gas and start enjoying life but seeing what's happened with the world since COVID, I feel the need to work even harder, keep putting things off, and make more money. That isn't exactly the correct perspective, however, and at some point you run out of life and can't put things off much longer.

The data indicates that the lockdowns created tremendous psychological damage across all age groups and demographics and I think many are just feeling stressed, burned out, and sick of everything so you're not alone. The things you've come to realize are similar to what I realized and that's a great place to start since you know what needs to work on to get you towards a better place outside the financial realm. 

Mar 23, 2021 - 9:59pm

Making friends is tough

On the one hans, time for hobbies is hard to come by

On the other, the only place to meet friends and spend time is at the office but you're not going in to meet people

Overall I hate wfh. Yeah it's cool to wake up in your pyjamas, but at least when I was going in the office I had something to do, I felt like what I was doing was important, and I got to know people in person

Wfh just lacks all of that dynamic

Mar 23, 2021 - 10:46pm
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