Is it appropriate to ask someone out for coffee during weekend?

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Hi everyone, asking someone out for coffee is kind of alien to me so I'm looking forward to your advice!

I've been thinking to ask some connects (analyst/associate) on the street out for coffee this weekend, aiming to consolidate the connection for future full-time positions. My college is in a 3-tier mid west city and there is always a shit load of coursework each week, so this weekend is an unusual opportunity which I'd like to make the most of. Does it seem OK to ask someone out during weekend or will I come across brash? What else should I pay special attention to ?

Another thing I'm deeply worried about is, I haven't had internship lined up this summer but I'm networking for full-time opportunities next year. I interviewed with this bank last fall but didn't make the cut. What should I say if the connect asks me about my internship plan or interview with his bank? Will he get pissed or disappointed? Networking with someone in the flesh is so nerve wrecking.

Thank you all for the suggestion!

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Comments (10)

Mar 15, 2019

My view is no, it's generally not a good idea. You're already asking me for a favor, don't then also try to infringe upon my weekend time because weekdays are inconvenient for you. Plus, you're giving next to no notice if you're asking about this weekend.

Mar 15, 2019

Agreed. And I also think the whole idea of "coffee chats" is stupid... it's obvious all you want is an internship and don't care about the other person's story, so why waste their time?

Mar 15, 2019

Hey thanks a lot! But what if that person is almost a friend? Does it make a bit difference ?

Mar 15, 2019

I feel like you're overstating with the word "friend" but if they're actually a friend you could get a beer with them or something. But again, needs to be an actual friend or quite close to it.

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Mar 15, 2019

Yes, of course that changes things... why do you need advice on how to ask a friend to meet for coffee??

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Mar 15, 2019

Echoing the "no" to weekend coffee chats or even calls. Even suggesting it as an option makes the person seem kind of tone-deaf, so I would definitely not recommend bringing it up.

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Mar 15, 2019

Thanks!

Mar 15, 2019

Absolutely not. The last thing a banker wants to do on the weekend is network with a prospective candidate.