TLDR: Super rich gf, want to be a "sugar baby" (of sorts, still work a super chill job), afraid of giving up financial independence and current career track.
My current GF (that I truly love) of 3 years and soon to be fiancé (sometime this year) is worth about $9M. I work pretty long hours and it really takes a toll on her. We've talked about me getting a more chill job but I am not yet at a point where I would feel comfortable doing this independently and don't want to have to rely on her. 29 y/o, ~$1M NW and seem to have a pretty promising career at my current job, so it'd be a lot to give up.
She has an army of advisors who will likely advise her to get me to sign a pre-nup (we've danced around the conversation), which I makes a lot of sense for her and I would agree to (some will say this is dumb, but it's my decision).
I dream of a more chill lifestyle and want to downshift, but I don't know how anyone could feel comfortable relying on their significant other to be their sugar momma. I also feel that this is destined to create a situation where she feels like I'm a freeloader and loses respect for me . Even if she doesn't think she would, I think it'd be natural - women are biologically programmed be attracted to providers, just as men are programmed to want to provide (if you think sexist do some research).
Anyone else on this thread a man that is supported financially by their wife/gf? How do you get comfortable with this? Do you ever fear of divorce leaving you miles behind the competition when you try to get back to a high earning position?
I know the next step is to simply have a conversation with her about it, but I wanted to see how this played out for others in a similar situation.
Sorry for the click bait title! :)