Thoughts on Sliding into DM’s?

Met a cute girl on campus who followed me on social media like 10 minutes later (kind of creepy but ok). I didn't have a chance to get her number or anything. What do you fellas think about different DM sliding techniques? Is it creepy or should I just wait and see if I run into her again?

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  • Intern in IB - Gen
Sep 11, 2020 - 1:16am

What's the likelihood you'll run into her again? Do you have any classes / clubs / mutual friends with her? Did you happen to run into her in a place and time where you and her regularly are because of some scheduled things that put you there at the same time as her?

Sep 11, 2020 - 1:19am

Unlikely I'll run into her again due to COVID unfortunately. I usually just meet girls at school clubs and while going out but this pandemic is making me change things up lol.

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Sep 11, 2020 - 2:19am

The longer you wait, the more awkward it'll be when you eventually message her. She'll have forgotten you. 

Make your move NOW. Take it from good old Chiggins. 

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Sep 12, 2020 - 8:29pm

Asking for her number over DM's, in my opinion, is stupid. You're essentially wasting your first message to ask her for another medium of communication over which you'd be delivering the exact same verbiage.  Also, that message sounds gay as shit. Fuck, even @Isaiah_53_5 has more game than that. 

Isaiah's advice is stupid... "Hey - good to see you - hope your day goes well" is not a question. How the fuck does one respond to that? 

I'd reccommend you look through her Instagram and ask a short, conside question about one of her recent posts that made her happy. Maybe she's with her dog, maybe she's on a vacation, maybe she's at a restaurant, whatever the case may be - say hey, nice talking to you the other day, and then make your move, young Dingo. 

Sep 11, 2020 - 9:42pm

Just say something to keep the conversation going. Like - 'hey - good to see you - hope your day goes well' or something random to keep her talking. If she keeps talking, she becomes involved and then putty in your hands. It goes down in the DM. 

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Sep 11, 2020 - 9:43pm

I'd recommend switching to text if possible off of FB, but you have to start there. I am not a huge fan of FB messenger.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

  • Intern in IB - Gen
Sep 11, 2020 - 10:26pm

Both of these are facts. If you text a girl one to two times a day for like a week she becomes invested just be the amount of time she's been in contact w you

Sep 12, 2020 - 1:24pm

Yeah - girls usually flip their shit. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Sep 12, 2020 - 11:34am

make an interesting public comment on a recent post of hers...don't refer to her being hot or attractive...don't appear "thirsty"...find something about her post that ties into her personality and make some kind of connection that could lead into a conversation...try to make your comment funny...and above all...be BRIEF (brevity is key)

then wait until she posts again and THEN slide into her DM

Sep 12, 2020 - 3:34pm

I could see liking one of her old posts, but commenting on one of her old posts is a really bold move. I probably wouldn't recommend it unless you already have her in the bag. Otherwise, you're demonstrating way too much interest. 

I'd say it'd be way better to watch her stories, and then just see if you can slide up on any of them and make a convo. 

  • Intern in 
Sep 12, 2020 - 7:29pm

I am a girl and honestly, I think you should just message her. You can ask how she's doing with school going remote or what courses she's doing etc. Perfectly normal. So much to talk about. Please don't listen to the dude who told you to comment on her old pictures. It's creepy and weird. I am a senior in college and I really appreciate initiative and straightforwardness (is that a real word lol). Like if you like me, at least let me know, for starters (obviously in a non creepy, respectful way). No longer in high school where people would look out for signs from girls/ boys that they liked ( "he smiled at me today" "she added me on IG. Must mean that she likes me too"). . Every time I've liked someone, I've at least made the effort to talk to them unless they seemed like total assholes or playboys 

Sep 13, 2020 - 12:49am

omg...i said, comment on a RECENT post...like, if a girl posts something interesting/funny within the last few days /  week, i think that's RECENT and fair game to post a funny (yet brief) public comment.  Not "thirsty"....but FUNNY.  She will read your comment and probably smile...maybe look at your profile (unless she has thousands of active followers).

then when she posts again, (so you know she uses the app) send her a DM that has a questio relating to what she posted.

i have 30k followers, and get lots of comments on my posts, but i still appreciate the funny ones...and will engage in DM convos that are interesting.

i'll get hundreds of comments to my profile on any given day that i post (thousands for posts that go viral..which is always a kick)...i try to read most of them (the attention is an ego boost)....but i get far fewer DMs (tho, i'm not a hot girl...people try to talk to me about work related stuff).  The attentio is addictive...i'm sure thats just a human thing...so, make the human girl laugh / smile / be curious, and then shoot your shot.

depending on how many followers a girl had would determine how interesting your comment will need to be.  if she has less athan a few hundred followers, you probably don't need to be super creative.  If she has 100k followers and all her posts gets hundreds of comments, then it will be unlikely that she ever even reads your comment / DM.

Sep 13, 2020 - 8:30pm

Pick a conversation topic, ask her an engaging question about it. Example: Hey, how was class, blabla then bring up how much you binge watched tv shows. then she'll talk about tv shows, try to bring the tv show back to your life: ex: joffrey from GOT is a dick, you can joke that you get like him when hangry, etc, etc

Watch The Joe Rogan podcast, and look at his style of keeping the conversation going. The idea behind getting a girl is to keep the convo interesting while getting to know her, and showing interest. Try to chat a bit and then arrange a meeting over drinks, etc.

If I could go back in time, I would tell myself techniques are stupid. Just use common sense, become a good conversationalist and be well-read.

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