Today is my Birthday

Wow. I had so many friends in high school. Major jock. sports captain. Got into a semi-target from a title I hs. Hs friends ended up dead, in jail, or bagging groceries. Didnt know how to make friends in college. Made it out with a few. Onei remembered my birthday. No one else has. I had to severely hint it and my brother and mom remembered. One year out of college and I have nothing to show for it. Don't get a 3.0 gpa. It won't do shit.

Can I even make something of myself at point. I don't even know what I want. I thought I would have my life figured out by 24. Doesn't look like it is going to happen

No friends. Shitty job (math teacher) Sick mother. Handicap brother who depends on me. And in love with a girl who doesn't even know I exist.

Now what?

 

Troll?

Even if not, why are you posting about your self pity on an online forum if you could be getting your life in order as we speak?

IMHO, you are a little wimp. I myself had to fight uphill and my situation was way worse than yours. So get your lazy ass up and do something with your life. If you keep on whining, nothing will ever change. If you get up, you can still achieve something with your life and not throw it away like your former "friends."

 
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My, how the mighty have fallen. Go back and think about every person you've ever stepped on for the sake of being young and arrogant, because at this moment....you are that person. Ok, I'm done kicking you while down, now use this insight into making yourself into a much better person than the one you used to think was so cool.

Now get it together. I've very open about having shit credentials and landing a decent job to make the point that anyone can change course, and that anyone can find what they're really looking for. You need to think about what you want, and then pick something and go for it.

Dump the bitch, she's a waste of your time, you'll find another....a BETTER one who actually will make you happy. Start looking for another job. TODAY DAMMIT. Get professional help to figure out a long term trajectory for dealing with family.....trust me, you're not the only one with a bad situation, but you have to decide not to let it dominate you.

People have stupid theories and shitty attitudes when things are good, because they can afford to, but now you need to get real and deal with things like an adult.

YOU are in control of YOU, and now you need to start thinking long term.

Get busy living
 

UFO is spot on. It is time to stop living in the past & turn the page. The good news is you are still young at 24 yrs of age - you still have a lot to learn & experience. Develop a positive attitude & demeanor - this can make or break you when you meet key people for networking, interviews, etc. Way too early to give up...

All the world's indeed a stage, And we are merely players, Performers and portrayers, Each another's audience, Outside the gilded cage - Limelight (1981)
 

"Every great man I know has been through something."- Cris Carter

Keep your head up man, don't let this world change who you are. Go against the tide, things may look rough now but you are young. Your primary focus is figure out what core competency you want to develop and strive to get work in that field. You'll catch a break.

If you can't kill them with kindness, just kill them.
 
Rockinrobin:

I thought I would have my life figured out by 24. Doesn't look like it is going to happen

everyone's different and everyone figures out what is best for them / their 'life path' at different stages in life, don't stress it you're young, have your whole life ahead of you, be positive, work hard, you'll be fine
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You're 24? I thought you were younger and just having a teen meltdown. I've been in your shoes - everything you outlined is what I went through in the last 2 years, sometimes all at once. Tough cookies indeed. The worst thing for me was confronting myself about where I was in life: why hadn't I done the things I said I'd do, and why was my life the way it was?

After a mystical adventure (read: tripping on a powerful drug), I came upon a moment where my mind was preoccupied with nothing. Coming down from my high, I was half "there" and half "not there"; the things that were important to me stayed on my mind (career, close people, my own well-being), and everything that really wasn't (money, a certain bish, problems I can do nothing about) just couldn't find a way in to my head.

That sense of "clarity" has been a powerful tool for me. Whenever I'm having a bad moment, I simply remember that "it'll all get better eventually." Because truthfully speaking, EVERYTHING changes, whether you insinuate the change or not. Go to zerohedge.com and read their tag: "on a long enough timeline the survival rate for everyone drops to zero." Given that knowledge, how can you still find it in yourself to sit back and lament anything? The fact is that everything in your life is up to you, and you can change anything you want.

Some things are beyond our power - certain illnesses, the preferences of others, and especially the past. Don't dwell on the negative aspects of any of that. Impart the best of yourself unto everyone, especially the ill who are close to you. This will also help you deal with people who's preferences don't coincide with your own inclinations - including anyone whom you think your attraction to makes for a connection. It doesn't. If you can be your best all the time, you will "win" at life a lot more often. More importantly, you won't feel bad at all when you "lose" or are simply dealt a bad hand.

The last bit you should consider - the past - is beyond unchangeable. It is defining. You create the past with every moment, and you need to consider that even posting this topic is now a part of your past. You move further away from it with every passing moment. This leaves open many possibilities, but two that you should consider right now: that the things you want to forget will one day be far, far gone, no matter what, and that the positive change that is within your power to achieve has room to grow. It's in the future - it's up to you to put the positive change in your life into the "right now", and that will turn into a new past that defines you.

In short, Nike had it right the whole time: Just Do It. The sooner you do, the better things will be. Be the best person you can - be physically fit, be good to every person you come across, give your 100% to everything you do, be intelligent, study, improve yourself, help those around you, and most importantly: be happy, and be CONFIDENT. The secret of life, as I've discovered it to be, is that "you've got this." It's true for everyone, you just have to believe it.

TL;DR: Man up, grow up, get over it. We all have to, at some point. For a detailed description, read the above.

in it 2 win it
 
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This is with out a doubt one of the worst posts of all time.

Didn't think I'd have to read so far down the comments to find this astute observation.

People demand freedom of speech as a compensation for freedom of thought which they seldom use.
 

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