What do you do when you are told to do something you don't want to do

If your boss or someone you work with tells you to do something you don't really want to do (most times because you think its stupid or waste of time and redundant), what do you do? how do you deal with it? it just pisses me off these days..

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This reminds me of something my brother showed me the other day on a similar site for college students. This girl asked, essentially, what was a good comeback for when her boyfriend said things like, "go make me a sandwich." The best response by far was..."well, you better comeback with a goddamn sandwich."

Same situation here kid. If you don't like something(s) your boss asks you to do then you have probably figured out why he is called your boss and not your friend.

If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses - Henry Ford
 

If you have one boss, you have to do it.

If you have 25 bosses and 120 ways that you create value, you have license to chuckle a little and say no when one of them asks you to do something that's stupid doesn't make any sense.

Spend two years doing whatever anyone senior to you tells you to do, develop a reputation for competence, and eventually, there will be a long line of people that need your help. At that point, you will get to choose your projects. You'll have to spend two years paying your dues to get there, though.

My take on it is this: the firm is paying you $X a year, and you want to make sure they get $Y>$X of value out of you for that money. Always saying "yes" within the constraints of your schedule is one way of making sure that the firm gets that. When you're working 90 hours/week, though, and everyone wants your help, you get the right to say "no" to the less intelligent ideas that get thrown out there, because there's a project that can make the firm more money.

 
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RatatouilleThanks. This is the situation: I am in a client facing role and my boss just keeps telling me to send/make stupid things to our clients which is not what they want. I try to tell him and he says just do it. So i do it, but i get pissed because 1)its's stupid and 2)i look stupid cause i send it
Who owns the relationship with the client? Do the clients think they do business with you or with someone else at the firm? How long have you been in the industry and how long have you had this job? If you're a VP and your MD is telling you to mail stuff out, that's one thing. If you're a relatively new analyst and your VP/Assoc. is telling you to mail stuff out, that's different.

I think there is a story a few years ago about how some recently-hired-from-another-firm sales guy was asked to call up his clients and pump these CDOs that the firm wanted to unload. He was a VP, but would preface every phone call with, "Hi John. I'm calling you because they making me call you about this." He owned the relationship with the client, so he had license to do stuff like that.

Otherwise, as an analyst, you tell your associate, "Hey, I might have heard wrong, but they might have told us a few times that they didn't want these notes. Just wanted to make sure that these guys should be on the list of recipients." This is your way of giving your boss all the information he needs and very subtly asking him to double-check his thinking on it and letting him save face if he made a mistake. (Best if done quiet enough so it's hard for other people to hear but not so quiet it's obvious to him that you're TRYING to help him save face).

It's a little easier if you're a quant or a technology guy. Over here, things are usually right or they're not. But if you have a very good reason to think your boss shouldn't be sending something, you need to start asking lots of questions. This also only works if you haven't argued with him before about the issue.

 

Yes I'm pretty new (analayst level). Ok I talked to him and he said just do it, wouldn't hear me out. Says if there is a problem people will tell him. Whatever, not my problem then... I'm just a #@f monkey

 
RatatouilleYes I'm pretty new (analayst level). Ok I talked to him and he said just do it, wouldn't hear me out. Says if there is a problem people will tell him. Whatever, not my problem then... I'm just a #@f monkey
Exactly. And when he comes to his senses- if you really were right- he'll probably give you more autonomy with some of the clients and listen to you more. In the meantime, try to do what he says without too much back-and-forth.
 
IlliniProgrammer Ratatouille:

Yes I'm pretty new (analayst level). Ok I talked to him and he said just do it, wouldn't hear me out. Says if there is a problem people will tell him. Whatever, not my problem then... I'm just a #@f monkey

Exactly. And when he comes to his senses- if you really were right- he'll probably give you more autonomy with some of the clients and listen to you more. In the meantime, try to do what he says without too much back-and-forth.

Those clients are his not yours, do whatever he wants. If you think he is handling them wrong, watch and see what happens and if you are right dont make the mistake with your own clients when you get them down the road. Your job is not to manage these relationships.

 

I agree with with Illini to a certain extent, but oftentimes people do not recognize the value you create for them. Especially in a non-quant role. So I would say that when you can, try to advertise your value in subtle ways so that you can earn the right to say no.

 

I feel your pain man, my boss asks me to do some retarded ass shit. Sometimes I do it, sometimes I don't. Today he tried to tell me that I should go around asking the marketing teams I support if they have any projects that need finance review. Fuck that, they know they're supposed to run that shit past us. I'm not there to make sure that other people do their job. He tries to make me do intern type shit, I swear after I leave this job if I see him in the street I'm going to rock this mutherfucker right in his grill.

 

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