Where do you meet girls?

For all those that are busy and dont have time to go out, where do you meet girls? I hardly ever time to go out and my logistics are also bad for going out so I have been cold approaching girls a lot during the day.

I used to think the night club was the only decent place to meet girls but now I feel that the best time and place is during the day hitting on girls that work on the makeup counter in department stores. These girls are ridiculously hot.

How many of you do cold approach? And where do you do cold approach?

 
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Tinder. I love Tinder. I had so many fun times from Tinder. I wrote a blog about Tinder. I sold drugs through Tinder. I met my wife on Tinder. I am the American Dream.

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rule of thumb: don't hit on a chic trying to sell something to you (whether that is the bartender, a realtor, or that chic selling makeup), if they are hot they are generally used to being hit on at work and tend to only respond favorably b/c they want you to buy their shit. In fact, avoid hitting on any chic while she is at work. You'll have much more luck just out and about (at the grocery store or some shit), or speaking to that chic that gets on the elevator around the same time as you do on the way to your apartment, or at a social event (mixer, concert w/e).

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Postgradwonderer:

Trader Joes

Oh that's a good one. Nobody goes there in a rush and poor people avoid it too, it seems. Workers are awkwardly friendly though.
heister: Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad. https://arthuxtable.com/
 

My best past success has been volunteer events. There's usually a very favorable ratio as girls usually outnumber guys by A LOT. Also the girls who usually go to these are pretty cool and down-to-earth (i.e. not the high-maintenance/high-attitude type). Lastly, the events can actually quite fun so you'll be meeting people in an enjoyable setting.

Usually events that have something to do with: helping the environment, animal welfare, or children (e.g. tutoring underprivileged kids) get the best turn-out in my experience. Try searching Meet-Up for different volunteer groups/events.

 

I feel like I've gotten way more attractive to girls since I've had kids. Like if I'm out at the park with my daughter and my wife's not with us I almost always end up chatting up a couple ladies. It's a bit like having a dog, but way better. It's hit or miss whether they are single but ya know... numbers game. Pretty sure at least half of them would take some Easy D.

Also hotel lobby bars on business trips - there always seems to be a crop of hornball middle aged women hovering around, if that's your thing.

 

Ha! I cold approached a girl at the makeup department too and it was gold!

I do the cold approach, but only when the "instinct" takes over. When you see the chick and you. just. have. to. say. something!

I met a girl in line at a fast casual restaurant in the financial district of my city. My friend nodded in her direction, absolutely stunning blonde. Easily the most beautiful girl I've ever seen in real life. I walked over to her and said "excuse me?" She looked kind of creeped out at first and said "What?" in a half annoyed/half weirded out voice. I said "can you tell me why there is such a long line for this place?"

She instantly smiled and said "because it's just the best!" and I was in. Maybe 2 minutes of BS chit-chat later I had her contact info and I was gold.

I've tried this lots of times, but interestingly only when the girl is so attractive that I can't help myself (4 times) has it really worked.

I think the key is to just ask them a normal fucking question.

 

I think it's just something primal, like your genes know she the two of you would produce healthy offspring or something.

Or maybe complete smokeshow girls rarely get approached by guys who aren't complete fucking jerk offs so the bar is insultingly low.

 

This is surprisingly great advice -- my rule of thumb I try to live up to (it's tough...) is the 3-second rule: I don't give myself more than 3 seconds after I see the girl to approach and say hi. Your approach was pretty fantastic, great way to break the ice and start a conversation, and obviously it worked well.

I find my only issue is I need to be around hotter women, right now my game is plentiful but they're not the most attractive, probably a 6 or 7 at most.

"I did it for me...I liked it...I was good at it. And I was really... I was alive."
 

That's probably a great rule of thumb.

LOL @ my approach being fantastic. It was the first thing that popped into my mind, I just knew I had to say SOMETHING.

Two more examples:

The first: I was at Shoppers Drug Mart (Canadian Walgreens) and this gorgeous Asian girl was looking at the magazine's and I froze and thought " I HAVE TO TALK TO THIS GIRL!" So I walked up to her and said "Excuse me?" and she gave me a really shitty, disturbed look... and I continued, "I know you don't work here, but do you know where the contact lens fluid is?"

She smiled and I think almost rolled her eyes, but then she looked up in the direction of the sign that said "eye care" and pointed. I laughed and said "Well at least one of us is thinking." and that got the ball rolling.

The second: Again at a Shoppers Drug Mart (Canadian Walgreens) and the girl working behind the makeup counter was a total smokeshow. And I'm standing there thinking WTF can I say to a girl working behind a makeup counter? So I looked around and grabbed a bunch of products that supposedly remove the dark circles under your eyes (spoiler alert: they don't) from now sleeping. So I walked up to her and, again, said "Excuse me? (Maybe that's the key?@!?!?!?!?!)" and she narrowed her eyes and just said "What?" very aggressively. So I held out hands full of rebranded, ridiculously overpriced sunscreen and said "Can you tell me which one of these I want?"

She chuckled and said "Yes I think I can help you out." and that got the ball rolling.

I try and use the "Regret Test." If I see a hot girl, I ask myself "If I don't try, will I regret it?" And if I think I'll regret it I'll do my best to pursue... But some times I still bitch out or fail to close.

Honestly, I think Hollywood and a bunch of random douchebags have set the bar so low that if you can look a pretty girl in the eye and ask her a question like a she's a real fucking person, you've got a shot.

 

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