Why did my parents not allow me to attend college of my dreams?
Does that mean they don't love me?
They were rich enough, so I did not get any financial aid.
I also got a scholarship to a very good state school, but they did not allow that, either. Because they wanted me to live at home. So they forced me to attend the local third-tier state school and live at home.
Why?
STFU and stop whining pussy
You should have been smart enough to get that full ride to Harvard. Don't blame them, blame yourself.
Besides, UVA is pretty good.
To be fair, spending 2x the money for a "private university" (more akin to a hedge fund masquerading as a learning institution) isn't always the smarter choice. Take the money (or ask them for it) and invest it wisely. Sometimes I wish I went to the state school instead of an "ivy". Really not that different, aside from a few connections.
I wanted to attend a good state school, and received a scholarship. however, they did not allow me that one as well. Instead they forced me to attend a third-tier state school BECAUSE THEY WANTED ME TO LIVE AT HOME.
Now its all too late. I have a job and like my life.
But I still have a lingering question and grudge. I can't really get over it... If I have a son who got into a top college I would do anything to help him live his dreams.
harvardprofessor any tips on breaking into a HF or PE coming from a non-target? thanks
You do realize you didn't HAVE to do what they wanted?
Keep in mind that you could have said no and taken out loans to attend Harvard. If the acceptance deadline has not passed understand this is still an option. Also understand that debt sucks.
In this case "obeying" your parents can be difficult and may create a grudge. Imo, look at the costs of Harvard, go if you want, but understand it is their money, not yours. You have the option of loans. You are free to do what you want. If you do well, you can apply to scholarships and may get financial assistance. Don't take the easy route because it's easy and comfortable.
Also, this is a conversation you should have with your parents. If you find it difficult to bring up in person leave a note, or notes until you can have a discussion.
The school is important, but more important is how hard you work, how you apply yourself, and the decisions you make. I hope this helps. Best of luck. I vote for "rebelling" and going to Harvard. Make the most of life.
(With this said, I agree with the previous comment, I too wish I went to a public UC and saved some money. Given the future value of money, it can make a huge difference. Now I'm literally paying for it)
This was years ago. I graduated from college. I wanted to attend a very good state school, and received a scholarship, but they did not allow that, either.
Agree with Plotnus - take out loans and go to Harvard. This is a once-in-a-lifetime oppurtunity and the H-bomb will greatly impact your future prospects even if the education may be overrated.
I'm assuming you are hoping to break into investment banking or any other lucrative finance path - the debt will not be too much of a burden.
Have you asked them?
It depends on the "state school" that you're going to attend...
If you're going to UVA, UC Berkeley, UMich, etc, you'll be fine. It won't be worth the $200k debt to end up in the same industry
They probably understood you wouldn't survive, still breastfeeding and all, so they didn't want you too far away.
How about you ask them instead of a bunch of anonymous strangers? Also you're a pussy
This can't be real
Outside of money and assuming you're in the right on this, your parents could be too controlling and they don't trust you on your own. My dad hated the idea of me leaving my home state to go to the east coast and it took a year of in-state and transfer applications to get me out.
I graduated and work now.
But it messed up my 20's. I had to work as a lab tech, then secretary. By luck and hard work, I now work at a hedge fund investing in pharma companies.
But I lost my 20s. I did not have any college experience.
Why did they force me to stay home, when I was clearly so depressed at home?
wtf - I thought you were in state school at the moment and living with your parents outside of Charlottesville, lol.
((mind blown))
First of all, how did going to a state school make you become a lab tech and a secretary? You didn't 'lose' your college experience. If you wanted to party all weekend, crash on a friend's couch. Its Charlottesville...
No one can 'force' you to do anything except Johnny law... If you were depressed at home, you could have transferred junior year or something. You are responsible for your path. If they said they wouldn't pay, take out a 2 year loan. Its better than 4, especially if you get that Ivy degree.
Obviously you're smart, got into Harvard or something, ended up going to state school then was depressed about the whole situation and your parents that your academic performance began to falter and you neglected to either maintain focus or apply yourself towards the end of your college years and schlepped a few years until finding your path and achieving your potential.
But, I think it was you who was the laggard in meeting your potential. You can't blame other people. Don't look back on it as such a negative. Think of the kids in the ghetto who only have one parent, or no money for school. They are the ones scarred by financial poverty as well as daily life. No dude, you had it made. You had food and shelter and an education and you are successful. Your parents were there for you and cared for you and you did it. There is nothing to regret. You're in freaking America. 'murica.
I hope this isn't real
It is definitely odd.
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