Why do we care so much about other peoples opinions

I get it, social pressure jada jada 

but can we not care? at least not what a complete stranger thinks of us? I get that we should care what our family and close friends think of us, or should we? 

being dating (on tinder) the past few weeks I have noticed the less shit I give about what my date thinks about me, the higher the chances are I get to get my Johnson wet the same night

is it because I am way more cool that way or is it because I just exude confidence out of my pores when I don't care

but then I think about my diet and training and I realise that I actually do care about what other people think. but do I actually care about what they think about my body or do I only care about them noticing how good I look (when im shredded, or approaching my ultimate shreddedness)

don't know 

what do you think? (don't care tbh btw, but still interested)

WSO Elite Modeling Package

  • 6 courses to mastery: Excel, Financial Statement, LBO, M&A, Valuation and DCF
  • Elite instructors from top BB investment banks and private equity megafunds
  • Includes Company DB + Video Library Access (1 year)

Comments (7)

Sep 15, 2021 - 12:42am

GoLiftSomeWeightsBro

I get it, social pressure jada jada 

but can we not care? at least not what a complete stranger thinks of us? I get that we should care what our family and close friends think of us, or should we? 

being dating (on tinder) the past few weeks I have noticed the less shit I give about what my date thinks about me, the higher the chances are I get to get my Johnson wet the same night

is it because I am way more cool that way or is it because I just exude confidence out of my pores when I don't care

but then I think about my diet and training and I realise that I actually do care about what other people think. but do I actually care about what they think about my body or do I only care about them noticing how good I look (when im shredded, or approaching my ultimate shreddedness)

don't know 

what do you think? (don't care tbh btw, but still interested)

I only care if it related to me going against my values apart from that I do not give a monkeys.

SafariJoe, wins again!
Most Helpful
  • Intern in IB - Gen
Sep 15, 2021 - 11:04pm

This all over the place, I just wrote my stream of consciousness. 

In my experience- the more I'm doing things to better myself, especially when I'm doing them for myself, the less I care about what others think. Of course when you're getting shredded you're thinking how good you look and how easy it'll be now to wheel that hot broad at the beach. But you should also be feeling how much better your body feels, how much you've leveled up from a physical standpoint compared to your past self, how much healthier and better looking your body is in general.

When you achieve a certain level of success, you also stop caring about what others think. If you're shredded, do you really care if some fatty scoffs at you and says that how you're living your life is wrong? No. If you're rich do you care if someone says you should be doing xyz instead? No. 

Actually the above made me think of this- when we're not aligned with our true selves, pursuing our true desires, we care about what others think of us. I think that's actually the best way to think about it. Think about a ski bum or a guy who just surfs every day in cali. There's guys on wso who would say that guys a loser bc he didn't go to HYP => IB, he's never going to be able to afford a nice house, etc. But that guy wouldn't give a shit, he's living the dream in his eyes. He's doing exactly what he wants to do each day and feels fulfilled.

At the end of the day, there's always going to be someone who doesn't agree with you so you might as well do what makes you happy. 

On the girls front: I truly think it's easiest to pull when you're just focused on having a good time. Sure you can't be a p*ssy and have to close when the time comes, but if you're just focused on dancing and laughing and being an idiot, then at the end of the night you'll have had a good night no matter what and I feel like I close in most of those situations compared to the nights when I'm focused on closing.  

Sep 16, 2021 - 10:36am

Caring about what other people think has always been an issue but now it is magnified by the constant use of social media.  Facebook is guilty of making this worse but other forms of social media magnify these issues as well, including WSO. I am sure they are some people here who are concerned about MS and silver bananas. No one is completely immune to it. How you manage it is the key.  For me, I start with the mind set that I do not know anyone personally on this site, so why would I care about what someone thinks. Also, someone trashing me verbally on WSO is not going to affect my life. People who trash others are doing it out of insecurities, at least that is the the way that I think about it. 

In general, If I think criticism is justified, I might try to learn from it.  If I think criticism is not justified, I just file it under you are a fucking insecure moron category.  

  • 4
  • 1
Sep 16, 2021 - 11:06am

Haha.  He seems to have herd immunity from the affects of MS.

  • 2
Learn More

300+ video lessons across 6 modeling courses taught by elite practitioners at the top investment banks and private equity funds -- Excel Modeling -- Financial Statement Modeling -- M&A Modeling -- LBO Modeling -- DCF and Valuation Modeling -- ALL INCLUDED + 2 Huge Bonuses.

Learn more
Sep 17, 2021 - 2:20pm

Est iusto dolore est delectus vel. Quo rem aut ea autem itaque autem aspernatur aspernatur.

Nisi ut veniam velit mollitia tenetur. Aut recusandae iusto quaerat in sit est aut suscipit.

Start Discussion

Popular Content See all

Investment Banking is Paradise
+287IBby Partner in PE - LBOs
Public banging
+186OFFby Intern in PE - LBOs
Oncycle is a fucking joke
+176PEby Analyst 2 in IB - Cov
MD’s Daughter/Son has student loans?
+127REby Analyst 1 in RE - Comm
How often do you get "matches" on apps?
+116OFFby Associate 1 in AM - Other
Dating smart girls
+113OFFby Analyst 2 in Consulting
Who manages your money?
+96INVby TechnoPanther
I want to quit already…
+94IBby Analyst 1 in IB - Cov

Total Avg Compensation

September 2021 Investment Banking

  • Director/MD (10) $853
  • Vice President (38) $367
  • Associates (218) $232
  • 2nd Year Analyst (132) $153
  • 3rd+ Year Analyst (30) $147
  • Intern/Summer Associate (102) $144
  • 1st Year Analyst (483) $135
  • Intern/Summer Analyst (375) $82