If you read my first post, you'll know that I attract (or, if you don't believe me, think I attract) a lot of women, and that it can be a problem in the workplace. I have more personal anecdotes since moving to a new company (history repeats itself, big time) and I'll share a few of them because they are relevant to the discussion at hand.
First, The Senior Vice President (SVP) From Out of Town:
The division I worked in was recently restructured, and they brought in a bunch of higher ups including an SVP from around the country for a week long event to rally the troops. The whole team heads to the bar Thursday for happy hour, and the RVP clearly enjoys her scotch. The more she drinks, the louder she gets, and the closer she gets to me while speaking. Near the end of happy hour, she informs me that "I'm from out of town, it's your responsibility to show me a good time - we've got corporate sponsorship."
I assume she's talking about the entire group, so I agree... but a few minutes later I find out the rest of the team is going home. I tell her this, but she is adamant that I take her out.
Now for the record, this woman is a smokeshow - about 5-7 years older than me, but also an aerobics instructor and a former actress. Under normal circumstances I would rail the living daylights out of her, but obviously these aren't normal circumstances
I try to resist and hang out near the group, but she starts pulling on my arm and suit jacket! All of the guys notice this and I turn bright red. Eventually she stops and says "you're being weird" and goes on her merry way. The rest of the night (and for the next 3 months) everyone calls me Kavorka (Seinfeld reference). I actually wanted to transfer to her division, but surprise surprise, my application was rejected for reasons unknown....
if a man had been all over a younger subordinate, not only would his behaviour have been condemned, he would have been fired and quite possibly brought up on sexual harassment charges. What do you have to say about this, So @glicb27?
The Good Looking Blonde (GLB) Manager:
I meet the GLB on my first day, and there is instant sexual chemistry. She manages the business development team, and is a dancer and fitness instructor. Upon introduction, the first thing she says to me is "Wow Surferdude867, you look just like very attractive and very powerful executive XYZ" and then walks away. Who said girls were subtle? She touches my arm whenever we talk, she constantly lingers by my desk, and laughs and giggles at jokes I make that are NOT funny.
I actually think there is potential here, but when she comes on to me at the Xmas party, her boyfriend shows up!!! I don't grind up on other guy's girls, so I say goodbye and resolve to stay away from her. Things get incredibly awkward at the office, and she starts to make my life uncomfortable. I won't go into detail, but I had similar experiences with 2 other women in the office, and I start to think of ways to deal with it...
So I go to HR. @XSX82, what do you think happens now? Does HR listen to what I have to say, take my concerns seriously, and potentially step in to act as an intermediary? Hardly. I'm dismissed without a second thought.
In college I once got blackout drunk and woke up having sex with what may as well have been a ditch pig, and then I went in and out of consciousness for the rest of the night. I was in no condition to give consent and according to the law, that's rape, no two ways about it. Now obviously I did the honorable thing: do the walk of shame home, puke my guts out for the next 12 hours, and let all of my friends know so they could make fun of me for the next 2 weeks. However, if I had gone to campus police, I would have been laughed out of their office.
How is it appropriate for a female colleague to come onto me at the company Christmas party? What if the situation has been reversed? I would be tried, convicted, and executed in the court of public opinion at the speed of social media
You're a girl, you get to invent new words like "mansplaining," which are undeniably sexist, and society supports you. I see girls manipulate there way out of situations all the time, is it OK if I call it Womanipulation?
I left my most recent job because they promoted two women who were not even REMOTELY qualified into VP positions over two men who had earned their stripes. Why did the company promote them? "We want more women in leadership!" Why? "Because diversity!" The department turned to complete shit almost overnight.
Honestly, I used to believe that "men dominated the finance industry" as you so eloquently put it because of sexist reasons. Now I think men dominate all industries because they are willing to put aside petty personal bullshit for the greater good, while women can't/won't. Girls seem to think that their personal feelings are the most important thing in the world, and that their feelings should be everyone's primary concern (cue Louis CK Rape Joke Clip - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jc7zzkX0xs4).
I've said it before, and I'll say it again: these third wave feminists are either absolutely brilliant or absolutely braindead. Their new "movement" is either a brilliant ploy to obtain more power with less responsibility, or a bunch of morons shouting nonsense at one another.
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