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I recently started a banking job in NYC and don't know anyone in the city. Where do you meet single girls? Where have you had success picking up chicks? I don't want to waste time in random bars.

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  • breakinginnew's picture

    listen to LSO and go to 1Oak and buy bottles. (Kidding...honestly in my experience buying bottles doesn't get you laid. Instead it gets you tons of tablewhores who just drink a few $20s out of your bottle and leave)

    EDIT: forgot to add...I haven't bought bottles in NYC more than a few times

  • In reply to Hedge Monkey
    SAC's picture

    Hedge Monkey wrote:
    Why Wed and Thurs?

    After-work places are packed, especially during the summer, and its much easier to talk to girls than a weekend night. Plus its mostly city chicks either out with co-workers or their girlfriends, they don't have their guard up as much. Hit up El Rio Grande on a Thursday evening during the summer, or any of the rooftop spots, and you'll know what I'm talking about.

    Of course, getting out of the office even at 8-9pm on a Thursday is hard for I-Banking guys...so maybe you guys should take up some kind of class over the weekends where you can meet girls.

  • Felix Rohatyn's picture

    Agreed with AnthonyD, though I will say that the whole "I work in finance" bit resonates differently in different parts of the city. That said, this city is chock full of attractive 18-24 year old women with confidence issues, (primarily from the intense competition), so like, go for the gold.

    Maybe if you are still using your NY training wheels, scope out some of the bars in GVillage/East Village for that NYU tail (summer or otherwise).

  • In reply to midwestbanker5555
    breakinginnew's picture

    despite what most people on this forum might make you believe there are other reasons to spend money than to get laid...like high-end restaurants and other fun things that are expensive...alot of people get bottles with the idea that they will get laid; i was saying that you shouldn't do it for that reason and alot of people do it for reasons other than getting laid.

  • In reply to breakinginnew
    soitwouldseem's picture

    breakinginnew wrote:
    despite what most people on this forum might make you believe there are other reasons to spend money than to get laid...like high-end restaurants and other fun things that are expensive...alot of people get bottles with the idea that they will get laid; i was saying that you shouldn't do it for that reason and alot of people do it for reasons other than getting laid.

    that made no sense

  • weeds499's picture

    Def some good spots - avoid the typical meat markets, be confident and smile

    lots of girls in this city, but put some effort and you can prob find what you're looking for - figure out what area suits your personality (murray hill vs. east village vs. etc.)

    alternatively, if gaming/slaying chicks you meet in bars is not your thing (not for everyone), try volunteering or meeting through friends of freinds/house parties...friend of friends is automatic safe (read: less work involved)...volunteering - you can do some good and prob meet girls that you might have something in common with

    everyone seems to flock to jtree/dorians/gatsbys/phebes when they move into the city - bars are pretty douchey/silly but you'll quickly realize there are far better places to meet better/more attractive girls

  • In reply to midwestbanker5555
    Djalminha's picture

    midwestbanker5555 wrote:
    What's all the hype in dropping $500 on bottle service when you aren't any more likely to get laid?

    Because if you do she will be much hotter.

    Not saying it's something you want to do every night, but it's nice to be big time once in a while :)

    The astronaut line is a good one, I might try that. I've been going for Ukrainian pilot recently, hasn't been overly successful but great fun nonetheless.

  • TNA's picture

    I have an Omega Speedmaster which is NASA certified so it pretty much sealed the deal with the astronaut line. Honestly, just be funny and have fun and you will get plenty of girls. NYC is ridiculous. Shooting fish in a barrel. Find a very outgoing friend and go out with him. Whatever you do, do not roll with a shy crew.

  • In reply to midwestbanker5555
    pruf's picture

    midwestbanker5555 wrote:
    pruf wrote:
    Haha telling a woman you work in banking is terribly weak form...

    How can you be nonchalant about it?

    Nah I meant going around saying "hey babe, what's your name? Wanna get with a banker?" wouldn't be a good bet. Cosign that astronaut idea...but I guess if you've had success with exchanging names, hometowns, occupations, and hobbies and generally being boring, then stick with it.

  • D M's picture

    If you have game you can pick up a girl anywhere. If you don't, like me, you rely on friends-of-friend to introduce you to people. Never fails.

    "You stop being an asshole when it sucks to be you." -IlliniProgrammer
    "Your grammar made me wish I'd been aborted." -happypantsmcgee

  • In reply to weeds499
    Affirmative_Action_Walrus's picture

    weeds499 wrote:
    Def some good spots - avoid the typical meat markets, be confident and smile

    lots of girls in this city, but put some effort and you can prob find what you're looking for - figure out what area suits your personality (murray hill vs. east village vs. etc.)

    alternatively, if gaming/slaying chicks you meet in bars is not your thing (not for everyone), try volunteering or meeting through friends of freinds/house parties...friend of friends is automatic safe (read: less work involved)...volunteering - you can do some good and prob meet girls that you might have something in common with

    everyone seems to flock to jtree/dorians/gatsbys/phebes when they move into the city - bars are pretty douchey/silly but you'll quickly realize there are far better places to meet better/more attractive girls

    lol at Joshua Tree, this isn't 2006.
    i actually kind of like dorians
    NYU area bars suck b/c they are full of NYU girls
    If you want to pick up dumb slut college chicks on vacation go to brother jimmy's in murray hill
    metro 53 can be fun too

  • TNA's picture

    Jtree is where I dropped the astro line. True story, this really cute girl was obviously making moves on me and I started talked to her. She was a jr producer at Fox News. Pretty cool I thought. Then I saw that she was missing an index finger. Totally freaked me out. Made me hesitate and she eventually walked away. Kinda sad, I have never dated someone missing a finger . . .

  • Guest1655's picture

    I'm gonna have to steal that Astronaut line, Im kinda tired of telling chicks I masturbate race horses.

    Whatever you do, do not roll with a shy crew. back office/mid office material) and those nights tend to not be so great, but when I go out with my 'slayer' friends, those nights tend to be pretty awesome, girls always give me #s (delete em after since i have a gf) weak i know... single life in NYC is AWESOME.

  • dorsia reservations's picture

    Guest1655, you're either in high school still, or definitely have some self esteem issues. "Slayer friends"? I'll go with the former.

    "Back office/mid office material?" I didn't realize that the Felix Rohatyn or the George Soros of game with girls was on the boards.

    I second the idea about weds/thurs nights on rooftop bars in the city. Definitely the way to go, did them all last summer, plan on doing them when I start FT in a few weeks.

    Be confident, one thing I have realized through HS/College, is that in your crew, no matter how many guys, to have one prick in your group, and one "nice guy". Makes life a lot easier when the nice guy will talk to the DUFF.

  • eliteculture's picture

    some pick up lines

    1. The word of the day is "legs." Let's go back to my place and spread the word.

    2. That outfit would look great in a crumpled heap on my bedroom floor tomorrow morning.

    3. I want to melt in your mouth, not in your hand.

    4. I like every bone in your body especially mine.

    5. How about you sit on my lap and we'll see what pops up?

  • Dr Barnaby Fulton's picture

    When you go out, girls in New York don't give 2 shits about where you work. Even if they care about money, if you're an analyst at a BB in NYC, you're at the bottom of the totem poll.

    Avoid rolling with goons, be confident, and avoid bull shitting. Women in NYC have bull shit radars midwestern sorostitutes tend to lack. When I first went to the city I would lie about my age because I thought I wouldn't stand a chance if they knew I was 19-20. I came to find it was actually an advantage being the youngest guy in the bar sometimes (especially with cougars).

  • brotherbear's picture

    I like to pretend I have a different job than I really have. I haven't tried astronaut, but I have done airline pilot, diplomat, UN translator, porn star, a 'voice-over' artist specializing in commercials, the lead singer of the 'inde' rock band 'My Friend's Little Sister,' a Green Peace activist, a venture capitalist currently operating a maple syrup conglomerate in Vermont, an MFA candidate in photography specializing in black-and-white nudes (this one worked out exceedingly well), a lobbyist, an FBI agent (this didn't work out), a US Marshall (neither did this), a writer for The Colbert Report, a Peace Corps worker, a recently minted MD working in pediatric oncology, a field medic for the US Marine Corps, an officer in the US Navy recently back from deployment, an ad executive working in the sports entertainment industry, the executive assistant to Richard Branson, a lawyer within the NYC DA's office, and the greatest success, a product manager for L'Oreal (the backstory allows me to go to all of the fashion shows in NYC/London/Paris/Milan).

    If you know a little bit about a lot of fields, you can get away with murder, because most people don't know much about anything. The key is finding out what they do before revealing your profession. Simply pick something outside of their area of expertise, and you're fine. You don't want to go into a conversation at an informational disadvantage, so do a little bit of homework, and roll the dice. At the very least, you'll have a great time BS-ing some moronic bitch.

  • Affirmative_Action_Walrus's picture

    The real question should be not "where do you meet young single girls in NYC", but "what do you put in their drinks to take them home?"

    I used to use rohypnol when I was flush with cash before Sep 2008, but after the crash I've started using over the counter zyrtec. I guess you could say that zyrtec is to rohypnol as steve winwood is to phil collins: cheaper and less effective but if you use enough, ultimately just as satisfying.

    -Lehman CDO structurer

  • In reply to brotherbear
    Guest1655's picture

    brotherbear wrote:
    I like to pretend I have a different job than I really have. I haven't tried astronaut, but I have done airline pilot, diplomat, UN translator, porn star, a 'voice-over' artist specializing in commercials, the lead singer of the 'inde' rock band 'My Friend's Little Sister,' a Green Peace activist, a venture capitalist currently operating a maple syrup conglomerate in Vermont, an MFA candidate in photography specializing in black-and-white nudes (this one worked out exceedingly well), a lobbyist, an FBI agent (this didn't work out), a US Marshall (neither did this), a writer for The Colbert Report, a Peace Corps worker, a recently minted MD working in pediatric oncology, a field medic for the US Marine Corps, an officer in the US Navy recently back from deployment, an ad executive working in the sports entertainment industry, the executive assistant to Richard Branson, a lawyer within the NYC DA's office, and the greatest success, a product manager for L'Oreal (the backstory allows me to go to all of the fashion shows in NYC/London/Paris/Milan).

    If you know a little bit about a lot of fields, you can get away with murder, because most people don't know much about anything. The key is finding out what they do before revealing your profession. Simply pick something outside of their area of expertise, and you're fine. You don't want to go into a conversation at an informational disadvantage, so do a little bit of homework, and roll the dice. At the very least, you'll have a great time BS-ing some moronic bitch.

    That's some funny shit right there LOL!

  • In reply to brotherbear
    Stringer Bell's picture

    brotherbear wrote:
    I like to pretend I have a different job than I really have. I haven't tried astronaut, but I have done airline pilot, diplomat, UN translator, porn star, a 'voice-over' artist specializing in commercials, the lead singer of the 'inde' rock band 'My Friend's Little Sister,' a Green Peace activist, a venture capitalist currently operating a maple syrup conglomerate in Vermont, an MFA candidate in photography specializing in black-and-white nudes (this one worked out exceedingly well), a lobbyist, an FBI agent (this didn't work out), a US Marshall (neither did this), a writer for The Colbert Report, a Peace Corps worker, a recently minted MD working in pediatric oncology, a field medic for the US Marine Corps, an officer in the US Navy recently back from deployment, an ad executive working in the sports entertainment industry, the executive assistant to Richard Branson, a lawyer within the NYC DA's office, and the greatest success, a product manager for L'Oreal (the backstory allows me to go to all of the fashion shows in NYC/London/Paris/Milan).

    If you know a little bit about a lot of fields, you can get away with murder, because most people don't know much about anything. The key is finding out what they do before revealing your profession. Simply pick something outside of their area of expertise, and you're fine. You don't want to go into a conversation at an informational disadvantage, so do a little bit of homework, and roll the dice. At the very least, you'll have a great time BS-ing some moronic bitch.

    Photographer always always works. Or better yet, former middle school teacher now pursuing photography full time. Bam.

  • In reply to Affirmative_Action_Walrus
    Audio's picture

    Affirmative_Action_Walrus wrote:
    The real question should be not "where do you meet young single girls in NYC", but "what do you put in their drinks to take them home?"

    I used to use rohypnol when I was flush with cash before Sep 2008, but after the crash I've started using over the counter zyrtec. I guess you could say that zyrtec is to rohypnol as steve winwood is to phil collins: cheaper and less effective but if you use enough, ultimately just as satisfying.

    -Lehman CDO structurer

    Best reply of the thread.

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