How to return to good behavior gracefully?
Hey all--consultant at a more industry-specific firm than the ones typically discussed here, but compete with the MBB's, Deloitte's etc. on certain projects. I am fairly junior but am one of the best performers on a small team. Lately I (and peer colleagues) have been feeling beat down by constant weekend work and deadlines maintained with more non-billable work given to us throughout the week.
Lately I've been getting noticeably pissed in meetings, work parties, etc. and it's not helping the stress. There is a nugget of truth that this is a busy period and it should cool down soon, but I don't know if that's actually how it will go.
Should I apologize, or just try to lay down lower from now on? Anyone have issues with frustration at their firm start to show? Anyone lean into it? What's the best that could happen?
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Hey there! I can imagine you feel extremely frustrated and burnt out. I'm still in college and haven't entered the workforce yet, but the advice I have (I think) can apply to most areas of life!
Usually keeping your emotions bottled up is never a good idea. I think it's best to apologize, as difficult as it might be, to salvage your work relationships. If you don't want to speak face to face, I've found that hand-written cards are always appreciated. Plus, a nice bouquet or potted plant can work wonders. It might seem like a lot, but it's better to go the extra mile so your apology is well received. While you hand over these gifts/apology cards, it would be a great time to talk about your frustration with your superiors. They may tell you that you're in no position to complain given your seniority, but its better than keeping that resentment and frustration bottled. The last thing you want is to continue to lash out, vent with other coworkers, and see your performance/mental health decline.
I hope this helps despite my lack of experience, it's just what I would do once I start!
I’ve also had this happen where I get noticeably more pissy with people when I’m getting crushed with work and they act like I have all the time in the world to help on their 1 thing that really doesn’t matter.
But then a few days later I’ll read my messages and cringe, because there was probably a more diplomatic way of approaching the situation, and generally speaking being pissy with coworkers will only reflect poorly on you. Also, not sure about consulting, but the associates in my group will give direct feedback about me which is what determines my bonus, so it’s a bad idea to make enemies/treat people poorly.
I have apologized for it and explained that I had a lot going on, and it went over well in the situation it happened. I think if there is a specific time it happened/someone you work closely with, being able to apologize and move on is great. I think most people will be forgiving/understand.
Now if it’s just a general thing where you’re being more irritable (rather than in a specific situation), maybe it’s not worth bringing up (so you don’t draw attention to it). But then you should work to fix the behavior ASAP so people don’t associate you with being a jerk, and if possible, explain clearly that you have a lot of other projects on your plate so that people understand the context of the situation.
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