Finally got offer for a boutique in SF. I've been working so hard for this. Coming from a non-target school with a shitty GPA, I've had to put in countless hours of networking and interview prep. Just realized something I've never really thought of because I was so focused on breaking in. I've become so close with my group of friends over the past 4 years. They're all going to be working in the NY and I'm starting to realize I'll probably hardly (never) see them again if I go to the west coast. Starting to get the feelz.
Am I being a bitch? Or how did those of you who left everything behind transition with the move?
why are you going to SF if you wanted to be in NY
I've been there.
What you will learn, is the people you care enough to see/ stay in touch with you will. Unfortunately, some good friendships will fade away over time, but so is life.
I went through the same thing as well. Life is changing, and you're leaving a comfortable niche that you've made for yourself in college. I guess I would just say 2 things:
1) Treat SF as a new opportunity to make new friends. I understand most of your friends are in NY but I'm sure there will be some people you know (even if just acquaintances from school) who are going to SF post-grad. Make an effort to get to know them now.
2) You still have 5-6 months of college left. Make the most of it :)
Keeping in touch is easy. You're in the same country, speaking the same language.
You'll make it work over the years.
Congratulations on your hustle and keep that attitude up at work. It'll take you places.
Your friends might in those places too.
Have some perspective, young one.
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Life. OVER.
You can try to lateral to a bigger bank in NY once you get some experience in SF. Otherwise, just try to make new friends. That's how life is.
I was in this exact position.
It took me years to get an offer and when I finally did it was across the coundry. Toughest choice I ever had to make but I went ahead and relocated for my career.
I don't think that I will regret doing it. On top of seismically shifting my future career trajectory for the better, I get to see another part of the country and live an entirely differently life for a few years.
If I stayed back home just so that I could be closer to the same guys I've been getting fucked up with for years, I know I would've regretted it.
The conquered mourns, the conqueror is undone.
-Latin Proverb
OP is undone after finally conquering/achieving a major goal. For a conqueror, fighting takes over their identity. Once the war is over, that identity dies and they have to return to life as it was before their obsession. During the time they were pursuing that single, defining goal with tunnel vision, they ignored all of their other values and perspectives.
This is like the OP because while he was hustling to get the interview and to advance through the rounds, he totally ignored the fact that he would be moving across the country and saying goodbye to life as he knew it on the east coast.
While pursuing it, he had blinders on but now that he can see the big picture, he has to ask himself if he still actually wants it.
Friends are transient. I don't mean this disparagingly, but you'll come to realize in short order just how quickly they move on-even when in the same location. A few years out of school and for the most part, Facebook, the occasional wedding invite, and the "I'm passing through your city let's grab dinner" reunion suffice.
The upside is that you can make new friends just as easily.
So you've got the right idea for now; it'll be all about that work until you get comfortable. Then re-evaluate in a year.
I don't know how helpful it would be in your context, but you should think about how your friendships changed when you went from high school to college. I'm sure you lost some friends in high school, but you definitely gained some new ones in college. Think of it that way when you move to SF.
That sux....now compare your plight to any immigrant living in the U.S. who left their home country for a job that isn't exactly FT at a boutique in San Francisco.