Hide IG Stories from colleagues?
Say you are an associate at IB
Do you add your colleagues on IG? (analyst, peers, vp, director)? Why and why not? Both juniors and seniors?
Do you show or hide your IG stories from them? Both juniors and seniors?
What are the pros and cons of showing / hiding IG stories from colleagues? Can this help build relationship with them or make you more likeable?
Background is I want to build a better relationship with my colleagues and also understand their lives / let them understand my life a bit more. I feel like I’m sharing too little of myself at work and come as “unapproachable” or too “protective”. People really dont know me much “as a person” and at work I dont talk to them a lot. I’ve started to change that in the office and am thinking if I should reveal myself more in an IG setting as well.
I usually just share normal posts on IG, like going to play tennis, getting a drink at a bar. I dont share things that are too personal.
I think some of my colleagues are sharing similar things on IG and have not hidden the posts from me obviously.
So what are your thoughts? My current settings are, hide stories to colleagues from my same team, but show stories to other colleagues outside of my team. Sounds a bit counterintuitive to me
This is why social media is not good - you’re way overthinking. Your social media presence is irrelevant to what your coworkers think of you. Be social in real life - don’t rely on antisocial media to “build” your social life
i think this is a fairly common workplace challenge, but i don't work in finance so maybe take this with a grain of salt... maybe you are overthinking this?
if you are hiding what you share on social media to one group of colleagues, but not the others, that's going to come off ever so slightly passive-aggressive, if not outright passive-aggressive. i know that's not your intention, but maybe something to consider. what if something you shared gets brought up around your teammate? it's going to be obvious that you don't want your own team to see your social media... despite you inviting them to do so at some point.
of course, it's also possible none of what i just wrote would apply at all.
i think it's better to level set the conversational approach within your team. how do you interact with your analysts? how do they interact with you? how do your VPs, directors, MDs interact with each other, with you, with the analysts? and so forth. even something as brief as small talk while waiting for a meeting to begin, or small talk about your weekends or any upcoming plans while you're on impromptu calls with each other, would greatly help you get to know each other better. it'll be awkward at first if this is not the way your team operates, but at the end of the day they are all individuals who are hopefully sociable people themselves.
so, slowly, one conversation at a time, i am sure they will be able to get the cue that you're trying to get to know everyone better, and i am confident they will likely try to reciprocate, even if on a surface colleague-to-colleague level.
last but not least, one danger about social media, is that you don't know what they'll think of something you post from your private life. or, you don't know what they'll think of something you posted in the past. they are your colleagues, they're not your best friends. it's okay for them to not know everything about you; i am sure they might feel the same, on some level.
best of luck!
Thanks for the thoughts! Appreciate it
I maybe annoying but so, what’s your recommendations on my IG story settings?..
don't try to hide your social media from your colleagues, at least not until you have left your team and a significant amount of time has passed. don't go out of your way to add anyone any further, but if they add you, just remember that it's your social media and that you operate it the way you please.
do not post anything stupid on social media, obviously. use a burner account for more silly things.
if you share anything personal in your life or a personal opinion, use the Close Friends feature.
these are all pretty standard social media habits from most people. again, don't overthink it too much.
It's not uncommon. Honestly found out one of my former supervisors likely had an some shady business via her public IG page (found it randomly - had a few thousand followers). Lavish trips that I know she can't afford on her own and posts where she was barely wearing any clothes. Accidentally looked at her story/highlights and she went private within a day afterwards. Most of our coworkers have each other added on IG, she didn't have anyone added. Seemed odd at first to me since she's been there for 4+ years.
This of course pre-MBA, I added colleagues because majority of my coworkers were my age/chill (likely will not work with them again). I added a lot of them on IG before I quit or they quit.
Lol. Kid can’t have a normal convo with his team and so wants to circumvent being normal by communicating via IG stories? Yikes.
One social media profile for colleagues, one locked profile for private life (without real name or just a nickname). There is no need for work colleagues to get the intricate details that could be misconstrued.
The professional profile is the fake one, where you post IG stories around neutral hobbies, climate change, and social causes. Make sure it is an open profile and add anyone, this is where you create the story line that helps your career. Your MD is running a marathon to raise money for a cause? This is the account that could share that.
I have been adding random colleagues from all backgrounds from the day I started my career and even complete strangers I have never met before.
In this day and age using traditional social media can only hurt you not help you.
If you're not posting ridiculous stuff I don't see why you need to hide stories from anyone. Would have different advice if you were a club rat/model and bottles, but no one cares about you playing tennis or getting a drink - that kind of IG story solidifies you as a good guy honestly. If anything it gives you guys something to chat about, especially if you're saying you don't know people well.
I don't proactively add anyone on IG but if people find me I'll follow them.
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