How do you Deal "You Only Got Your Job Because You're Black"
I have been friends with my circle since high school but they know me as an autist who screams on discord because we played video games together all this time. He has never been in an academic or professional setting with me and literally has no clue how smart I am. I've worked extremely hard in high school to get into a target school (with the help of affirmative action) and was always on par or a few points behind white students who got into Ivies/ other top schools. The other day, we were talking to a mutual friend's parents and they congratulated me because I am about to graduate from one of the best schools in the country and workin S&T. They said I was a "go-getter" and before I could even get a word out he said, "He only got the job because he's black". I just looked at him like what the fuck is wrong with you.
It made me think he is envious and has an inferiority complex. I never talk about my professional, academic, or intellectual goals because he and one or two others in this group always say disrespectful and condescending things to belittle my goals or achievements. The funny thing is this person is kind of a buffoon. He hardly can use a computer and whenever he talks aboutjargon but clearly has no clue what he is talking about. He's constantly talking about his job like it's the most important and prestigious thing anyone could hope to achieve despite the fact that no one ever asks or even feigns interest (keep in mind he went to a mediocre state school which he considers a target). That combined with his knee-jerk reaction to discredit my accomplishments makes me think he's fishing for praise and needs the spotlight on himself.
I did not want to come off as arrogant or start an argument in front of his parents so I brushed it off but shit like this makes my blood boil. This person's image of me is so different from any other group in my life. I am well respected by my peers and I believe I have impressed many professors and senior professionals through my conversations with them. I think it's ironic that people who are way more intelligent and accomplished than he could ever hope to hold me in much higher regard.
How do I approach this next time it comes up? I was going to say I'm lightyears more intelligent than him, he is clueless about his major, and tell him he had an inferiority complex but then I'd be the bad guy.