I'm a rising junior and I need advice on a specific life situation
I currently live with my parents and elder brother. We all came to the US about 5 yrs ago. My dad still works at a convenience shop in his 60s. My parents don’t have anything saved up for retirement. It’s in our culture to look after our parents when they get older. I’m okay with taking on new responsibilities, but my brother has no sense of responsibility. He says he goes to college but he hasn’t done anything in his college career to show for it. He’s been going to college for over 5 yrs now and still going. So I can’t really expect anything good from him in the future. All he does is drink, smoke, and hang out with his friends. He works part-time sometimes and doesn’t contribute much to the family. He has made so many financial mistakes in his short life.
While I have high goals and ambitions for myself, I feel that being with my family is somewhat holding me back. No one in my family except me has any high ambitions for their future (yes I asked each of them). My parents in particular want to rely on us as they get older. My brother is a complete douche who only likes to get angry and threatens me with violence whenever I try to point out that he needs to be more responsible and look after the family. I’m a rising junior at a super non-target school here in NYC with a 4.0 GPA. I have managed to break into’s IB roles think ER or S&T. I hope to come back as a full-time A1 after my internship. I feel stuck, angry, and utter sadness whenever I try to envision my future with them. I have planned many times to move out but there’s a part of me that wants to be with my parents and not ditch them. I would really appreciate any advice or criticism. Thanks!