Life is falling apart…

Chin up bro, you've made it much too far to take your foot of the gas now.  It sounds like supporting your family is very important to you, but boundaries have to be drawn if they're actively making your life more difficult.  My humble recommendations would be 1) have a talk with your parents to rein in your siblings; they need to focus on school/work or whatever so that they can be successful too, oh and let you get some goddamn sleep, and 2) focus more of your energy and free time on your health, both mental and physical.   If you can grind it out a little more and go A2A, you should have the cashflow to get your own place which should help your life immensely in terms of cutting down the commute and getting some more peace and quiet.  

Move out (I can't tell if you still live at home), put them on a budget. 

You see it all the time with parents cutting their kids off. 

Don't feel bad about it, you're going to work yourself to death financing some ungrateful assholes.

Once you handle that side of the house, then you can work on your health. You'll have a much clearer mind and be able to focus on you.

It's one thing to take care of your family (which is very noble and respectable), but it's another thing when they act like this. 

I can’t speak much, but it sounds like a very toxic situation to be in. A few points I would like to make

1. It’s not your responsibility to support them. You can support them minimally from here and there yes, but once you give too much, they will keep coming back to you for more money. Once it gets to the point where it’s like leeching, then it’s best to stop or limit it.

2. Talk to your parents about how you’re feeling. If they give you a hostile reaction then that’s how you know it’s toxic and it’s not good for you.

3. Talk to anybody you know personally about this. Getting different perspectives on the situation will help, compared to getting suggestions from WSO.

Hope this helps

Research how many NBA and NFL players go broke supporting their families and entourages (which grow when you have money). 

I think the easiest way here is to put them on a budget. I’m all for supporting family and did so myself at one point. I would give them $500 a month, not more and not less. They can then use that money to cover their needs, but not go off on a crazy lifestyle. I also would put my foot down if they asked for more, unless it was some crazy extraordinary situation. This is the only way you can support someone without going broke yourself

Rule 1: never tell your family how much you earn. It gives an incentive to others to lean on you and not work as hard as they would otherwise themselves.

What the hell. Support them only to the extent needed and no more. 

Cover the necessities and move on and this is coming from a family-first man's perspective.

Hey to the OP - I am will starting next year and Im also from the bronx with similar environment and background I was wondering if I can PM you had couple of questions and just need general advice on life

Man you need to sit down with your parents and say I’m willing to give X, where X should basically be meaningful enough to help make sure they won’t be destitute or evicted but no more. They aren’t going to help you if you’re down and out, because they can’t so you need to make sure that you save up.

Establish boundaries especially when it come to finances. Limit how much you’re able to provide to cover the basic needs and leave it at that. Would also suggest moving out if they keep on disrespecting your space/being loud all the time etc.

Damn, your family did a job on you. I'm from the hood too, poor parents often raise their kids to be their bitch. Many poor parents literally have a shit load of kids and expect their kids to take care of them. Their kids are their retirement plan. They make you think because they had you and kept you alive, you owe them everything. It's usually not the favorite too. The favorite is the golden child that shouldn't be burdened with anything, the red headed stepchild gets all the shit and responsibility and never gets a thank you.

I'm not saying this is your personal situation, but it's a common one. Everyone says cut them off, but it's not that easy because your parents literally do a serious mindfuck on you where you're incapable of cutting them off no matter what they do to you. Cutting them off is like a devout Christian or Muslim denouncing God or Allah because you're raised to honor your parents no matter what. You would most likely be cutting  off your entire family and extended family for disrespecting them that that big. I might be wrong, but if you weren't so mindfucked then you would have done what needed to be done without coming to this forum to cry for help.

With all that said, you have to summon the strength to stand up to the bullies your parents have probably been your entire life and draw the line. You're a big boy now with big boy commissions on so you gotta stop taking their shit. Like others have said, approach them respectfully with the truth. Tell them this has to stop and this is not sustainable. Don't ask them if this is ok, tell your parents you're going to give them an allowance to be comfortable and whatever they choose to spend it on is their choice. If they're responsible adults then they'll use it wisely. You can even give them some suggestions on how to allocate that capital. If they mismanage it then it's out of your hands. I would maybe set aside some money for them without telling them so that way you have some money for them when they need services and aid.

As for your siblings, fuck them. They can all get jobs. If they're old enough to party then they're old enough to get their own money and work. Don't give your parents enough for your parents to give to your siblings and still be comfortable. If they're going to enable your siblings to be bums then your parents are going to have to feel it.

You gotta do this otherwise you're going to cut years off your life, work yourself to death, and have nothing to show for after all your hard work. You have to stand up to your family. Do whatever you gotta do to summon the strength, but you're fighting for your life. Family isn't everything like people like to say. Sometimes your family can be toxic and dangerous.

I don't know if you need therapy, a couple of drinks, some preworkout, etc. Whatever you gotta do to get the courage to have this conversation, do it (within reason) because it isn't going to stop until you make it stop. You don't owe your parents your life because they took care of you. You were their responsibility, they had to take care of you. They are not your responsibility, you're the child, they are the adults. Any help you give them is a courtesy.

Poverty is so deeply cyclical because it breeds dependence without accountability. A budget won't work. If your parents knew how to operate on a budget, they wouldn't be dependent on their child. If your siblings had any sense of responsibility, they wouldn't be partying their lives away every night. Your parents, siblings, family, neighbors will always be poor no matter how much money you give them, and you need to learn to accept that. Poverty isn't a low net worth, its a mindset that is nearly impossible to escape once it takes hold. It's not a character flaw, but you have to understand that they have been raised and conditioned by generations trapped in a culture of scarcity and abuse which never allowed them to develop a sense for long-term planning or rational decision making beyond short-term gratification.

You got lucky, maybe you got dropped on your head or something, and somehow managed to develop the sense to work your way out of that environment and make long-term investments in your future, but you'd be a fool to let them drag you back down with them. That's ultimately where you're heading if you don't cut them all off immediately. Move out and find functional adult peers to live with, and learn to develop healthy interpersonal relationships before its too late. I'm sorry, it sucks to lose your emotional support system, but you have to recognize these relationships are inherently toxic and abusive. You're not going to solve their problems with what little money you're making (your bonus might feel like a lot to you now, but have some perspective - the government has thrown trillions of dollars into its "war on poverty" with nothing to show for it), and the best thing you can do is save yourself. If you feel guilty, come back to visit them on holidays. If any of your siblings have kids who ultimately develop the same work ethic as you, pay their way through college and get them their first job in the industry. But I promise you, you will never be in a position to do that if you continue down your current trajectory. This culture will eat you alive. Also, you will probably need some serious therapy after all of this is said and done.

I think this is less of IB fault and more about your family dynamic. I know you love them, but your mental/ physical health is more important than keeping them afloat. You have the money, stand up for yourself and set boundaries.

Keep working, one day at a time. You'll look up sooner than later and realize things are much bette. Just survive for now