Surviving Terrible Culture for At Least a Year
I recently lateraled into a top EB, and honestly I had no idea this is the culture I would be walking into. Yes, on me for not doing my DD on the group and talking to more than a handful of people. Either way we’re here. I want to quit everyday and the general culture of bullying, gaslighting, and everyone for themselves environment is exhausting. Yes, I know banking will have some level of this everywhere. It wasn’t this bad at my previous shop. I get called out for pushing back when I ask too many questions and then also get called out for not asking enough questions when the work is wrong. My mental health and general well-being is seriously suffering.
Anyways, I’ve decided I’m going to leave again at the end of a year (yes, another lateral or exit in a year, whatever). Right now just need tips on surviving this toxic messed up culture. If I could, I would leave right now. But leaving 5 months into a new role and with nothing lined up will bring more negatives than positives (though some days it does not feel like that). Anyone been stuck in a bad culture environment (or are stuck right now)? What steps / strategies do you use to deal with it everyday until you can leave?
Word for word sounded like my last job. Developed a smoking addiction on the job and had intense anxiety. Smoked about a pack a day. Lost 25 pounds due to the stress and anxiety because I couldn’t eat.
Had to take benzodiazepines throughout my work because I was going through personal things on top of the job which led to panic attacks.
My advice? I was in your shoes and tried to push myself through it until I no longer could. No job is worth your health.
In a similar position, just trying to survive day by day. Try to be closer to key decision makers
Would you / can you go back to your old shop?
I wouldn’t. Was at a small group/no deal flow/low pay. But probably would stick a little longer and go somewhere else. Hoping current position will get more traction if I apply to new jobs, don’t have time to prepare so taking a bit slow.
I could go back (I left on generally good terms though they were a bit salty), but even then I think going back so quickly might be a bad look
Assuming you are the OP—I know a few people that were in similar boats. Much easier to spin: I was sold a false bill of goods earlier vs. later. Would recommend soft sounding with anyone you’re still close with at the old firm
Can u drop hints as to which bank?
This has to be Moelis
Maybe try to “distance” yourself from it mentally and try to laugh at the absurdness of them? I’ve been on terrible teams before and it is draining though.
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