Young and making substantial money...doesn’t feel real?

Not a shite post. Seriously, I’m 23 and making nearly $150k a year for manipulating excel templates and copying PowerPoint formats. I also still live like how I did in college, you could tell by me still using the beer glasses I won from a raffle on St Pattys Day, in my apartment, which are literally the only nice drink ware I own. I wear cheap clothes but I do have a pretty nice AP watch. Besides that, I just am having a hard time coming to grasp this reality. I don’t know. I’m sure some of you guys have experienced this or can relate.

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Word of advice. Keep it like that, keep focusing on work and getting smarter in what you are passionate about in your down time. Put all the money you aren’t spending into the market. That’s how you become a millionaire by 30.

 

I am older than you and I still don't own any furniture, any glassware, cutlery, art, nice lights, wallpaper, curtains, or anything else. there was a plan to get all of these things at some point but didn't sound like fun, so didn't do it.

While my living expenses have gone up (mainly due to hobbies), I still don't vacation and have no "real home". The only item I actually bought was a my very first monitor I got for Prime Day this year. Never had one before. My laptop is like 13 years old. phone is a 50 $ Android.

Money on a trading account is just a number, and it doesn't "feel real" unless you buy a lifestyle with it. Buy the things you need, not the things you want.

 

Continue living beneath your means. It's a GREAT habit and will provide you financial independence later in life (which provides you all sorts of independence). That doesn't mean don't buy things. Certainly buy things you need and get good quality so they last. OCCASIONALLY buy some things you want as I think it's important to reward yourself from time to time. Helps maintain your focus, reminds you why you do things, and provides some enjoyment. You have to have enjoyment to sustain anything long term (jobs, relationships, hobbies, etc.)

Just avoid the temptation to frequently live in the moment financially. When I was much younger, I had lots of wants without the means to afford them. Nice watches, cars, etc. Normal stuff. I used to look at the watches in the window and tell myself I'll get that when I do X. Funny thing, when I hit X I know longer cared about the watch or car. That allowed me to save and invest which gives you the freedom to pick and choose important things later (like jobs, houses, vacations, essentially anything). Gave me the freedom to start my own business knowing I had some cushion.

 

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Tru dis.  Not sure why someone gave monkey shit.  There's a family guy scene, i think, where an alternate scenario is briefly visualized of a well-dressed Peter and Brian sitting around reading the paper in a vast mansion, just the two of them, at a somewhat older age having made tons of money but having clearly sacrificed family and friends to get there.  At one point Peter says, "Welp, I think I'm going to go microwave a canteloupe and have sex with it."  
I'm happily married, but it comes at a cost and there are times where I'd like to be that guy who's rich beyond belief fucking a microwaved canteloupe, alone, in his beautiful mansion.

 

Holy shit this is relatable. I’m single now and hardly spend any money, but when I had a girlfriend last year it felt half my paycheck went to overpriced brunches, dinners and drinks at pretentious restaurants. And the irony is that I made a lot more money than her, but she was the one who always wanted to go out.

 

I had a similar feeling starting my career, albeit I was making much less money than you. I think most people feel like this when they start out. If I could things over again, this is what I would try to focus on:

  • Automate your savings and investing: Set up an online account with Ally, SoFi, etc and have a set amount of money direct deposited into that account. Once you have a FAT emergency fund, change the automation to a brokerage account. Do the same with your 401k and any other investment accounts. And then, and this is the most important part, don't check these accounts except like once every 3-4 months at most. Make a goal for the money you have in your brokerage account (I am not pulling this out until I am ready to buy a house/amazing vacation/helicopter) to help you resist the urge of pulling it out on impulse. Out of sight, out of mind.
  • Do your best to not buy things when you're emotional: I use the term emotional loosely here, but what I mean is don't buy things when you feel like you're on top of world or when you feel like you hate your life because of the pressures of work/ figuring out where you fit into the adult world/ etc. If you buy things when you're too high you're going to feel like you can afford anything and everything. If you buy things when you are too low, what you are likely doing is trying to justify a job you hate at that moment in time by buying things. 
  • Try to keep things in perspective: You're 23, you do not need to live like Patrick Bateman. Allow yourself to enjoy those simple things without the anxiety that you have to be spending. The more money you have the more freedom you have - I am sure you have heard this before. What having money really does is it allows you to make a rationale decision in a tough situation. It can keep you from feeling stuck at a job you hate or making some other decision while you're desperate.  

These are just the things I wish I had done a better job of doing, hope they're helpful

 

Congratulations, but I know many 23 year olds who are already making more money than you are and are having a lot more fun than doing PowerPoint and Excel all day long.

 

I know this girl who started a local delivery business and she is making 300,000 per year. I also know several people who are power sellers on eBay. 

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