Fitting in at a new job! How to transition quickly?

I'm sure so many of you have been in this boat before. I'd love to hear your thoughts. I just started a new job a few days ago, and this really is my first transition since my first job after college. At my old job, I recall there was an adjustment period, but it was much easier thanks to the comfort of an analyst class.

Now as a normal new hire, I don't have that luxury and I'm in a group that seems friendly and very social, but they have already formed great bonds amongst eachother. How do I make my transition easier? It sounds lame, but I'm sure you know what I mean. I'm in that strange phase where I can't exactly add much value to work yet, and I don't really know anyone. How do I overcome this as quickly as possible?

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Just be nice and friendly, be sure to say hello to people every day, and never turn down an invite for coffee/lunch/happy hour for the first few months. You'll get there.

 
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Be interested in the people around you. When you get the chance, ask questions (alma mater, grew up, did before this job, etc).

There's a great quote about charisma about the most important thing is making the person you're talking to feel like the most important person in the room. It's true. Don't try to throw in facts about yourself listen, learn and discuss.

Never say no to coffee or drinks or dinners, even if you are dead tired, suck it up and go. You'll be surprised how much fun you can have when you just say yes.

If you know people on Linkedin who come from the same school as you then definitely make an effort to talk to them first. It's an easy connection.

Don't be up your boss's ass. No one likes to see that from the new guy.

"It is better to have a friendship based on business, than a business based on friendship." - Rockefeller. "Live fast, die hard. Leave a good looking body." - Navy SEAL
 

This thread is so awkward. "How do I make friends?"

OP, invite them to lunch, coffee, happy hour, etc. Do good work. Make jokes or small talk before meetings. This shit isn't rocket science.

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For your first few months, you should be a sponge. Absorb all the information you can. Establish relationships with as many folks as you can, ensuring to get as many diverse perspectives as you can. Take that time to figure out who matters and who doesn't, and ensure that after you've talked to EVERYONE you make a point to follow up with those. Ask to help out on everything you can, treat any training you get as if it were your full time job (it is) and remember the golden rule: Nothing is beneath you. Nothing. Even if you think you know everything about the world, you don't.

As far as the social aspect, I'd highly recommend going out of your way to attend every event and don't eat lunch alone. Don't annoy folks, but always offer to get/go/attend assuming that you have time. If you are in a role that doesn't afford that, coffee breaks or after work drinks are encouraged. Just be involved. There is nothing worse than a new person who is withdrawn, since either the perception is they are arrogant or scared and timid, neither of which are good.

 

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