Cold approaching in college

I'm sure you can guess where this is going haha. 

Girl in university who I think is really cute. We met the other day at a party, spoke for a bit but for whatever reason she left early. Ran into her today on campus and she waved at me, so I went over and asked how she was, she asked what I've been up to; usual small talk stuff - but it didn't last long as we both had places to be. 

I want to ask her out but there are two problems: a) I forgot her name and b) I am completely out of my comfort zone. Been a looooonnggggggg time since I've done the whole girls thing and only recently have I decided to get back into the swing of things. 

WTF do I do? How can I ask her out? What do I say? We have a few friends in common but I've always hated those situations and asking people out around others as I think they can find it a bit overwhelming or embarrassing. Don't really care what our friends think - doubt they'd judge, just wouldn't want her to feel embarrassed for obvious reasons. 

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We have freedom of speech. You can say anything to her you want as long as it’s not illegal.

 

Pizz at your service. 

Come up to her and say "hey sorry, I see you around a lot but forgot your name" and say it like naturally, not awkwardly, kind of laughing it off.Do the small talk again, and now invite her to some event you're going to. Say "hey, my boys and I are going to xxx event (football game, school event), wanna come along, might be fun". Bam--you now invited her as a friend and now you can take it from there. 

 

If you know the names of her friends look up their FB/IG profiles and then scroll through friends until you find her profile pic, and by extension you’ll find her name.

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Been a looooonnggggggg time since I've done the whole girls thing

go do that whole Yale thing instead

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Ask for her Insta next time you see her then slide in the DMs.

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Walk up to her when you see her again, say something like “ you need to quit following me around before I call the police” (another stupid joke works too). Walk up with the blank new contact screen up on your phone hand it to her and ask for her number.

Step 1 done.

Step 2: start texting and suggest hanging out somewhere Lowkey or cool then while you guys are hanging out one on one. Find out what she likes to do, her interests, fav food etc,. Then ask her if she would like to go on a date with you (pick a specific day when you ask like say Would you like to go on a date on Friday at 7?) or some shit like that. Then you have time to think of where you’d like to take her and plan something fun. Make it a surprise based off of her hobbies and yalls previous convo’s.

Do not just take her to a restaurant, that is boring and if she is attractive I’m sure 100 guys have done that before and there’s a reason none of them got her attention. Go do something fun then suggest dinner after if you’d like.

Step 2 done.

Best of luck and PM me with the wedding info in 6 months.

 

This is otherwise excellent advice, but just chiming in to please use a different line. A stalker joke is not cute/funny to 99% of girls.

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