hey - I'm in dating a girl who is a non-drinker. We've been on 4 dates so far and every time we've gone out for dinner and dessert. This time I want to do something different because there's only so much you can talk about at a dinner and it's getting very repetitive.. but I'm not really sure what night-time date ideas there are that does not involve drinking or dinner.
I suggested crazy/mini golf to her but she said no, I asked her to suggest something and she said theatre, but I checked all the nearby theatres and every show is costing around $400 per ticket for a Friday night and I can't afford that.
Does anyone have any ideas? thanks!
You can do the exact same dates as with any girl, just without alcohol.
- movies, drive-in theater, movies in the park, setup a projector in your garden, ..
- hiking, cycling, walking
- picnic instead of eating at a restaurant, maybe in a park or forest
- If she likes animals then maybe going to a lake, zoo, ..
- She doesn't like mini-golf, but there are other things like that out there. Escape room? a maze? state country fair?
If actual theater is too expensive, try ballet tickets which are performed by lesser known groups. Depending on city, there are many dance/theater/performing groups.
What is Mocktail
Major league soccer/baseball
Coffee with open mic night or poetry
Classes/lessons (cooking, any skill)
Beach
Water activities (rent a sailboat, rowboat, sunset cruise, parasailing)
Your water activities section is wild for someone who can’t afford tickets to a play 💀
Most are surprisingly cheap, parks will often rent out rowboats and sometimes sailboats for anywhere from $5-20 an hour. Parasailing is likely the most expensive. A sunset cruise on a sailboat is probably $50-75/head, less than half of theater tickets. Party boat fishing is also fun and cheap.
A lot of theaters have same-day pricing that are a fraction of the price. Have gotten same day tickets to premier Broadway shows for like $50 each (and it's online)
movies, museums
420, Netflix and chill.
sober dates sound like corporal punishment. I wouldn't even entertain the idea. have you had sex with her yet ?
come back and state your point nerdy excel geeks, unable to confront people in real life never mind online :) pls continue throwing anonymous monkey poos
considering the fact the only guy to reply just got completely and utterly destroyed and had to reevaluate his life choices for daring to reply, I have to say the monkey poo flingers remind me of a PE guy in my old shop who used to wait outside the toilets for a girl in the DL team, follow her around, and eventually let himself get blue balled after several sober dates. keep being platonic excel boys, four sexless dinners in a row is a great way to friend zone yourself, please continue.
baseball game, cooking class, couples yoga, amusement park, museum? I really enjoy hiking and being outdoors, so kayaking would be on my list as well.
People are sharing great ideas but many are missing your request for nighttime options.
Some other ideas:
Kava bar if there are any near you (don't drink alcohol within 15h of having kava though... It can fuck up your liver. And it's an intoxicant, so keep that in mind if you're driving).
If you have enough rapport that this wouldn't be weird to do at night, make some hot cocoa in a thermos and take her to some scenic spot with an awesome view
Go bowling
Go to a partner dance (salsa, bachata, blues, fusion, swing) lesson (obviously don't do this if she significantly better than you already, ends up being awkward)
Go to a live music / DJ show
Sometimes museums have late hours
Go to a comedy show...the drink minimum typically includes non alcoholic drinks
If you Google "cheap events cityname" you can also find random cool stuff - Funcheap is an example for SF and The Skint for NYC
Comedy shows are a great mention
Yeah def
how is this, I haven't heard much about this yet
I like it...it makes me feel super chill but leaves my mind much clearer than alcohol. Downsides are it tastes like mud with a hint of toothpaste (some places serve it mixed as a cocktail to hide the taste), and there are (very very rare) reports of acute liver toxicity and they don't quite know what caused it (is it a mutation that some people have, was it prepared / sourced poorly, etc), so I try not to drink it often. (Acute toxicity is different from the impact alcohol, where scientists know it harms your liver a very small amount every time, but won't kill you unless you do something really stupid.)
1 - have your parents and her parents meet for coffee
2 - if they approve of each other, each set of parents funds half the theatre costs
3 - theatre date
A girl who is a non-drinker in London? My man, she is a wifey material
Jokes aside, probably make a plan to take her out to Brighton or Oxford / Cambridge during the weekends especially given the good weather. Will be cheap, and you can spend quality time with her instead of sitting in a restaurant feeling half awkward. Otherwise, take her to some comedy club, can't go wrong. Good luck!
Sex.
Comedy shows
art gallery, get ice cream and sit somewhere with a nice night time skyline/view, roller rink, ice skating, literally anything and if it includes alcohol just replace it. also if she drinks just let her drink and u just get a soda or whatever
It's great that you're looking for new and exciting date ideas that don't revolve around drinking or dinner. Here are a few alternative suggestions that you can consider:
Outdoor activities: Instead of going out for dinner, you could plan an outdoor activity together. Depending on your location and interests, you could go for a scenic hike, have a picnic in the park, rent bicycles and explore a nearby trail, or even go for a romantic sunset stroll on the beach.
Museum or art gallery visit: If you both appreciate art, culture, or history, visiting a museum or art gallery can be a wonderful experience. It offers an opportunity to engage in interesting discussions, learn something new, and enjoy each other's company.
Cooking or baking class: Consider taking a cooking or baking class together. It can be a fun and interactive way to bond while learning new skills. Look for local culinary schools or community centers that offer affordable classes.
Comedy club or live entertainment: Look for comedy clubs or venues that host live entertainment, such as stand-up comedy shows, improv nights, or live music performances. These events often have a lively atmosphere and can provide plenty of laughs and enjoyment.
Outdoor movie night: Find out if there are any outdoor movie screenings in your area. Many cities organize outdoor movie nights in parks or other open spaces during the summer months. Pack some blankets, pillows, and snacks, and enjoy a movie under the stars.
Volunteer together: Consider doing something meaningful by volunteering together. Look for local community service opportunities or charity events that align with your interests. Not only will you be making a positive impact, but you'll also have the chance to bond over shared values.
Remember, the key to a successful date is creating an environment where you both can relax, enjoy each other's company, and engage in activities that allow for genuine connection and conversation. It's always a good idea to communicate openly with your partner and find activities that interest both of you.
Some repeats here, but:
1) picnic / charcuterie board
2) museum / art exhibition
3) nature jaunt (park, trail, beach, etc)
4) cooking class
5) salsa dancing (muy caliente)
6) city jaunt (people watch & check out boutique, cute stores)
7) ice skating (winter)
8) opera / plays
9) paddleboarding (summer)
10) farmers market (pick out food & cook your meal)
11) painting date (paint each other at home or trees for example, in nature)
12) stargazing
13) watch the sunset (can be paired with other activity)
14) apple picking / pumpkin patch / etc
15) mixed doubles tennis (not really a date always, but whatever)
I think there’s something here for everyone. Honestly I enjoy stuff like this more than dinner with a girl.
Cheers!
Wooooow! Start singing, "We've been doing all this late night talking," by Harry Styles, & pretend you love karaoke. Ask if she'd do it for a laugh, and if her answer is no, you have the perfect chance to say "hey this has to be about my likes and interests too."
She should be mutually interested in what your likes are, as the relationship is not one sided. Tell her your likes. If they are of no interest to her, well then the answer speaks for itself.
I hope you're not footing the bills for all these date destinations of her's...dang!
Would anybody else not get in a relationship with a girl if she didn't drink? Seems like something you need to have in common
Seems like you're into drinking em' down, and want a shared experience with it.
What's such a big whoop that she doesn't drink? I don't either. I'm super healthy & proud of it.
Cheers!
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