Sound exhausting. I would end it. I’m not telling you to do that, that’s just what I would do (I know cause that’s what I did in my last relationship. It’s been 4+ months and happily staying single, there is one person I met who I would consider dating but that’s abt it. We’re taking it super slow and not rushing, and tbh I love the free time I have to study technicals)

When emotions are high and everything is strained and mentally draining it’s best to find someone who adds to your happiness not detracts from it. Be selfish and the right person worth your time will come.

 

So many times I’ve been in situations where I’m thinking “is xyz and abc a sign that we’re not compatible?”, and it almost always ends up being the case that “yes, turns out we weren’t compatible.”

Its just hard bc you probably love this person. But it will eventually end, and it will be much harder than if you do it yourself.

 

Username checks out - LMAO

Seriously though, life is too short to worry over a female to this degree. You're obviously all twisted up over this - why??? Just let it go.

 
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Here is my .02¢ as someone who’s been in a relationship for 2 years and we have been going to different colleges for 1 and a half of that:

A lot of what you said kinda just sounds like u were annoyed and ranting (which you stated) so that’s not a huge issue.

With the effort thing that is huge (even though I wouldn’t say paying for things or opening doors for her is showing more effort lol). If you guys go to different universities effort on both sides is what is going to keep y’all together through that. I.e her willing to drive to see you, she surprises you, plans things etc.

Being opposites isn’t really a con (I’m white and my girlfriend is Mexican and moved to the us 5 years ago). Plus imagine dating a girl in IB who literally does everything you do, sounds cool until u want free time and u realize she made all ur hobbies less enjoyable. Space isn’t bad in some aspects. So having different hobbies, different views on certain things, different career paths etc aren’t bad at all you guys just have to collaborate on things.

The biggest thing I saw as a problem is her making u get rid of all ur girlfriends (don’t care about the wondering eye thing, you are lying to yourself if you haven’t checked out other girls during your relationship). At yalls age she should trust u enough to not control who u talk to so I’d be concerned abt that especially with potentially transferring to another university. Most the time this just comes from lack of communication.

Lastly just be real with yourself and see if she is for you or not. Do you guys both want to plan a life together? Do you want to collaborate your plans to stay together etc. this has to be mutual and if not then truthfully you just have to realize this person probably isn’t the one for you.

Sorry for the rant mate but good luck, you just sounded annoyed in the post so I wanted to share some thoughts

Cheers

 

I write a letter once a month

I painted a wooden sign that says "I love you more" 

I cut off everyone to show her I am not yet she still doesn't trust me

All mistakes you've made. Why show her more love when you see she isn't showing enough?

Two things. 1) Never cut off your female friends. 2) Don't be needy for a woman's attention. If she's not paying attention to you, you stop paying attention to her. Reciprocate.

You're sounding like a woman right now. Stop caring so much about this. You'll be heartbroken.

Edit: Also, I know many girls in college who cheated on their boyfriends in long distance relationships. End it if you don't wanna deal with a headache like that.

 

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