gf of 3 years isn't talking to me right now - feeling like it's over

My friend recently got out of a 3+ year-long relationship: how much of those 3 years was you being happy, and how much was just not wanting to break up? The latter doesn't count when evaluating this question imo.

Bro, to add, my friend got out of a 6 year relationship with his girl. He’s 30 now. Lived together, became vegan and shit.

Even they broke up like a few weeks ago. Dude had to take a few days off to move 2 time zones across.

So just because you stuck in there for 3 years doesn’t always mean it was a right fit. Plus depends on the age and aspirations, people change, especially more during the real adult years (right out of university when life hits you).

Plus it’s a her problem if you are doing everything right (No liking instagram pictures of hot girls isn’t cheating.)

She is insecure and not confident about herself. You can’t be happy with someone else when you haven’t learnt to be happy with yourself first. Take the adult wisdom, she’s not right for you. I know it sucks right now and it feels you have a void and a desperate feeling to repair it, but you’ll thank yourself in a year. 
People always choose familiar hell over unknown heavens.

Sure but that's kind of a pass/fail standard you're applying.  You're going to meet a lot of women over the next decade or two and only need to marry one.  So the bar needs to be high.

Be selfish. Your peace of mind should be your priority, and if she doesn’t facilitates that, just walk away and don’t look back.

You don’t have to “justify” anything lmfao are you spineless or something? Just leave.

You don't need to justify. You're a free agent. You can leave for any reason, or no reason at all. Staying requires more reasons than leaving. 

Almost everything about the redpill is true. Not only that, but what was controversial about it a decade ago is now basically accepted and aknowledged fact even from chicks. You just have to not talk about it like a sperg because you will look weird 90% of the time in public (better to not even give your opinion on this kind of stuff unless you can do it in a pretty funny and approachable way).

Youtube manosphere grifters didnt create this stuff, they just stole it and sold it. Dont get this confused

Because she is not viewing your media to develop trust, if she trusted you she would not need to look.  She is looking at your social media because she does not trust you and is looking for information to prove herself right.  Its the same thing as letting your girl have access to you bank account, which you should never do... even when married you should keep most of your retirement funds in an account she cannot access (60% of marriages end in divorce, 90% of the time it is women initiating divorce). This is even true if you both work. Whats mine is mine and whats yours is yours should be the motiff... until death, where they inherit the rest.  This is important as I personally know  family members  who have died form mysterious circumstances  later to find their wife inherit their retirement account and quickly find a new man in less than half a year.  I have also seen one member wipe out all bank and financial accounts just before divorce papers are served. You cant get a lawyer if you have no money. A judge cant split assets that dont exist on file anymore.  I have seen my own mother get my father locked up under fictitious assault charges while he was visiting his brother (she found out he was there via messages) so that she can label him as abusive in her divorce court papers. I was literally in the car as a child watching the whole thing.  I say all this as someone who has seen it all and still loves women but understands the way things are.  Women do not love men unconditionally, nor do they trust them and when things go bad they will manipulate every situation to their benefit. 

She  will continue to search your phone indefinitely, invading your privacy, thinking she can learn more about you from your conversations with others and find things to disqualify you or hurt you with. There is zero benefit for you in allowing her access, which you already know. If you had never let her have access to your phone in the first place, we would not be having this discussion and you know it. All her assumptions wouldve just been that, assumptions not based on any fact. 

She isn't viewing your phone and media because she trusts you. She is looking to prove her suspicions. To prove she was right not to trust you in the first place. If she trusted you (which women never do until they get a ring, and sometimes not even after that)  she wouldn't feel the need to.

You cannot reason with women, they have been taught never to accept accountability. If you want to give her full access to your phone, emails, passwords manager, social media, etc....  have at it... the joke will be always be on you. She has nothing to lose and everything to gain unless you put your foot down. You may feel you have nothing to lose, but one day, even your water cooler conversations with your friends will cause her to distrust or view you differently.  Women divorce/break up with  their significant others for meaningless reasons like "politics" or "boredom".Your best option is to maintain an aire of mystery. 

If you do not understand this need to maintain privacy and mystery, then you need to dust off your bookcase and re-read the Laws of Seduction by Robert Greene and learn from its core premise. Being available to women whenever they want reflects poorly on your ability to captivate their attention. This includes access to your phone.

The next time she asks for your phone  you can find out just how much she wants to develop trust by telling  her you want to have her "share her phone location" 24/7 with you in exchange for her to have access to your phone whenever she pleases. See how quickly she stops asking. I have a feeling she won't agree to that stipulation and will say that is an invasion of her privacy.  Or don't. I really don't care if you knowingly chose to set yourself up for failure. I'm simply looking out for my fellow man who might not know how the game is played.

Lot of truth being dropped. 

I think a big problem with explaining this all to men is the idea of being alpha. Alpha is a very wrong connotation to use that can  often include negative male tendencies like, violence, anger, unnecessary aggression, forecfulness, physical strength, hording and sole discretion use of assets etc. 

The correct term that should be substituted for alpha mindset is "leadership" mentality. Women want to be led and that is the only way to keep them in their feminine nature and have them be happy in the relationship.  Being a big strong guy who doesn't take no for an answer and can beat up (physically or mentally) any other guy  for disrespecting them or not going along with their objectives (like manosphere types like Tate emphasize)... are childlike mentalities that are akin to the schoolyard bully we all know and don't respect who usually became a loser in adulthood.  They are usually the guys who can dish it out but not take it on the chin when someone else comes around stronger than them in those regards.  All they are capable is force and manipulation, which leaves a sour taste in everyones mouth who deals with them. This is how many people in the real world view Tate and other "alpha-oriented" characateurs in the manosphere who argue women want men solely for their "Alpha" resource hording abilities and because because "Alpha" men can protect them and beat up guys who take advantage of them.

Leaders and truly masculine men don't need to be forceful or beat up others to get their way.  They  guide their friends and they control, not belittle and bully, their opposition by letting the opposition make mistakes so that they can simply checkmate them further down the line when the time is right. Leaders don't force their opinions on person A and B , they strategize using reason, logic and, mutually beneficial understandings/ and unbeknownst compromising abilities  to subliminally convince persons A and B  that the opinions imposed on them was really a shared understanding/idea the entire time, even if it initially wasn't viewed as such by A and B.  Having persons A and B believe the idea was really theirs the whole time motivates  Persons A and B  to fight that much harder to protect that idea as opposed to just going along with it becasue they were bullied/forced/subjected to. This slight lean of power in an honorable way  that others appreciate and understand is the key to creating respect, social status, and lasting leadership. It is also the key to having a  good marriage. 

Think Littlefinger talking to Tywn Lannister  during the scene "When Arya Meets Littlefinger".  Littlefinger talks  about making  plans to take advantage of chaos in the realm to build something stronger for the Lannisters.  Tywin proceeds to assert his power  as master of the realm and  immediately belittles Littlefinger, saying "you say that as if you were the first man alive to think it".. Which Littlefinger adeptly takes on the chin with a smile and a nod. Yet by the end of the season, Tywn proceeds to adopt every single part of Littlefingers plan that was stated, recognizing in each step how the plan Littlefinger spoke of inevitably benefitted the Lannisters, and assumed its implementation  himself as if he thought of it.  Littlefinger doesn't care for the recognition or the respect and admiration of Tywin, otherwise he wouldnt have taken the slander on the chin.. Nor does he care about the grandiosity of even taking control of the plan himself to show outward power.  Littlefinger is practical and knows his place, which is behind Tywin, the master of the realm in the common sense of public understanding. Littlefingers only care is that the plan is seen by Tywin as his own plan which is "good for the Lannisters" so that the Lannisters can bring it into fruition.   An "Alpha" in the manosphere/Tate sense...would've argued  Tywin was the Alpha over Littlefinger in this regard because it was his realm and he put Littlefinger in his place.. but was he really? The reality is it was Littlefingers plan, not Tywins, Tywin merely adopted it as his own because Littlefinger was right.. it was the best plan for the Lannisters to hold onto power. The reality is Littlefinger was the true leader, the pupeteer  who had played his part perfectly to get what he wanted  by letting Tywin take the plan as his own... which could only be done by recognizing that "you should never outshine the master"... (a rule from Robert Greenes 48 Laws of Power). Littlefinger takes the backseat (even though he is the true leader in the conversation and the mastermind), taking all Tywins remarks on the chin, and in the end watches as Tywin, his master, puts Littlefingers entire plan into works as if he, Tywin, was the one who thought of it  all to begin with.  The leader of the realm for that entire season wasn't the Alpha lord Tywin (the lion, an outward figure of strength and respect) like Tate and manosphere types would have suggested... it was Littlefinger (the pupeteer behind the curtain, the water which took whatever shape required to fulfill his end-game/goals).

Fun fact: Nobody beat Littlefinger in Game of Thrones besides the Gods of the Seven Kingdoms.  In all sense of the word he was the GOAT of the show and the shows scripting died when he died.  Even though he was painted as a lowly worm, a common brothelhouse pimp at the beginning by another "alpha" Lord Neddard Stark, by the end he was the pupeteer who caused kings and queens to rise and fall at his discretion.   Viewers had nothing but respect for Littlefinger, many loved him because he truly made the show great to watch and was clearly calling all the shots without any force or gile, just by using his  "Little Finger" to convince people it was in their interest to do things that would also benefit LittleFinger in the process. Everyone who followed LittleFingers plans benefitted from them, or they wouldnt have followed them as if the plans were their own.  Bran beat Littlefinger solely by  greenseeing (which was an ability only given to him by the grace of the Gods) into the past and future to see Littlefingers entire plan. In reality, Littlefinger was the mental alpha/leader in the entire show... it cannot be argued that the whole show was based around his cunning plans.  The only people close to being as remarkable and respectable to the viewer was  Tyrion, Tywin, and Jon Snow... being notable mentions for their various other positive leadership attributes... like Jons duty, humility, self-righteousness, determination  and kindness to the weak, and strength against the wicked.... Tywins sternness, attention to business, and no bullshit mentality...and  Tyrions good natured cunning and ability to form strong and lasting relationships exactly when needed.  If you took all their positive attributes and cast aside their negatives, and molded them into a single person... you would have the supreme leader that most people would favor and  not only want to work with but also get behind and  in front of when called upon.  Yet strangely enough this single person with all those great traits would be a stark  contrast to what many manosphere types emphasize as the "Alpha Man Mindset".

Ignoring the actual relationship problems, in what world did you think that the WSO off topic forum was the place to get good, actionable advice on this situation? 
 

Half the people here have never touched a woman, much less built functional relationships.