Have women become too sensitive? Or have I spent too much time with the bros?

Went on a date, thought it went well. Then found out we were incompatible because she said she didn't like how I kept teasing her. Pretty innocent stuff too, like it started to drizzle a bit and she said we needed to go inside immediate. I replied a little rain won't kill you. Am I spending too much time with the finance bros? Have I lost all sensitivity or caring for others?

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Honestly I thought this before too about the like gentle teasing. When I'm with the boys, we talk shit like constantly to one another (joking, of course), and thats just kind of how I am now. I always do like a little gentle teasing but got like shut down fairly hard for it a while back and was trying to figure out where I overstepped. Honestly I don't think it's all women in any way, I just think it depends person to person. I've had girls laughing their ass off at my teasing since then. It sucks when you get iced for stuff like that, but shit happens. Idk about the rain. Man, woman, girl on date, or drunk friend walking with my outside a bar, if anyone bitches about a little fucking water they are inviting in some shit talk from me.

I wouldn't say you've lost all sensitivity or your ability to care for others haha.

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group culture, on average women expect less teasing right away in my experience, but there are plenty who can give/take. Overall, do tone it down- you're always competing with bros for dominance a little but women compete differently (more subtle)

 

She probably spent a while doing her hair and makeup. Drizzling/humidity ruins that instantly and is annoying as fuck. If this happened near the beginning of your date, does come off as a little obtuse.

As for girls being sensitive - am female, my friends (guys and girls) and I are all horrible to each other lol and imo I couldn't date someone who didn't tease me when I do stupid or over-the-top shit, but there's a difference between that and teasing someone when they're actually annoyed/uncomfortable.

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Brotip: If you haven't realized yet, she was worried about the rain ruining her hair/makeup. Then you basically added on to her insecurities by making fun of her. On a date. When you're supposed to be charming. Or witty. You were neither. Nice man.

Judging from you thinking the date went well, you don't know how to read the room. Body language basics.

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keep negging the shit out of her, over text message. she will be back in no time. also could try sending dick pics. godspeed.

 

I hope you were alpha and threw your Armani coat over a puddle for her. Or were you beta and kept your Men's Warehouse clearance rack coat on?

 

You know that saying, if you look around the room and can't spot the idiot, it's you?

Well, when you sit around thinking that half the human population has gone soft, it probably just means you're a dick and everyone else is doing just fine.

 
"kakaman"Pretty innocent stuff too, like it started to drizzle a bit and she said we needed to go inside immediate. I replied a little rain won't kill you.

Glad I finished sipping down my water, because this definitely would've made me choke and spit. Dude, that's funny.

But you can't speak that way to women. If you can't make them feel "safe" and "valid", it ain't gonna fly.

On the other hand, look for different women who don't have a softspot for that sort of thing.

 

Honestly it depends on the woman. I am a woman and I never rlly get offended unless the guy seems like a total jackass. You probably just have a dryer sense of humor and there r plenty of women out there like that. In all honesty I kind of like when guys are like that. Nothings worse than a guy who's awkward and boring. Then there's no liveliness or conversation

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Unless you're from 1970s western Pennsylvania where the rain is actual acid I'd say the shit talk is totally warranted

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