How do you cope with being single for a long time?
As much as I love love, I just... feel like it isn't worth it. I don't know anyone at all that's been in a long relationship or married and is truly happy, but I meet plenty of single people that do seem pretty enthusiastic about their lives.
Has anyone else mulled over this as well?
I've noticed the opposite...
Are you a male? You only get better with time as a man. You want to milk being single and successful for as long as damn possible. This is a no brainer. You get to reap the rewards of your hard work. Why would you settle down before your peak “value” in the sexual marketplace. Enjoy life and being as free and successful as you can.
A woman is born with value, while a man has to create their value and build themselves from the ground up in wealth, confidence, and physical appearance. A man IS the prize at the end of the day because thousands of woman turn 18 every single day, while there is a very limited supply of tall, confident, wealthy, and attractive high-value men.
The modern average woman today (at least in the U.S. I can’t speak for elsewhere) does NOT want to settle for the average man even if the woman is on a biological clock. Outside of maternal instincts of having a child, they no longer NEED a man to survive due to the rise of successful females in the corporate workplace. In many major cities, we see young female income becoming just as high as young male income. Do you see the mismatch here?
Do you consider yourself a high value man?
Kevin Samuel????
"Just work on yourself and the girls will come to you" has to be the worst dating advice in the world.
You'd think that after dozens of posts like "why am I still a virgin I have an investment banking job" or "help is she a gold digger" on this website every single day, people would stop saying this, but alas.
It's like only lifting or running if you want to be a football player. Sure, all the best football players are good overall athletes, but to get good at football, you need to play a lot of football.
agreed. and noted that you have read the rational male.
Lol never heard of that book honestly, I got all my insight from the Fresh and Fit podcast. I guess they got their info from the book though lmao
Jerk off to keep your mind sane
How old are you?
When you find the right person it's pretty great but dating is a pain so getting there can be daunting at times. I would say that the people that aren't truly happy typically end up being the people that settled in their relationship instead of holding out for the right person. To your point though, being single has its benefits, doing what you want when you want without needing to worry about anyone else's input is nice. At the end of the day it really boils down to individual personalities, I enjoy my personal space and doing things on my own so being single doesn't phase me but there are plenty of people who are the opposite and need another person in their life and bounce from one relationship to another.
And are you attractive?
and what about sex?
A bit, 6'2" 200lb athletic guy with a pretty face...I may be looking at this through rose-colored glasses as dating has never been a problem for me.
You need to date enough women (either casually or seriously) so that you realize that conversation and personality are the #1 factors in a long term relationship, and looks and beauty can only get you so far. Of course physical traits are very important, but smooth conversation, intellectual curiosity, and warm personality are essential for long term happiness.
But in today's world we have high divorce rate because people only follow or settle for what they "think" they like, not what they actually need.
I tend to agree. I’ve definitely had relationships with chicks high on the hot/crazy scale and honestly the craziest thing I have ever encountered is when a really hot chick doesn’t get her way.
Do you date a 7 with a stellar personality or do you date a 9 with good (not great) personaility
What is a long time?
A truly powerful man jealously guards his most precious resources; his independence and ability to manoeuvre. In other words his options and his ability to exercise them.
I agree with you that it's usually more often than not, not worth it. Unless it is someone I can really see myself being with for a long time, with the personality qualities of empathy, perceptiveness, self awareness, maturity and willingness to better themselves. Theres no point wasting time and energy on starting a relationship if it wouldn't last long. Unless there's the possibility I can learn from the person, and build something solid with them, and only if they value me as a person and what I can provide for their lives. I'd rather be single and in fact do plan to be single for the many years to come.
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