How to develop a social life late in college
I’m a junior student who was really social in high school and early college but didn’t develop a great social network because I didn’t rush my first year. I regret not rushing but I completely underestimated how important greek life is here and I wasn’t huge in the party scene.
I rushed my sophomore year and ended up pledging at a frat where I didn’t mesh well with the people and ended up getting dropped because I missed a “mandatory brotherhood event” right before a. I ended up getting a great offer, which I am extremely grateful for, but I have felt increasingly lonely and lost this semester because I haven’t had the stress of recruiting distracting me from my lacking social life. I also live alone because all my past roommates are in their frat houses. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even know who I’ll live with in NY next summer, which continues to stress me out.
I’ve tried to remain involved on campus but it’s hard to get close to people when it seems like everyone already has their group. I truly miss having a solid group to hang out with. I’m making this post because it’d be great to hear if anyone has had a similar experience and how they coped, and I’d just like some reassurance that there will be things to look forward to socially after college.