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bhejafried, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Hello, From your description it reads like you could have grandparents living in India or at least South Asia.Β 

If I were in your shoes, I would just get their number, call them up and start speaking to them. Don't hesitate at all. In fact they would love it that their grandchild took the initiative and got in touch with them. And keep calling them on a weekly/ bi-weekly basis and the relationship would just get automatically built and strengthened.

If you don't do this now, you might regret not doing it for a lifetime.

All the best!

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whereisthealpha, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Just to follow on with what this guy said, if you don't know what to talk about, just ask them questions about their lives. Everyone has lived a life of crazy stories that they want to share. I am from a similar place, and one thing I love to do is ask my grandparents and even parents about their lives, especially their early lives. I also like to research the history of my country and ask my relatives what is was like to live through some historical event or period. If you want to take it one step further, you could even document some of these stories to tell to your kids one day, and they can tell their kids one day, like a living history of your ancestry. The stories of your relatives will be lost forever without someone to carry them forward.

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Miracle1111, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I agree with what everyone else has said. Don't make it about you. The fact that they have lived such different lives than you means they have a wealth of knowledge and experiences that you don't have. They probably don't get a chance to talk about their lives that much. I've spent a lot of time around the elderly, and many older people just want to be heard. They have a lot to share, but they don't have many people that care to listen to them. Tell them you want to learn about your culture, your family, and their lives. Just let them talk and see where the conversation goes. You're not looking to find things in common or relate to them (even though that can happen). You're looking to experience them while they're here. Don't talk to them. Listen to them and see where the conversation flows.

Also, I'm not saying this is you at all, but I just want to say it. It's easy to fall into the trap and think that our families and people who live/lived in villages or developing countries are less sophisticated and don't know as much as we do, but people have lived like that a lot longer than the way we have in developed nations like the U.S. There's a lot of wisdom in the way they have done things, and they have their lifestyle because it works. There really is a lot to learn from it. I'm not going to get into the science about happiness and health, but there's a strong argument that the way we do things in the west is more toxic despite all our technological advancements.

I digress, though. My point is they have a lot of wisdom you can learn from. Ask them about their lives, childhood, parents, and grandparents. They're probably the only people alive that can teach you about your family and great great grandparents.

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Isaiah_53_5 πŸ’ŽπŸ™ŒπŸ’ŽπŸ™ŒπŸ’Ž, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Go visit them. Take some pictures. When you have grandchildren show them the pictures. It's the cirrrrrcle of liiiiifeeee.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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bawstin, what's your opinion? Comment below:

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