Reflecting on Dating Life - Every Girl I've Dated Has Same Background!

I've recently come to realize that pretty much every single girl I've even remotely been associated with for more than a night shares the following background:

  • Tall (5'8-5'11 is my usual range I think)
  • Top sorority
  • Top private/boarding school
  • Rich dad
  • 2000-5000 Instagram followers
  • Expensive outfits/lifestyle (Van Cleef bracelets, weekends in Mallorca during the semester, etc)
  • Blonde or light brunette
  • Green/blue eyes
  • Blacks out 3-4x a week at bars on campus

Although this may very well be the top tier of women (without getting into aristocrat/billionaire territory) in terms of optics/financials/prestige, I wonder if I should diversify my romantic life into other ethnicities and socioeconomic backgrounds.

Thoughts?

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Please take all the snobbish WASP private school Beckies you desire. I could never seriously date them in college, maybe I just couldn't relate to them because I didn't come from that sort of background. I'm also incredibly stingy on dates (i.e. I pay for cheap ice cream/boba on date 1 and make the girl pay for dinner on date 2) if I'm not cuffed, which is a surprisingly effective screening tool but never goes down well with the rich sorority girl types who seem to expect the world from the jump. Then again, I'm in my mid-20s so what do I know.

My type is the sleeper low-to-middle-income, slightly-whitewashed East/South Asian baddie with traditional family values, a plan to make it out of the mud, and a meaningful appreciation for the little things in life beyond fancy dinners, digicam thirst traps on their Instagram, and exotic vacations. From my experience those types make for the best partners

 

wouldn't that be kinda tough for optics? imagine you take your fiance to an offsite and your PE MF/tiger cub hotshot bosses expect it to be a 5'11 blonde model but instead its a working class ethnic girl.

 

I’m working class ethnic myself so I’d be fine on that front. Plus the girl often doesn’t need to do much talking so as long as she has good manners and looks good, what more can you ask for in that context?

 

i get where u coming from but making girls paying for dinner on 2nd date is kinda insane lol all of them will run away for sure.
but yea always prefer women who work hard to get what they want and come from average to above average family background more than clueless / spoiled nepo baby. no offense to them but the moment i start to talk to them i don't see anything special. without their parent's money, they would never have been there.

 
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You and all my female friends think it sounds insane but i run the same damn playbook every time. First date is always something low cost which I can pay for to appear chivalrous, followed by a walk around somewhere nice, we hold hands + kiss + ????

Second date (if we at least makeout on date 1) is a sit down dinner where the girl honestly offers to pay 1/2 the time, and I always take em up on that offer especially if I like them because now I can say cheekily I’ll owe them one and can take them to a nicer place next time for our third. Key point being that I won’t go on a second date if there wasn’t some (doesn’t have to be crazy )physical progression on date 1 to give me a sign that she thinks I’m cute

This is a really useful screening tool in finding people who are actually interested in spending time with me and not just filling time with free meals from a guy they are lukewarm about

 

That sounds like a lot of the women that I know of.  And pretty much all of them ended up marrying men who had certain things in common. 

 

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