Seeing ex-situationship at a wedding

I'll keep this as concise as possible. Imagine there's a girl who's been in your life for a long time that you've expressed feelings for, with mixed reciprocation. You date on/off for a little while. Then you get a text out of the blue that said she doesn't want to see or talk to you anymore; she blocks your number before you can respond. At this point, you'll likely never see her again. BUT then you find out that she was invited to and RSVP'd to your one mutual friend's wedding in two months. It turns out that you will see her one more time-- dressed up, drunk, on a dance floor.

How do you act? What do you say? Unfortunately I am incapable of being a normal person when it comes to human interaction. I feel like I'll need to take some sort of action. The obvious answer is to bring a 10/10 as a plus-one date, but I'm too late for that.

16 Comments
 

Live your best life. Don't worry about that other chick. Have fun.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
Funniest

I’m the girl OP is talking about. Can confirm that I will be dressed up, drunk, and dancing. Please, please, please, come up to me so I can make a scene, walk around gossiping, and ruin this wonderful occasion for everyone. Of course, I will also be giving you mixed signals just to fw you and leech off your energy.

 

Bring a hot date and barely notice her, it'll make her feel insecure if she's there alone. If she drinks at the reception, engages you, and seems friendly enough, maybe try your luck for a threesome. Obviously these probably don't work out if she's got her own date, but just because there's a goalie...

"If you don't have any enemies in life you have never stood up for anything" - Winston Churchill | "It's a testament to the sheer belligerence of the profession that people would rather argue about the 'risk-adjusted returns' of using inferior tooth cleaning methods." - kellycriterion
 

She has little relevance in your life. If a girl were asking this, her friends would say leave him as a footnote in her life story. You do the same. After this feminist movement a lot of girls don't like being chased and like being the one in control.

 

OP update here-- per the suggestions, I acted normal/tame, having no more than a few brief / reasonably friendly interactions with said girl, mostly in a group setting. I sat near her at the afterparty with the hope of engaging in some more serious conversation, but that never materialized. At one point she was about to leave with her friend/ride, but another guy she's hooked up with showed up just then, and she decided to stay, attributable directly to his presence. Now I'm depressed!

 

Ab nostrum asperiores perspiciatis maxime placeat velit. Eos doloribus fuga odit asperiores quia et. Inventore quod aut enim dolor doloribus enim. Optio culpa similique cumque qui aspernatur.

Nam cupiditate quasi iusto nihil libero accusamus reprehenderit. Perferendis quia placeat possimus deserunt accusantium placeat. Consequuntur porro commodi quidem pariatur quia corrupti impedit quos. Distinctio rem sint tempora eaque repudiandae et veniam.

Career Advancement Opportunities

June 2026 Investment Banking

  • Evercore 01 99.4%
  • Moelis & Company 01 98.8%
  • JPMorgan 01 98.2%
  • Guggenheim Partners 01 97.7%
  • Morgan Stanley 07 97.1%

Overall Employee Satisfaction

June 2026 Investment Banking

  • Moelis & Company No 99.4%
  • Morgan Stanley 01 98.8%
  • Evercore 01 98.2%
  • BMO Capital Markets 12 97.6%
  • Banco Santander 01 97.1%

Professional Growth Opportunities

June 2026 Investment Banking

  • Moelis & Company No 99.4%
  • Evercore No 98.8%
  • Morgan Stanley 05 98.2%
  • JPMorgan No 97.7%
  • BMO Capital Markets 12 97.1%

Total Avg Compensation

June 2026 Investment Banking

  • Vice President (14) $434
  • Associates (43) $259
  • 3rd+ Year Analyst (8) $210
  • 2nd Year Analyst (22) $179
  • Intern/Summer Associate (13) $156
  • 1st Year Analyst (75) $151
  • Intern/Summer Analyst (66) $101
notes
16 IB Interviews Notes

“... there’s no excuse to not take advantage of the resources out there available to you. Best value for your $ are the...”

Leaderboard

1
redever's picture
redever
99.2
2
BankonBanking's picture
BankonBanking
99.0
3
kanon's picture
kanon
99.0
4
Secyh62's picture
Secyh62
99.0
5
dosk17's picture
dosk17
98.9
6
GameTheory's picture
GameTheory
98.9
7
Betsy Massar's picture
Betsy Massar
98.9
8
DrApeman's picture
DrApeman
98.9
9
CompBanker's picture
CompBanker
98.9
10
Linda Abraham's picture
Linda Abraham
98.8
success
From 10 rejections to 1 dream investment banking internship

“... I believe it was the single biggest reason why I ended up with an offer...”