Someone called me an incel - Standards too high

Shameless post with my username because cant post anonymously anymore:

Someone recently asked me for my bodycount. I told them the answer it was 10, head included, and all except 3 were one night stands.

I'm 24 and very active socially so they expressed surprise and jokingly said I was a borderline incel and I realized I feel like one.

All my friends are easily in their 50s if not 100s of bodies but when we go out they have the will power to pick up chicks that aren't very attractive and are always willing to take one for the team and they admitted its these 3/10s that are the most of their body count. 

For some reason I do not have that ability and usually only go for girls that are crazy attractive, at least 8/10 and anything below that I legit can't talk to her romantically and do not have any motivation to pursue even when i'm drunk.

I am the same with food, I have a very small array of food that I eat and anything else I basically have to scoff it down and pretend like I like it especially when I am in a public setting.

In my private life I eat mostly the same thing everyday. 

I am not trying to brag that I only bang super hot chicks because realistically I average sleeping with a girl 1 - 3 times a year (2021 only have been with 1 girl) and if you think about it thats not something to brag about. 

Feel like I'm missing out and haven't had a wild youth and that dude calling me an incel basically made me realize I had felt this way subconsciously but never addressed it.

I lost my virginity quite late for a social butterfly @ 19 despite having some girls show interest here and there and I think this is where it stems from. I waited so long, figuratively, for the right girl, its now my nature to keep doing that and my sex life feels stale because I basically only want to be with instagram and runway models. 

Its kinda affecting my confidence and I don't know how to deal with it, I am also an average looking guy so there's that. 

What do you guys think. Should I just ignore the fear of missing out. I am basically in my mid 20s so I do not think I can change this behavior easily. Are any of you also like this as well?

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Thanks for the reply. I always thought 10 wasn't that terrible but because it was spread over 4 years it seems like such a rarity to actually hook up with someone. And yeah you're right, its not like I woke up a better person after all that or felt any difference other than a small sense of pride. 

I also kinda hate the judging of people based off their body count culture. We're grooming a lot of people who'll be unable to form significant attachments to their spouses. I don't think you ever get it out of your system by sleeping with tons of people. If you've banged 150+ women in a short spree, I don't think stopping during a relationship will be as easy as anticipated. 

 
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Studies show an inverse correlation between pre-marital sex partners and divorce rates with the clear min divorce rate at 0 pre-martial sex partners (over 4X less than even 1 pre-marital sex partner). 

Those screaming "incel!" are far more likely to be the ones who lose 50% NW and have to make child support payments.  

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