Threesome thoughts, after effects, overall good/bad idea?

Need some food for thought. My gf has been toying with the idea of a threesome for some time. I want to look into it but only if it won’t alter our relationship for the worst. Any experiences anyone can share good or bad?

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SirSherman

Need some food for thought. My gf has been toying with the idea of a threesome for some time. I want to look into it but only if it won't alter our relationship for the worst. Any experiences anyone can share good or bad?

Never happened.

 
SirSherman

Need some food for thought. My gf has been toying with the idea of a threesome for some time. I want to look into it but only if it won't alter our relationship for the worst. Any experiences anyone can share good or bad?

Troll, or cuck. Pick 1 

 

Have not done it and don´t plan to, even though the fantasy is really exciting to me (both FFM and MMF). If my time in relationships has taught me anything, it´s that a fantasy rarely comes for free and in the form you imagine it. E.g. lately my gf and I did something I had fantasized about for quite some time - guess what, even though it was super hot, there was a lot of awkwardness and shame after it. And now imagine another person, who you don´t know that well, and don´t have a connection with. You all might cum and have your fantasy technically fulfilled, but I can promise you that the emotional fallout will hurt at least one of you, and you can never undo the act itself. Oh, and "unicorns" don´t exist, if your gf has a good relationship with the 3rd party, it´s you who is being left out.

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I had a threesome with my roommate and her girlfriend one evening after a night on the town in NYC. We had some coke and we were all jacked up. We were just talking in the kitchen and all of a sudden my roommate's girlfriend just started unbuttoning my pants and then it started. We didn't plan it or anything.

It really messed up my roommate's head and she kind of went crazy after that and caused me some real life problems that I had to deal with including when I did not pay attention to her and did not go out with her anymore and in retaliation she called 911 and lied to the cops to get me arrested. I didn't do anything and they threw out the charges, but I still had to go to jail and court every month for 6 months until the prosecutor dropped the charges. 

Overall, I think if you're bringing a crazy element into a relationship, you may have to suffer the consequences. Is your girlfriend bi? What if she falls for this other chick? A lot of things could happen. To be honest though, it was pretty cool in the moment. 

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I had a threesome with my roommate and her girlfriend one evening after a night on the town in NYC. We had some coke and we were all jacked up. We were just talking in the kitchen and all of a sudden my roommate's girlfriend just started unbuttoning my pants and then it started. We didn't plan it or anything.

It really messed up my roommate's head and she kind of went crazy after that and caused me some real life problems that I had to deal with including when I did not pay attention to her and did not go out with her anymore and in retaliation she called 911 and lied to the cops to get me arrested. I didn't do anything and they threw out the charges, but I still had to go to jail and court every month for 6 months until the prosecutor dropped the charges. 

Overall, I think if you're bringing a crazy element into a relationship, you may have to suffer the consequences. Is your girlfriend bi? What if she falls for this other chick? A lot of things could happen. To be honest though, it was pretty cool in the moment. 

Never happened.

 

Have had a couple, one in a relationship with my gf and her friend and the other with two chicks I met at a club. If I'm being totally honest, they're a bit overrated and more work than they're worth. Definitely fun to have the notch on your belt though so by all means man, have a blast. 

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That's kind of what happened to me, it was with a girl I was seeing and her roommate at the time. It was an accident and idk if I'd do it again, one of them was a major bitch. Definitely 2 girls though, not 2 guys, a la Lawrence from Office Space

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Wing it.  Outside of that first time in college when there was a girl, every threesome I've done involved a married couple. The bottom was generally more into it and we mostly just  ahem'd him. 

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You better have all your ducks in a row and make sure everything is discussed beforehand, especially if your girlfriend is part of it. A lot of things sound good in theory but don't work out the way you expect in reality. Threesomes are one of those things and you better have a very open and honest relationship with someone if you expect everything to stay the same after. 

 

It injects some additional complexity into the relationship that may royally fuck things up. Say you bring in another girl. Is your girlfriend going to freak out 2 weeks later when you’re talking to that girl at a party (even just casually)? What if that girl now wants to pursue something with you? What if your girlfriend thinks that you paid more attention to the other girl during the threesome? What if you did and are more into that other girl? All sorts of splinter outcomes that are at a bare minimum a headache for you.

Only one way to do a threesome and it’s with random people that you’ll never see again. Preferably in Vegas or Miami.

 

If it's just for fun and you see no future with this gf, then sure. But if you care at all about this relationship, DO NOT DO IT. So many ways this can go wrong:

1) it it's a another dude she falls for the dude

2) if it's another girl then she falls for the girl

3) she doesn't trust you

4) she feels more comfortable with cheating 

5) you feel more comfortable with cheating

6) you don't trust her

etc etc

 

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