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I couldn’t eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't go to the bathroom. It was horrible.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Yeah, it sucks. Put yourself in positions where you're forced to stay away from the other person. Go to different places to eat, hang out, etc. It'll go away within a couple weeks.

 

This is obviously spot on advice, but man when you're going through it (especially that first time) it's so hard to follow. You are so optimistic that you can make things work out despite it being clear to anyone on outside that it's over.

I remember after our breakup she wanted to play the 'lets still be friends' card, and we would hang out just the two of us doing things every once and a while for a few months after. Never been more confused in my life, because it felt like she was signaling 'hey, make a move, fight for me' but whenever I did it wasnt reciprocated. But then a few weeks after she would want to go do X activity just the two of us together.

Ultimately, and I'm not even sure if she was concious of this or not, women will just do that shit to see if you are still on the hook for them. Think it's like a weird ego boost they get.

Live and learn.

 

And block her number. Do not give into the guilt game of her coming back about "I'm sorry. I messed up. Maybe we can work something out and try again?" It sucks, but ya'll broke up for a reason and it was obviously a potent enough one.

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Was so surprised. I literally laid in the dark in my room for 48 hours no eating / drinking / going to the bathroom. My abs looked great after I finally came up for air though.

Worst part about heartbreak for me is the feeling of being deeply betrayed or like I wasted a ton of time and effort. Heartbreak is just mourning the opportunity cost you left on the table genuinely believing you thought it would work. It’s the worst emotional pain you can experience but it does fade away…expect the wound te reopen if you see the person around or on social media. Best to go no contact

 

Whew, I start sweating thinking about it.  I was right around 19-20 y.o. and it hit me in a way I never imagined was possible.  In hindsight it's laughable and almost a badge of honor to make it through but thinking back to the feeling in the moment makes me cringe.  I was convinced that it was over for me and I'd feel that way for the rest of my life.  Young love is WILD.  

Trading war stories of heartbreak with the fellas is always a good time.   

 
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Being young and so attached to someone can lead to horrible things, that empty hole feeling in my chest and the pain that seems to come out of nowhere. It's devastating.

Bro as a late bloomer who didnt have first heart break until 20s it SUCKS when you are trying to balance that with your job. Heartbreak is all part of the learning process and coming of age as you turn into an adult, and one day you will actually miss that naive 'in love' feeling for how fleeting it was. As you get older your relationships have much more substance, but you are also more confident and comfortable in yourself, and dont really develop that same teenage love type feeling.

Be happy you experienced it. Many dont, and that's a shame.

 

Oh, buddy. I am so sorry. If I only learned one thing from that experience, it was this: Loss of your first true love is always going to hurt. But it won’t always hurt as much as it does today. 

 

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It kinda sucks how your first love gives you your first heart break. But time heals all wounds. Best you can do is to improve on yourself. 

Your first love doesn't really give you that much heartbreak if you break up with them. I feel like it is the worst when you're in love and they break up with you.

I was 27 when the latter happened to me. I went from NYC to Philly for a few months and then wanted to go move to Lake Como, Italy. I had a flight from Philly to Zurich and a first class train ticket to Italy. I was staying at a Philly airport hotel and this chick came to Philly to stop me from going to Italy. Then we got back together and broke up again in what was a fiery ball of flames that sucked even more than the first time.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Yea I had several long relationships in college and after that I was never 100% into, and broke them off myself, so getting over was pretty quick and painless lol

But when you're on the other foot - especially the first time, man it stings. Also a bit of an ego death

 

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