Would you be opposed to your parents setting you up w someone
So I'm 24 now and in the second year of my job which has been going well but have been thinking more about my personal life as of late.
I have been dating around here and there when I have time, but mostly just casually and I think after college it's hard to find someone who is really aligned with your long term goals. My parents set me up on a date with a girl in med school who is pretty and very smart, but I have some internal hesitation just because of the stigma, but there is something to be said about having the girls family vouched for, etc and I feel like parents can know what's best for you at some point.
I would recommend being more independent and finding girls on your own.
Finding the right person regardless of source is important - there are more considerations on how you treat the person/seriousness of relationship if it comes thru family (things get serious quicker, less acceptable to smash and dip lol). However, you're only 24 right now, unless you are of some specific religious/social background where you are expected to have kids super early what's the rush?
Partially because a few of my good friends are getting married, but they are 3-4 years older than me, so I think waiting and having fun dating for now might make sense. Yea, part of what I struggle with getting introduced is there is a lot more expectation around it going somewhere versus just someone I find through friends or apps where I have more freedom.
Doesn’t sound like you have anything to lose by meeting her. You’re thinking of passing on a “cute.. smart” girl because of some phantom “stigma” of… your parents introducing you to someone?
I dated a girl a few years ago and her parents set her up with a successful guy in the US that she had never met for marriage. They had kids, but the marriage didn't last.
The decline of familial involvement in partner selection correlates pretty highly with the rise of divorce. Def not the soul point of causation since the rise of of no fault divorce is undoubtedly a bigger contributor. But I think there's an argument to be made that the people closest to you often know you better than yourself and those who have successful long-term relationships (often parents, but probably less so these days for the audience of WSO at least the American ones) know what traits to look for in a life partner vs a horny 20-something.
That said, setting up? No, we can meet. Actually having them arrange a partner? Yes I would be opposed. Do not want long-term relationship input from either of my parents.
Lol wut?
There is no need for hesitation, meet her and decide if you like her. Who cares how you met? It probably is better that she's more 'vetted' but even if we assume that doesn't matter, it's just another opportunity to meet a girl. If you don't click then move on, and if you do it could be something great
This is a retarded question the answer is obv meet her
Sounds like OP is a nerdy Indian who can’t get any.
You are not wrong but the OP could be Asian. Arranged relationships are probably more common in those communities than in the caucasian world
You're going to get stupid viewpoints from multi-generational culture-less anglos obviously, but if you come from a culture where this is common, def go for it if nothing else if working out. Parents should be able to get you a good match that hits all neccessary components (class, attractiveness, family background/status etc..). How the majority of wealthy LATAM/Mideast/Subcontinent families and even wealthy europeans operate today.
Outside of culture devoid America I feel like this pretty common across the world including in Europe to your point, places where people maintain strong social bonds with their broader communities
I probably wouldn't but a high school friend of mine met his wife this way after he graduated from med school (her parents literally set them up to date once they found out he has a M.D.). Kind of hilarious how some cultures obsess over this including their American born daughters too I guess?
His wife is gorgeous and way beyond his league too. Lucky guy.
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