Lost in my Career

I am a bit lost in my career. I did 2 years of EB IB, 2 years in UMM PE and did not get Sr Associate (performance was good & have great references, came down to headcount / need). I have gotten to 8 superdays and received an offer but declined it due to personal reasons. At this point, I've been out of a gig for 3 months and really have no idea what to do and feel a lot of interpersonal pressure to make a decision. I want to do MM/UMM PE (hopefully at a better culture) and think I would like the career long-term (mix of comp, enjoy investing and like doing deals) but not what to do next / how I can get out of my hole. 

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Based on the most helpful WSO content, here are some actionable steps and insights to help you navigate your career situation:

  1. Reflect on Your Experience and Skills:

    • Consider the skills and experience you've gained from your time in EB IB and UMM PE. These are valuable assets that can be leveraged in your job search.
  2. Networking:

    • Use your network to find opportunities. Reach out to former colleagues, mentors, and industry contacts. Networking can often lead to opportunities that aren't publicly advertised.
  3. Craft a Compelling Story:

    • Reflect on your career journey and craft a narrative that highlights your strengths, experiences, and what you bring to the table. This will be useful in interviews and networking conversations.
  4. Consider Temporary Roles:

    • If you're struggling to find a permanent position, consider taking on temporary roles or consulting gigs. This can help you stay active in the industry and continue building your resume.
  5. Focus on Firms with Better Culture:

    • Since you mentioned wanting a better culture, research firms known for their positive work environments. Look for companies with strong employee reviews and a reputation for good work-life balance.
  6. Stay Persistent:

    • Job searches can be challenging, especially in competitive fields like PE. Stay persistent and keep applying to roles that align with your career goals.
  7. Leverage Online Resources:

    • Utilize online resources such as WSO, LinkedIn, and other finance career platforms to find job postings, connect with industry professionals, and gain insights into the job market.
  8. Consider Further Education or Certifications:

    • If you feel it would be beneficial, consider pursuing additional certifications or courses that can enhance your qualifications and make you a more competitive candidate.

Remember, many professionals face career uncertainties and setbacks. It's important to stay focused on your long-term goals and take proactive steps to move forward. Good luck!

Sources: I was fired today, don't know what to do...., Quitting IB in 2023 - Burnout, I'm so lost, I have no idea what I want in life anymore. Any tips on soul searching?, Handling Stress / Burnout in Private Equity

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Same boat as you...regretting a bit not going to business school to wait out the hiring market...

At this point feel like best option is to go back to banking and continue to recruit for investing. Could probably try consulting for better culture / lower pay too. 

 

There is so much talent swimming around looking for a new gig. Every investing junior seat will get 250+ apps in the first hour which is just insane. Just wait for the backlog to clear out 1Q25 and things will become easier towards the middle of the year. I am seriously considering a startup role or a corpdev until then.

 

I'm recruiting for those over-vacated seats and hoping for an early/earlier conversion to be honest. I don't expect to get "credit for time served".

 

Not that early, and not sure I am re-entering PE.

Why? Because I do not care about prestige and want to do fun, meaningful things with happy people for a change.

 
  1. Are you single? 
  2. Have you thought about an MBA

You need a shake up and an MBA does that. Find some people with an alternate perspective to broaden your horizons. You basically have two choices from here: jump around to PE shops hoping for a seat, getting paid well, and feeling lost and unhappy with your career or hop off the path and explore some alternate options. The MBA is great since it will let you explore and give you time to process and if you are dreading PE still at the end of your degree, you know it wasn't a fleeting feeling and you should pivot to an alternate industry.

 

1. Yes, single male 

2. I don't think I am ready for VP role and had a pretty bad Associate experience so don't want to spend $200k to lose on recruiting. I can go back to banking for a year to figure things out

I like PE and would still do it if value of carry was 0. I like the game of investing and think it can be a great gig if you find the right spot.

 

I know the single question is weird, but I’ve found it’s very related with my friends who are happy with their careers and lives. Everyone wants different things, but I struggle to think of someone who isn’t in a relationship that is happy at 30+. They say they are, but a pretty big part of the human experience is having a partner to share things with. Also, as you get older, the number of partnered people increases and you kinda lose friends/people gradually have less and less time because of wives, kids, etc.

Based on your description, it sounds like you are 26 give or take, as someone over 30 a few thoughts:

  1. At some point ideally pre 30, you want to have a relationship. Its hard to do that on the PE path. Dating requires time investment and predictability of a schedule, not really common in deal based roles. I just mention it because if you only hold “grind” based roles and aren’t partnered up when are you going to date? Again, another reason why I mention the MBA. Gives you time and a great environment to do this. The girls in those programs are very aggressive and both the guys and girls are very educated and capable which makes for a good dating and friend making pool (I actually knew a ton of people who got partnered through mba friends, friends)
  2. I want to separate two comments on PE here: 1) the work is interesting and the people are smart imo 2) imo I don’t think PE is investing. The hold times are so long can you really tell if an investment is a good or bad investment? My experience was private equity investing becomes more about fundraising dynamics and politics over good ideas. This was also the conclusion of many of my peers. It created a lot of unhappiness with many of the people I know once they got to that VP level.
  3. It’s good you are recognizing the carry isn’t there. The economics are considerably worse today and it has many of my friends very unhappy that chose that path.
  4. What are you working for? The money? At a certain point, recognize you need some core purpose for your career. It could be interesting work, it could be making enough money to afford your lifestyle, but there needs to be a why? Otherwise life can be brutal.

If you don’t feel like you are working toward something and feel lost you need to find direction and inspiration. The only way to get that is generally learning what you like and dislike which requires making decisions and learning from those decisions and/or having time to reflect on life.

 

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