The time between just heading into high school and your second year of college is like dog years. You can be like five different people during that time because kids grow and change so much. It's possible your friend doesn't exist anymore. Most K-12 friendships don't survive college simply because people change so much so fast. Your friendship might have run its course.
Another reason may have nothing to do with you. Sometimes people are going through shit and don't want to talk to anyone. You'll probably never know.
However, you guys were barely friends. One conversation every couple of years isn't much of a friendship. You guys were acquaintances at best. He also did all the reaching out toward the span of your friendship. You weren't really much of a friend to him because you weren't focused on maintaining potential connections? That's a nice way of saying you really didn't give a fuck about him or being his friend. If he didn't keep reaching out to you, then you would have easily forgotten about him. I think your ego just got hurt a little because you got left on read. You'll be ok, though. He'll probably reach out to you again one day, and you'll have a chance to get back at him or be the bigger person and talk to him again.
Everything you've said is very true and I think I just needed someone else to say it . All in all, I think everything's about me and honestly I am/have been quite selfish when it comes to my interactions with others, especially with older friends (this being the first I've reached out to). Without a doubt my ego was bruised, and my first reaction was to think why wouldn't he respond ? instead of looking at the way I've been acting and realizing that the fact that I haven't made any effort to maintain the relationship myself is all the reason he needs to not respond. It's a lesson for sure, and I hope your right that we may reconnect some day when our paths cross.
You're holding yourself accountable. That's mature of you. Just remember, people don't owe us anything just because we may be sorry or are ready to change and be better. It's great for us, but people aren't obligated to accept us when it's convenient for us on our timetable. We can be as sorry as we want to be about anything and are genuinely changing, but people don't have to accept us at our convenience, or ever.
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You’re either very young and sensitive, or you have feelings for this guy
hahaha defintely don't have feelings for him just new to/bad at networking and maintaining long term friendships
The time between just heading into high school and your second year of college is like dog years. You can be like five different people during that time because kids grow and change so much. It's possible your friend doesn't exist anymore. Most K-12 friendships don't survive college simply because people change so much so fast. Your friendship might have run its course.
Another reason may have nothing to do with you. Sometimes people are going through shit and don't want to talk to anyone. You'll probably never know.
However, you guys were barely friends. One conversation every couple of years isn't much of a friendship. You guys were acquaintances at best. He also did all the reaching out toward the span of your friendship. You weren't really much of a friend to him because you weren't focused on maintaining potential connections? That's a nice way of saying you really didn't give a fuck about him or being his friend. If he didn't keep reaching out to you, then you would have easily forgotten about him. I think your ego just got hurt a little because you got left on read. You'll be ok, though. He'll probably reach out to you again one day, and you'll have a chance to get back at him or be the bigger person and talk to him again.
Everything you've said is very true and I think I just needed someone else to say it . All in all, I think everything's about me and honestly I am/have been quite selfish when it comes to my interactions with others, especially with older friends (this being the first I've reached out to). Without a doubt my ego was bruised, and my first reaction was to think why wouldn't he respond ? instead of looking at the way I've been acting and realizing that the fact that I haven't made any effort to maintain the relationship myself is all the reason he needs to not respond. It's a lesson for sure, and I hope your right that we may reconnect some day when our paths cross.
You're holding yourself accountable. That's mature of you. Just remember, people don't owe us anything just because we may be sorry or are ready to change and be better. It's great for us, but people aren't obligated to accept us when it's convenient for us on our timetable. We can be as sorry as we want to be about anything and are genuinely changing, but people don't have to accept us at our convenience, or ever.
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