7 tips for picking up women and landing the job you want

If you've read the book The Game, you know there is a community of men who devote their lives to the art and science of picking up women. While almost every young (and older) man goes at this pursuit in some haphazard and mediocre way, these men are dedicated to mastering the craft. A sport where preparation meets tools of influence, there are many parallels to mastering the game and landing the job you truly want.

Here are seven tips you can use either way: (yes, ladies, this is written to men, but these tips will work even better for you)

1. GET GOOD AT IT

You see a woman you like, what do you do? Nothing? Wish you had the balls to meet her? Go straight up to her and make a fool out of yourself? Or waltz over and close the deal?

It all depends on your confidence and how skilled you are at the game. Getting a job is the same way. You can wish you could wedge your way into the door of the job you want. You can show up and bang on the door and hope to come inside. Or you can prepare yourself to get the interview and close the deal.

It's all about preparation and the willingness to go after what you want.

2. DON'T LOSE BEFORE YOU GET STARTED

99% of men talk themselves out of approaching a woman they are attracted to. They say stuff like "she probably has a boyfriend" or "she's out of my league" or they find some reason to dismiss her "oh, she looks like a bitch," but these are just ways to avoid doing what is perceived hard-approaching and meeting her.

Most people do the same with jobs. They tell themselves their school or grades or something else means they will never land the job they want. It's all BS. If you want it, commit yourself to go for it. Put yourself on the line and put your best foot forward. This way you can never fail. Even if you don't land the job you have become a badass who goes after what you want.

3. THERE'S NO PREFERENCE FOR THE AVERAGE

The pickup artist is the opposite of nearly every other man who has approached a woman. The average chode goes up to her and has a standard/boring/awful conversation, but the pickup artist engages her differently. Quickly, she realizes this man is unique. That alone makes you more attractive.

The same is true in the job world. Having sat for years at campuses and super Saturday sessions you quickly tire of the average candidate. They're dressed the same. Their hair is the same. They say all the same things. After a while they all look the same. But then a candidate walks in who brings something different. A different energy. Their own style. Thoughtful ideas that don't sound like he read the same damn interview prep book and canned answers.

Bring your uniqueness. Stand out. Remember, there is no preference for the average.

4. MAKE YOURSELF DESIRABLE

Most people think that good looks and money make men more attractive to women, but in fact it is something much deeper that drives attraction, what you might call value.

A woman is more likely to desire a man who is valued by other people-the man who has an exciting life, who has options with women, who is well perceived by other people, who owns his own value, is likely to be valued by her too. She's likely to be less interested in the man who is desperately clambering for her attention, but the man who has everyone else's attention will quickly garner hers.

Jobs are the same. If employers want you then others will too. If other people think you are interesting and worth being around they will too. You might demonstrate this by being engaged in activities on campus. By being engaged in sports or other pursuits. You might have networked into the organization and have other people say good things about you. Whatever it is, know what makes you desirable and know how you sell it.

5. BE THE SCREENER

A pickup artist never approaches a woman from a frame of trying to get her to like him, but as though he is evaluating whether he likes her. Quickly through the language you use and questions you ask, you make it clear that you aren't the one being interviewed-you are qualifying her. You carry yourself like a man who has plenty of options and you are evaluating whether she is the type of woman you want to let into your amazing life.

Job interviews can be seen the same way. Of course, they are screening you (they have the job that you want) but you want to imagine yourself as the candidate they want evaluating whether their job is right for you. This doesn't mean you treat women like a jerk or walk into a job interview like an arrogant prick, it simply means that you know your value, and you see it as a mutual choice as to whether you are right for them and they are right for you.

6. IT'S AN EMOTIONAL JOURNEY

The other night I had the displeasure of sitting next to a beta male on his first date with a woman. Asking her boring ass questions about where she's from and things she likes to do, after five minutes her body language was screaming, get me the hell out of here. No one gets excited responding to a checklist of boring questions and no job interviewer gets exciting hearing your boring answers to their boring questions. We all respond to emotionally-laden language.

So rather than asking her where she is from tell her a funny / exciting / strange / intriguing story about where you're from, and stimulate in her the desire to share with you her life story the same way.
The same is true in a job interview. Bring the emotion that makes them want to hire you-engaging, enthusiastic, passionate, fun, intriguing, committed, what are the emotions that you want to have associated to you? Anything other than generic boring-ass answers will set you out from the herd.

7. CAN YOU CLOSE THE DEAL?

Pickup is all about the close. It doesn't matter if you can approach and engage 20 women, can you get to the number? The kiss? Them home? Can you close the deal?

The same is true in job hunting. You don't want coffees and interviews. You want job offers. Do you have the skills to not only wow them in the room but to close the deal? This is a skill. It takes forethought and planning, and leading your conversations towards the close. It takes thinking about, what actually gets them to give you an offer? What competitive dynamics fuel their demand? What can you say that might lead them to the next step?

A pickup artist might talk about something interesting back at his place that he wants to show a woman and interviewing for a job you might talk about the things that set you apart as someone they will enjoy working with.

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Sep 29, 2015 - 7:16pm
pubfinanalyst:

My god you're a dbag if you read that book

Come on man. The majority of dudes have read this book and rightfully so. For younger dudes who are just getting started with experiencing women, I always recommend this book as a right of passage. It's well written, sells the guy who wants to know "The secret of getting laid", and then delivers an awesome message at the end to just be yourself.

Sep 28, 2015 - 10:52am

haha i watched that show, "the pick up artist", had two seasons, matador was one of the dudes. the kids were soooooo awkward, it was good for a cringe and a laugh but not much more

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Sep 28, 2015 - 2:10pm

SB'd. Some really useful stuff here

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Sep 28, 2015 - 8:19pm
Going Concern:

All this PUA stuff is getting kinda old

The formula is pretty simple...have higher social value (looks, confidence, income, etc) and be assertive

It's just math

What do you mean by 'kinda'? I would have said 'extremely'.
Sep 28, 2015 - 8:31pm
DickFuld:

Going Concern:All this PUA stuff is getting kinda oldThe formula is pretty simple...have higher social value (looks, confidence, income, etc) and be assertiveIt's just math

What do you mean by 'kinda'? I would have said 'extremely'.

I think it still has some entertainment value...sort of like watching Jim Cramer talk about stocks

Sep 28, 2015 - 10:40pm

you're married and old

us single guys still gotta be on top of our game, requires a touch of soft pua talent at times, unfortunately

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Sep 28, 2015 - 10:35pm

agree, pua shit is slimy

The formula is pretty simple...have higher social value (looks, confidence, income, etc) and be assertive

Boom. half who you are, half delivery

ps roofies don't count

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Sep 29, 2015 - 9:54am
MBAGrad2015:

Getting hot girls is fairly simple. You must have AT LEAST one of these attributes, or no amount of PUA techniques will help: height, good looks, money, status, charisma.


Except one of the main "techniques" is self-improvement. Getting into shape, getting more educated, trying to get a better job, etc help with 4 of those things.

Platform shoes solve the first one :) And yes, people do that.

Sep 29, 2015 - 2:58pm
You know you've been working too hard when you stop dreaming about bottles of champagne and hordes of naked women, and start dreaming about conditional formatting and circular references.
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