A lot of guys I know including me are not naturally good with women. Even though we are easy going guys. Today, I will share a small insight which will really help you with the ladies and other people in general.
Note: If you are naturally good with women you may want to skip this:
I still cant forget what my mentor (MD at ) said to me one day.
We were at a bar and I was super bummed out as I didn't receive a single FT offer.
out of nowhere
mentor: You're not good with women are you?
sipping his drink
me: How do you know?
mentor: Because you're not very personable with people. When I first met you I thought you were an asshole.
After this incident I asked a couple of people who know me what their first impression about me was, and no one had anything good to say.
What I realized that day was that even if you are an easy going person, no one will know that until or unless as they say you break the proverbial ice. In any conversation with a stranger, there is always that moment after where you can take a sigh of relief and open up. But always remember that YOU have to be the first one to "break the ice".
Why "you" per say? Well its because people are intimidated by "you". Yes, i know it sounds strange. But if people don't naturally approach you its because they are a little daunted by you. So you have to make the effort and just say "Hi my name is ________" with a warm smile.
Let me know how it goes.