Dating App Photos for Guys?

VP in IB - Gen

OK, so a little late to the party, but finally thinking about joining a few dating apps since bars aren't an option at the moment.

Do you guys/gals have any tips? I'm aware you need 5-6 pics, but I don't have any recent ones (work 15 hours a day and the rest commuting (Pre-Covid), eating, sleeping, etc.). Similarly, can't remember when my pals and I took a group photo, always thought chicks do that more. And if you can't tell, I don't really like taking pics anyway, but I guess it's just the world we live in now.

Do pet pictures work well? My friend's gf has a poodle, haha.

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Jun 21, 2020
VP in IB - Gen:

I'm aware you need 5-6 pics, but I don't have any recent one

mirror selfies

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Jun 21, 2020

Mirror selfies with deal toys, and then they are all yours

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Jun 21, 2020
EVADCFer:

Mirror selfies with deal toys, and then they are all yours

deal toys?

https://i.pinimg.com/originals/c4/ec/21/c4ec211de7f0c0405c820390f6c0c726.jpg

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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Jun 21, 2020

Dating apps ruined dating so I strongly suggest if you've held out this long you shouldn't bother getting one now. Also mirror selfies are not allowed on apps like Bumble I believe. Maybe try having a friend take a pic of you the next time you have someone over? Also you could try using your laptop's camera to take a pic for variety. I think group photos are not the way to go because the person on the other end never knows who they're swiping on (also if your friends are better looking than you it only makes you look worse).

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  • VP in IB - Gen
Jun 21, 2020

I hear that girls like to see guys have social lives and friends, so a group photo or two implies that. But it shouldn't be your first photo and it shouldn't be a such a huge group that you're not noticeable.

Jury is still out on whether your group photo should feature good looking girls that are clearly not your mother...

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Jun 21, 2020

Definitely do not post a pic with you and other girls, women don't like that. Contrary to what someone else here has said girls absolutely do use dating apps to find their partner in life. Even if a girl is actually just looking for a hookup she will never tell you that and in the back of her mind she will always want the possibility of something more. Showcasing a type of lifestyle in your photos or in your bio that's the complete opposite of this will come across as very off-putting. I think you can still express you're social by including photos of where you travel or from different events that you've attended. And maybe you can include a pic with your buddies as an end card. Just keep in mind that can open a conversation about "how do you know so-and-so," which can be both a good and a bad thing.

Apps kind of become addicting and can become a huge time suck but there are several other reasons why they're not ideal. I'm not going to list them here as there's a ton of articles about this you can look up. I'm also not particularly for or against them but seems like you've been doing fine for a while not having bit the bullet but I get that corona is forcing you to explore more options.

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Jun 21, 2020

Girls like 3 things:

1) $$$$ and pedigree - do you work in ib/PE/hf/maybe s&t at a bb/eb, megafund or at least mm? Are you in a front office role and at the 3rd year Associate level and up? Did you go to h/y/p? Maybe they'll consider Columbia/Dartmouth/MIT but no non-Wharton Penn or half-state schools or Brown libtards allowed. And if you think that girls who are far removed from finance don't know this kind of stuff, you haven't lived in nyc very long have ya? Some of them are better versed in 2nd year analyst recruitment process than some of the newer members on here

2) an intact hairline

3) the ability to "take them on adventures" (RED fuckin flag) and "make them laugh", whatever the fuck that means

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Jun 21, 2020

Mirror pics if you have a six pack, lost mine with this whole lockdown.

Also, who knows when bars and other social venues will reopen. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.

  • Prospect in IB - Gen
Jun 21, 2020

I wonder if the guy recommending you to take a picture using your laptop's camera ever used dating apps. The first thing to know when using Tinder/Bumble/etc. is that you'll get blackpilled, and learn the harsh truth regarding the fact that 20% of men fuck 80% of women.

Now OP, if you don't have good pictures you're essentially out of the game. Females literally spend hours trying to make the perfect Instagram - and incidentally Tinder - pic, and expect you to do the same. They don't use Tinder to find a husband, so your money only provides you with a small advantage. If you really don't have any good or recent photos of yourself, wait a bit 'cause you'd just end up depressed to swipe right on so many gorgeous thots while receiving so little right swipes yourself.

You need a friend (ugly female friends are good for that) to take photos of you. Don't smile too much. Only 1 suit pic. If you're not in the top 20% of guys in terms of facial beauty, you'll have to flash a bit of your wealth without looking like a desperate tryhard. There's nothing more disgusting for a 18 years old thot than a "thirty and thirsty" dude. I assume that since you're a VP in IB you have cash. High-end restaurants and clothes have to be part of your life but you should appear to do it without even thinking about it. The Italians call it Sprezzatura.

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  • VP in IB - Gen
Jun 21, 2020

Agreed, but I wouldn't date an 18 year old at this point. 22 minimum, and she would have to have her shit together/be mature enough.

I can flash my money, I've got a nice pad, nice cars, nice clothes, but it just doesn't feel right, even if subtle.

Maybe I'll wait to get chiseled and try to be in the "20%".

I'm half white/half Asian, but Asian features are obvious. Really wish I was at least 6 foot right now lol.

  • Prospect in IB - Gen
Jun 21, 2020

In the end it's all about self-confidence. Based on the assumption that you're average looking or better, you'll become really attractive by displaying some personality and carry with you some sort of "atmosphere" of self-confidence. Think about it as being a politician or an IB applicant: you can't just be a guy in a suit, you need some storytelling. The difference is that this type of storytelling is non-verbal, and is based on how you behave, what you like and what you do, i.e. who you are. Most people are inherently shallow, so if you can appear as a real person with unique attributes and characteristics, as a real human being and not as a robot, you'll attract people who will want to grab a bit of this energy.

Once you meet the basic requirements, dating/sex is all about psychology.

Jun 23, 2020

Lol. Somebody's been reading too much GQ

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  • Analyst 2 in IB-M&A
Jun 21, 2020

Lol as a female (and according to my other female friends), a six-pack mirror pic can be kind of cringe and wouldn't convince us to swipe right

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Jun 21, 2020

Women don't know what they want ;)

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Jun 21, 2020

"People don't know what they want until you show it to them." -Steve Jobs

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  • Intern in IB-M&A
Jun 22, 2020

yeah I heard fat fucks with neck beards get girls so wet

Jun 22, 2020

you can convey that you have a good body without a mirror selfie

women would rather have a decent looking guy who knows how to read social cues than a shredded guy who took a bathroom picture

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  • Analyst 2 in IB-M&A
Jun 22, 2020

Agree with the above. Photos taken of you that show you're in good shape (like being at the beach with a group of friends or something) >>>>> a mirror selfie

Jun 23, 2020

agreed , you don't want a guy to come across as narcissistic

  • Intern in IB-M&A
Jun 23, 2020

why not?

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Jun 23, 2020

Yeah if the chick values fitness, she can appreciate the gains / effort. It sounds like you don't workout or value fitness.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

  • Analyst 2 in IB-M&A
Jun 23, 2020

I actually go to the gym regularly and lift weights, so I understand the gains. But I wouldn't post a mirror selfie of myself on my dating app profile, for the same reason why I don't find it that attractive when a guy does. I think there are more natural / candid ways to show you're in shape that also show off your friends and social life.

Jun 21, 2020

Just have pictures with good lighting, maybe a bit of editing if you feel up to it. Smile in one or two, have one or two of you on vacation, don't have too many that are in groups, don't put too many with hats/sunglasses since they block off the eyes.

Jun 21, 2020

What kind of image are you trying to project? Or, figure out what type of woman you want, then project what you think she would like.

  • VP in IB - Gen
Jun 21, 2020

Want em' all man, want em' all.

I don't discriminate!

  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jun 21, 2020

People really out here tryna turn dating apps into an optimization problem lol. Speaking as a broke-ass normal-looking college student who's had fairly decent success, 1 normal profile photo of you in good lighting, 1 with a few friends, 1 doing something fun, and if you wanna get fancy put in a photo at a professional event where you have a suit on. That's really all you need. Looking for relationships on dating apps is a pure numbers game

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Jun 21, 2020

Crazy how the person you may get into a relationship with is random as fuck as can be.

  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jun 21, 2020

Everything is random, destiny is an illusion :)

  • Prospect in IB - Restr
Jun 27, 2020

CS minors be like

  • Intern in IB - Ind
Jun 22, 2020

Here is some food for thought from a female. I find mirror pics and selfies really cringe. Ideal is pics of you on holiday or doing something (skiing, hiking, fishing, cooking etc) as that can lead to an easy conversation. Hot girls are a no. Honestly pics with parents are a yes, but I will be judging your dads hairline. Guys with gucci tshirts and belts are an automatic no. But, subtle hints to success are good (don't force these, they should come naturally ie the fact that you are skiing is a subtle hint to having money).
You are quite limited with your options so if you're dead set on setting up an account I think you need to set up a self timer and make it look like someone has taken it. That's going to be harder than it sounds, good luck! (And for the love of God please smile)

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  • Intern in IB - Ind
Jun 22, 2020

From another female, I second this 100%. Extra emphasis on the smiling -- such a turnoff when every single picture is some kind of smirk or straight face trying to look cool.

Pics with pets are good -- it's pretty common I'll see guys include pictures with a dog that isn't his, but I don't really care as long as it's a good picture

Jun 22, 2020
Intern in IB - Ind:

but I will be judging your dads hairline

you should know that male pattern baldness is on the X chromosome

better indicator is mother's father or uncles on the mother's side. afaik there is literal zero correlation with father's hairline

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  • Analyst 1 in IB - Ind
Jun 22, 2020

who's side are you on

  • Intern in IB - Ind
Jun 22, 2020

does your dad have a receding hairline or something

  • Intern in IB - Ind
Jun 22, 2020

it was a joke but thanks

Jun 22, 2020

simply put, fuck

  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jun 22, 2020

From another girl, I third this statement. Photos with dogs are always good too.

Jun 22, 2020

took a global pandemic for investment bankers to realise sex is good

Jun 22, 2020

Yeah...always thought investment bankers have an autistic approach to sex. Not to mention that most are terrible in bed

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Jun 22, 2020

I would just get a female friend to take a bunch of pictures of you, then put just a little bit of filter on it and then upload the best one. One thing to keep in mind is that girls are constantly barraged with attention from a million dudes that look the same. If you can take pictures that stand out in a good way, like either your style, or a hobby, or something like that, then that's great.

Go for mysterious. You can create attraction just by people being kind of interested in who you are, and wanting to know more.

Jun 22, 2020

Take blurry pictures in dark backgrounds so people are intrigued trying to figure out where you are.

  • Analyst 1 in IB - Gen
Jun 22, 2020

They need to just verify guys as balling or not and leave the pics for the girls. 90% of girls only right swipe on the same 10% of guys. And on top of that, does it really matter THAT much what guy looks like? At the end of the day, girls' number one priority in dating is being taken care of and ensuring the male mate is someone who is simply groomed and clean.

But more practically, I would agree group pics while doing some activity is your best bet when putting pics on your Tinder. I would say this might be the most reasonable type of pic given that it could be useful proving you have someone around you who can tolerate you and you're not some weird revenge seeking loner.

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  • Intern in IB-M&A
Jun 22, 2020

80/20 rule?

Jun 23, 2020

It's turning into 90/10

Jun 22, 2020

abdominal muscles

What concert costs 45 cents? 50 Cent feat. Nickelback.

Jun 22, 2020

Awww you sound like a cute guy.....just the kind of guy I would love to date. I am in New York by the way. Feel free to PM me if you got questions.

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  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jun 22, 2020

Don't do it bro, this is DEFINITELY a dude

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Jun 22, 2020

Nope. Nice try.

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Jun 22, 2020

Make the first pick be one of just you or you and one friend. The others can be a variety. No mirror picks those are desperate I don't think they attract quality girls/women.

No shirtless picks unless you have a six pack or at least a good body. Don't give girls a reason to swipe left. Chicks love pets so get one with that poodle for sure.

If the photos are weak then come up with a good caption. Just try to get girls attention. They have their pick of any guy legit every swipe right is a match. So try to stand out in a good way but don't act desperate.

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Jun 22, 2020

I met my girlfriend of over 5 years over tinder btw. It can work. Just have fun with it and be respectful. Don't be creepy and ask for nudes. That's what porn is for.

Ask for her snap once the conversation progresses. I found girls like giving snap instead of their numbers because it's more casual. Good luck!

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Jun 23, 2020

Wtf even is this post.

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Jun 23, 2020

curious to the demographics that make up WSO.. I assume 90% male from the comments

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  • Intern in IB - Gen
Jun 23, 2020

I'm a girl but I've been told by many matches that I have the most interesting dating app profile that they've ever seen. I'm also wasian and I think I'm pretty cute, but I don't have that many close up pictures of my face on my profile. Put pictures of you doing outdoor activities like going for a hike. Some of my pictures are from a few years ago but the camera's kinda far away and I'm doing cool activities in them so you can't tell. I think you should include a pic of you a little more dressed up so they know you're not a deadbeat. I love animals but so many guys put pictures with dogs, and even if the dog is cute I would never swipe right because of a dog picture. I'd prefer pictures with literally any other type of animal (my profile features an alpaca and a sloth). But if I see a picture of a guy holding a fish I'll most likely swipe left.

  • Intern in IB-M&A
Jun 23, 2020
Intern in IB - Gen:

I'm also wasian and I think I'm pretty cute

So humble

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Jun 23, 2020

You're probably a dude...

  • Prospect in IB - Gen
Jun 25, 2020

Whats wrong with guys holding up fish they have caught?

  • Intern in IB-M&A
Jun 28, 2020

Youre the type of girl I would mess around with for a couple of times but definitely dump afterwards because of the personality. Be humble.

Jun 25, 2020

Steer clear of selfies.

  • Analyst 1 in IB-M&A
Jun 25, 2020

I don't like taking pics either, just use them as a means to an end. Here's what you do:

-1 close up (collarbone and up)

-1 full body pic

-1 pic w/ a dog if you can

-1 pic doing a hobby (I know, IB doesn't have hobbies, so make one up. i.g. I took a picture
with a bike and a friend's running label making it look like I get out and exercise in a fun way)

-1 travel/adventurous pic (I just have one on a rooftop bar)

You want 3-6 pics if some of these don't apply. Other rules:

-no selfies

-no pics with a nice car

-no pics with sunglasses/hats

-you don't have to smile in every one, but that goes a long way

-same rule with eye contact / the camera

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Jun 25, 2020

It doesn't matter too much usually if you look good you'll get matches. One picture clear of ur face preferably outside, one hobby picture, and one fun/social picture. A shirtless body picture is fine if u have washboard abs and roadmap veins other wise I would keep it out.

Jun 25, 2020

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Jun 26, 2020

Please provide proof of incorporation. I am intersted and would like to leverage my current free cash flow to reinvest in myself by pursuing your learnig schoogl o f thought

Will update my computer soon and leave Incognito so I will disappear forever. How did I achieve Neanderthal by trolling? Some people are after me so need to close account for safety.

Jun 27, 2020
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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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