Have any of you sucka's got experience in transitioning a friends with benefits situation into something more serious?
For context I have been very good friends with this girl for about 4 years and we have sex every now and then, so we aren't just casual acquaintances. As of late I have developed quite strong feelings for her and am unsure how to play the next move.
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hi im virgin
Congrats bro i wish i had something like this
All the chicks i have hooked up with i have felt not a thing for them
Worst still are the girls that i really like then after going out on 1 date and bringing them home and hooking up feel absolutely nothing for them anymore.
I think it’s possible though my best friend and his gf started off as fwbs, i think spending time outside the bedroom helps
^^^ this guy's sick
Be direct. Tell her what you want and see what happens
Seriously.
OP - You're friends with this girl, you apparently have sex with this girl, but you can't have an adult conversation with her?
Lol classic WSO with the monkey shit to something actually wise. This is a sage wake-up call. If you're sleeping with this girl but can't express feelings then there's definitely something wrong here
Yeah, go ahead and tell her. 4 years is quite a long time. Don’t waste a chance.
What is it with these relationship posts, go to reddit.
the average redditor hasn't even been in a relationship
More and more I’m thinking the same about the average person on WSO
Question is can you live knowing she was potentially FWBing bunch of other guys at the same time.
hahaha
We have both been openly fucking and gone on dates with other people
Guess you won't mind this girl cucking you in future then
You fucked up. Rule #1 of FWB, never catch feeling. Either find a new FWB or suppress your feelings and get over them, otherwise you will scare her away.
Need more info. Did you start having these feelings after she got a new boyfriend?
Update - I told her how I feel and she said she doesn't feel the same way and we are no longer FWB
Keep this experience in mind in the future. It's always the girl's job to ask for the relationship. If the girl hasn't asked, that's because she doesn't want one.
Did it hurt the friendship?
Lol underappreciated comment. Would SB.
FWB has both "friends" and "benefits" in the name.
in addition to the benefits...were you truly "good friends" and doing friend stuff, like hiking / playing tennis / basketball / other sports / going to the gym together as workout buddies / doing things outdoors like long runs / walks...going grocery shopping and cooking fancy meals together...if you want "more" in the future than i would suggest adding more activities to your relationship...more exposure in multiple places and activities
Sorry to hear but probably for the best. Likely not long term material even if y’all tried it out. At least you had a good time for awhile, that’s great. She’ll age and get less valuable, your value will increase if you play your cards right. Just watch what happens a few years down the road, it’s crazy how quick chicks can fall off.
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