HELP - do i have girlfriend now??????

hi guys, hope that you can help me! i know a french girl and we go out a couple of times with some coworkers and friends (1 is her flatmate). i met her like 1 month ago or something, i dont remember lol, and i`ve seen her like 3 or 4 times, sometimes she comes with her flatmate to the office. but anyways i think she liked me because first time i met her, she flirted a lot with me (very touchy feely and kept touching me) and kissed me and stuff. well, she is okay, like a 7 or something, but i still kind of liked her. so anyways, one time i go on her computer and her password is saved for all her things. so i look in her email to see if she said any stuff about me, but she didnt so i dunno why, lol. but then i go on her facebook and put change her relation to "In a relationship" and put as myself. she seed this and sent me a msg asking me what it is? well, i dont know what to say, so i just ignore her message, lol, because i just wanted to test if she wanted to be girlfriends with me. i still didnt reply to her message and this was like a week ago. well today is valentines day so i think that i should do something nice for her. do you guys think that she is okay to be my girlfriend?????? can you help me tell me what to do for valentines day?????? maybe i take her to go get some ice cream and then we can go ice skating??? is this a good idea??? do you think i should wait and find a better girl (like a 8 or a 9)??? thanks!!!!

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It depends. Did she take down the "In a relationship with blumie" status, or is it still up? If it's still up, she is definitely down to be your GF. And for Valentine's Day, I'd suggest buying her some sex toys and a porno. Not only is that romantic, but it's not cliche, either - skip the flowers, chocolates, and a nice dinner. It shows that you are creative and that you mean business.

When she goes to thank you, show her a hug is not going to suffice - she needs to know who is boss. That's you, blumie.

As for what to do next, I'm sure you have no idea, but I suggest watching the porno and copying what the guy does.

(Thanks for another wonderful post!)

 
jimbrowngoUIt depends. Did she take down the "In a relationship with blumie" status, or is it still up? If it's still up, she is definitely down to be your GF. And for Valentine's Day, I'd suggest buying her some sex toys and a porno. Not only is that romantic, but it's not cliche, either - skip the flowers, chocolates, and a nice dinner. It shows that you are creative and that you mean business.

When she goes to thank you, show her a hug is not going to suffice - she needs to know who is boss. That's you, blumie.

As for what to do next, I'm sure you have no idea, but I suggest watching the porno and copying what the guy does.

(Thanks for another wonderful post!)

You have to be careful when copying behaviors in a porno, though. The best types to model after typically involve fisting, cleveland steamers, and golden showers.

Good luck!

 
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hi friends, i am happy that you enjoy hearing my stories. except how come everybody is so mean to me this time??? everytime i get good advices from you guys, but now nobody will help me :-(. every1 just make fun of my english, even though it is not my primary language and laugh at me, which i think is very mean of you. i only got 1 advice which i appreciate, but all other posts are just making fun of me >:-O

also, i couldnt follow ur advice because i dont think that the girl will like things like sex toy (and i dont even know where to buy those things anyways lol). and i dont know if she take off the relation thing, because i cant see her on facebook anymore for some reason, lol, maybe she deleted it or something. but i send her an email and said hey, lets go ice skating and eat some ice cream today? and she didnt write back... i know that she seed the email, because i went into her email and my email was read... why you guys think she didnt write back? is she ignore me because she dont know what to say or maybe shes shy or something? lol. thanks!

 

LOL BLUMIE she probably deleted you as a friend on facebook. You going through her email/facebook is kinda psycho bud. I would take classes on mannerism and proper etiquette like BORAT. "YOU HAVE A VERY FUNNY RETARDATION"

 

DUDE Blumie are you freaking crazy!! that's not the way to get a damm girlfriend. Going thru HER EMAIL AND FACEBOOK doing such cowardly shit omg you're on your way to a disaster. try reading some men articles online or on other sites. this is the place for discussing about legit stuff not your deperate desire to bang a french girl. geez kiddo

 

Ok "Blumie",

I never knew investment bankers were like this... which community college/high school did you graduate from?

First of all, the first time you met her, she kissed you and you don't know if she likes you? [Who kisses people the first time they meet them? I guess French people do, but you should be able to tell...]

Second part, "one time i go on her computer and her password is saved for all her things. so i look in her email to see if she said any stuff about me, but she didnt so i dunno why". [REALLY NOW? People have lives that don't revolve around you. Invasion of privacy/stalk much?]

Oh man this next part... "but then i go on her facebook and put change her relation to "In a relationship" and put as myself". [You've met her 3 or 4 times and only in the office, why would you think that she is your girlfriend? Maybe some girls just like to tap people on the shoulder, is that a crime now?]

I can't believe you have the nerve to end with "do you think i should wait and find a better girl (like a 8 or a 9)?" [Dude this girl does not even like you and you are thinking that you can do better? Seriously, you disgust me?]

I was going to stop the bashing here, but then I read your comments and had to add more...

"i dont know if she take off the relation thing, because i cant see her on facebook anymore... maybe she deleted it or something. but i send her an email...and she didnt write back... i know that she seed the email, because i went into her email and my email was read... is she ignore me because she dont know what to say or maybe shes shy or something?"

OK dude, she deleted her facebook, has not responded to your messages, and you are STILL going into her email? Ok, let me say this simply, if she is a touchy person that kisses people during the first encounter, then she is not shy. She might have found you attractive AT FIRST, but it's too late. Back off now or you might get some restraint warrants on you, damn.

 

I dont know if you read about the French people and their culture, they are very physical and their greetings (ca va, bonjour, etc etc) usually involves kissing the cheeks and such. So I think you might have the wrong idea about her pal

 

LOL ibankguru it wouldn't surprise me if that was "The kiss" Blumie was speaking of. HAHA blumie your ignorance is ubiquitous please watch "Friends".

 

I thought it was fake at first, but then I read his own comment reply. Since both comment and post contain no sarcasm, this seems genuine. I just get peeved about people who treat women like they aren't people. I'd personally be so pissed if someone I've met 3 times before went into my email and changed awkward stuff around in my facebook.

 
Personaly I think that thi is fake...on the same degree as Borat (with grammar to match)

So what do you do? -I work for an investment banking firm. Oh okay; you are like my brother, he works for Edward Jones. -No, a college degree is required in my profession

Reality hits you hard, bro...
 

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