How do I get my little brother to raise his standards in women? He's in college

I know I sound like Steff in Pretty in Pink -- "if you got a hard-on for trash don't take care of it around me, pal" -- but it boggles my mind why he's with dirt when with just a little effort he could easily pull smart and fit 7s and 8s.

I guess to understand the foundation of it all, why does any young guy have standards (i.e. p--sy is p--sy, why not just go for the absolute easiest to take down)? I had meh taste in girls in high school but I guess being introduced to attractive girls who were ALSO smart/ambitious in college was a game-changer. Then I couldn't look at the lower-grade chicks I used to hook up with w/o cringing. I started polishing up my appearance, staying in shape, etc. and dated cute smart 7-10s and eventually met my wife.

Anyways, my little bro goes to my alma mater, surrounded by smart cute babes, he's a decent looking kid, but he just does not care. The current chick he's hooking up with is total trash. It's like his "type" is just the easiest to pull low hanging fruit. Like a pathetic "take what I can get" sort of trash outlook. I try to encourage him to aim higher but he does not care.

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Oct 12, 2018

To add, I'm somewhat worried he's going to screw around and get one of these dumb birds pregnant.

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Oct 12, 2018

He probably will, and you'll be the successful brother on the sidelines saying "I told you so." The solution is to stop giving a shit now and let him learn of his own folly.

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Oct 12, 2018
Kassad:

He probably will, and you'll be the successful brother on the sidelines saying "I told you so." The solution is to stop giving a shit now and let him learn of his own folly.

I seriously fear and dread that. I'll take zero satisfaction in that.

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Oct 13, 2018

Are we seriously going to sit here and not acknowledge that there is no "little brother," and this guy is writing the post about himself?

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Oct 12, 2018

It's possible he doesn't see you as a high achiever, and thus decides to "do his own thing," which is manifest partly in his tendency to retain thots. Being a big brother myself, one thing I've learned is that you absolutely cannot try to mentor or teach anybody who isn't absolutely dedicated to learning from you. It's a worthless pursuit - they don't understand that you're doing it out of compassion, and won't value your time accordingly. For you to have wisdom to give, it must first be seen as wisdom.

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Oct 12, 2018

Has he met any 8s or 9s that he thinks are hot or do you think he's too scared to go after them?

If the the former is true you may have to hire an 8 or 9 prostitute (Blue Chip) for him.

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Oct 12, 2018

Campus is overflowing with hot smart wealthy tail -- he settles for low-grade bottom feeders.

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Oct 15, 2018

If your alma mater is who your username suggests, the tail is far smarter and wealthier than it is hot.

Oct 12, 2018

I'd hit anything with two legs in college

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

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Oct 12, 2018

Same until I realized I could pull cuter girls. Then once you pull cuter polished girls it's like why eat McDonald's trash when you can have a filet. It's not like hot college babes are prudes and only white trash thots are putting out - EVERY co-ed is putting out.

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Oct 12, 2018

but what if you could eat sushi, burritos, pizza, and burgers every day and not gain weight? why not practice on the burger for the sushi?

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

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Oct 12, 2018

Duke has babes? Who knew

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Oct 13, 2018

Maybe it's a fetish? I personally have a special thing for trailer trash. But only on thursdays...

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Oct 13, 2018

I'd assume his IQ is lower than yours, making him an easy mark. He's captivated by the consistent flattery thirsty broads shower him with (facetime, sexts, snapchat, sex on command) , where as prettier classier girls will generally make you work a little harder for it and aren't as desperate to please (not always, of course).

Oct 13, 2018

Different strokes for different folks (pun intended).

There's not much you can realistically do presently without him feeling like you're nagging and/or overbearing. Give sporadic, constructive advice and articulate why you think he'd be better off if he changed. He'll grow out of it eventually

Oct 13, 2018

The dudes I knew with no standards were just desperate to get laid. Beggars can't be choosers.

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Oct 15, 2018

He's doing numbers bro, let him be

Absolute truths don't exist... celebrated opinions do.

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Oct 15, 2018

There's no such thing as "standards in women" when you're a straight male. It's simply all about what chick will have you. The only way to change that is by changing the perception of your stature, role, and position in life.

Only women can have a certain set of standards, because they're the ones that make relationship decisions. For women the standards are more realistic things like child rearing, support system, protection/safety, living conditions, class, etc. etc. etc.

This is why the whole women's rights thing is such a farce up to this point. We all know women would never relinquish that control, so not sure why we're even trying to have flat equity across the board. Yes, a woman who's a boss with power might marry a man who stays at home and plays the traditionally femme role, but we don't need some rewrite of the social code for that to be possible. Just simply don't marry the biggest swinging alpha out there.

But yeah, who cares what type of chicks your brother dates. If hotter, classier ladies are attracted to him, would he really deny them? And he's in college and young. He doesn't need to play serious until at least nearing 30.

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