How Do You Relax?

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I've been struggling with properly relaxing on my time off. I constantly think of my work and my other projects on the weekend and when I come home from work. My current activities I do to try to unwind are: lift weights, yoga and reading.

I know that many of you have more strenuous jobs/hours than I do, so my question is what do you do to manage your stress and relax?

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May 29, 2019

Usually crank several times throughout the day

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Jun 2, 2019

Crank out models? or...

May 29, 2019

Lift, reading, Xbox, watch tv

For the latter, comedy is ideal to destress. Some pretty nostalgic & enjoyable shows for me that also remind me that in the big scheme of things, life is good include:

  • Scrubs
  • HIMYM
  • Community

Playing an instrument works wonders if you can immerse yourself in it for at least a half hour. Hanging out with a good friend or two also does the trick often as well

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Jun 4, 2019

+SB for community!

May 29, 2019

I lift but I'd not sure I'd call that relaxing. Usually I unwind with high quality TV, PlayStation, books, bullshitting on the internet, and/or wine.

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Jun 2, 2019

Farming SB on WSO is not bullshitting on the internet IMO

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May 29, 2019

I tried a float spa the other day where you hop in what's practically a sensory deprivation chamber and float for 60 minutes on magnesium salt-saturated water. Hugely peaceful and relaxing.

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May 29, 2019
JamesTrickington:

I tried a float spa the other day where you hop in what's practically a sensory deprivation chamber and float for 60 minutes on magnesium salt-saturated water. Hugely peaceful and relaxing.

Say more. I see that on Groupon and it caught my attention. I fear I'd be like f this 8 minutes in.

May 29, 2019

You step into the tank (you can wear a bathing suit, but it isn't recommended because you are supposed to feel like there's no external stimulus on your body) and lie down in the water, which is heated to close to body temp.

It was a little claustrophobic for me at first because it's totally dark, but you gradually relax. These guys do 60min or 90min floats, and supposedly after 6 or so times going for 90 minutes, there is a large reduction in serum cortisol (per their marketing material).

One cool effect was after a while when the water settles you start to be able to focus inward and either completely zone out, which was my experience, or more fully focus your attention with greater clarity on issues you're dealing with in your personal and professional life, which was my buddy's experience when he went. Have also heard from multiple people that they could feel and hear their back cracking as it realigned due to lack of structural tension from floating fully relaxed.

10/10 will go back 5 more times.

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May 29, 2019

Cycling - I wish I had really discovered the depths of it earlier in my life. I got a decent carbon fiber bike in 2006, but didn't start riding hard till 2018. This definitely got me shredded to a new level.

Heavy Bag - If I'm spun out and need an outlet, I'll do a heavy circuit with heavy bag and HIIT for 2-6hrs. Sometimes I feel better after an hour or two. Lots of low leg kicks. Heavy rapid body shots for multiple rounds.

I started getting into swimming recently. I swam 6.2 miles at 8,900ft on Monday after cycling (2 sessions - 4mi + 2.2mi).

Art - Mainly large scale abstract pieces. Currently working on two large 7x5ft panels for a 10 ft wide and 7 ft high piece.

Board sports - Skate (longboard), Snow, Surf, Skim

Music Therapy - its real

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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May 30, 2019

You still doing Ironman Boulder?

May 30, 2019

2-6 hours? jesus christ, how much do you work a day?

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May 31, 2019

How do you cycle so much without your hip flexor muscles being tight and in pain constantly? I want to cycle but have this problem.

"Life is like a song, you are supposed to dance while the music is playing."

Jun 3, 2019

Go to a very STRONG deep tissue sports massage therapist. I go to this masseuse who was a competitive cyclist and natural bodybuilder. Her hands are like iron and its very painful, but any hip and lower back issues are gone after she is done. It is not a fun hour though.

Jun 2, 2019

Can confirm cycling. It is absolutely one of my favorite things to do.

"Work ethic, work ethic" - Vince Vaughn
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May 29, 2019

There is NOTHING more relaxing than a home-cooked meal after a long day at work.

I am here live in my backyard, smoking a brisket and some ribs. I am..l. am making meats now, smoking these meats here or a little meat smoking. I'm the meat chief. But how many of you guys are eating brisket and ribs tonight? Sweet baby ray's, we have just applied sweet baby ray's. I want to try your brisket. I want to try my brisket. This is what Wall Street Oasis is for. Just hanging out while you're sitting in your backyard, waiting for your brisket and your ribs to finish cooking.

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May 29, 2019

I have a smoker and break it out on the weekends. It's relaxing for sure, but I find I then eat too much delicious meat which isn't friendly to the beltline.

I can't do Sweet Baby Rays anymore. I am in the boutique BBQ sauce section of the supermarket.

Jun 3, 2019

Any recommendations for an outdoor grill or smoker? Need to just buy one. I cook only for my family and very small groups.

May 29, 2019
Jun 9, 2019

Love this

Jun 10, 2019

Threw down a slab of baby backs this weekend. 6 hours on the smoker. They were falling off the bone and amazing!

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May 29, 2019

steam room

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May 29, 2019

Music, TV Shows (Entourage rn), Beach, and here and there chip away at my reading backlog

May 29, 2019

Booze and drugs on weekends

TV on weekdays (watching West Wing rn, typically do dramas over comedies) or sometimes I'll get into a video game

Try to hit the beach enough during the summer to last me the whole year

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May 29, 2019

Listen to music/play the guitar. Listening to some Radiohead in the shower after a stressful day is always nice, really any song off of In Rainbows will do. The lead singer described the lyrics as "that anonymous fear thing, sitting in traffic, thinking, 'I'm sure I'm supposed to be doing something else". I'm sure we can all relate to that one way or another.

I find using the rowing machine at the gym to be pretty relaxing. A fantastic exercise and pretty mindless with some tunes in the background. Followed by melting in the sauna for 20 minutes.

May 30, 2019

I like jogging cause it helps get my head straight

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May 30, 2019

You might want to try pick up an musical instrument (if you haven't already) and try to learn how to play some of your favorite songs (hopefully it ain't Dream Theater :P).

I find it much more relaxing than people realize. If you're already proficient try jamming to your own style or even try writing your own music. It really balances me out during a stressful 100 hr weeks.

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May 30, 2019

I believe in taking care of myself, and a balanced diet and a rigorous exercise routine. In the morning, if my face is a little puffy, I'll put on an ice pack while doing my stomach crunches.

I can do a thousand now.

After I remove the ice pack I use a deep pore cleanser lotion. In the shower I use a water activated gel cleanser, then a honey almond body scrub, and on the face an exfoliating gel scrub.

Then I apply an herb-mint facial masque which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine.

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May 30, 2019

Have been juggling a ton of shit recently. Here are a few things I take up, depending on the propensity of stress I have to deal with:

  1. Green tea: A decent cup can sometimes help me take care of hunger pangs, or even let me regain focus for a few minutes, that I can eventually use as momentum to get back to work.
  2. Black coffee + L Theanine: The best thing for relaxing. I have never felt more awake and yet relaxed. Coffee has jittery effects, usually; maybe because I don't use a fresh press or anything artisanal. But decent quality of coffee and generally available L Theanine, together, can do wonders; plus, this isn't that addictive either.
  3. A hard, long run: The clarity I get after a nice, long run, is just too addictive at times.
  4. Sex. Good, hours long sessions of sex; ideally with your partner or someone with whom you are extremely comfortable.
  5. Sketching pencil portraits with immaculate details: I guess, immersing yourself entirely into something that you are not doing for any necessary purpose can have therapeutic effects.
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May 30, 2019

1) Try Headspace (or another meditation app). There's usually a free trial and I found the effects to last longer than just while you are meditating

2) A short jog at a quicker pace - long jogs are usually a slog for me but pushing myself for 1-3 miles with some uptempo music outside on a sunny day is incredibly energizing and sometimes euphoric

3) Socialize with people you like. Also - learn how to drink without getting blackout hammered (if that's how you normally go out). You will have a better time, make more memories and feel better in the morning instead of laying in bed all day

Also - there might not be anything wrong with thinking about work. It is a problem if that makes you feel stressed though. You shouldn't always feel stressed about work even in the office

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May 30, 2019

Usually smelling my own farts does the trick for me.

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May 30, 2019

Pot.

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Jun 1, 2019

I turn off notifications from the WSO telegram group and I stop reading the WSO forum. It is highly efficient and it helps me forget about the stupid rat race

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Jun 1, 2019

I read the Holy Bible.

Jun 1, 2019

I jerk off 2 times a day.

Get busy living or get busy dying.

Jun 2, 2019

those are rookie numbers...gotta crank those up

My soul is highly leveraged

Jun 2, 2019

LMAO. I am still a junior banker, wait for those numbers when I'm at the MD level

Get busy living or get busy dying.

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Jun 1, 2019

I like meditating. It helps put my thoughts in order

Jun 2, 2019

Pick up heavy things and put them back down.

Jun 3, 2019

Boxing workouts combined with sauna, trigger point massage, and some four-twenty for acute anxiety. I take Solgar Curcumin Full Spectrum each morning along with wild Iceland cod liver oil and black pepper with meals. This combined with breathing exercises tends to get rid of stress.

Heavy sweating is a health miracle if done regularly and is the missing piece of most American's daily life.

Jun 3, 2019

Honestly those are mine too (except yoga not quite brave enough). Maybe with the exercise try crossfit or something where you work out in a group. I find those tend to also build friendships as well. People are always good distractions from being stuck in your own thoughts (my issue as well). Also i have a list of favorite/weekend/relaxing foods. These feel good foods are things that I treat myself to every once in a while.

Good luck, we all have this struggle you know. Keep your head up!

Jun 4, 2019

Doses and Mimosas; Champagne and Cocaine, help to get me though.

Jun 4, 2019

My favorite ways to relax post-work or on the weekends include sleeping, exercising (not as relaxing cus im trying to get in shape and have a bit of a ways to go but still...), playing xbox with my high school buddies, chilling with my college friends who live nearby, going to a park with someone and throwing a football around, making a nice meal, making a nice and different drink, and the ganj (my place doesnt test).

Also trying to make edm music/remixes but thats a lot harder than I thought it would be. More frustrating than relaxing at this point.

Jun 5, 2019

You are on the right track, just spend more time reading random threads on WSO, and your stress level will start to go down.

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Jun 5, 2019

Try doing something not planned and spontaneous , visit that weird bar you have always seen at the corner of the street, go on a date with someone you just met off the street, ignite that passion/thrill in life again.

Jun 5, 2019

Try picking up a sport-- you can space out while lifting/running/doing yoga/reading. Harder for the mind to wander when there is an an opponent in front of you.

Jun 7, 2019

These are more esoteric but what I've found over the years that work for me.

I haven't gone in a few months, but going to the firing range for target practice helps take your mind off things. It requires focus on breathing and hand-eye coordination so it almost feels meditative in a sense. Also feels rewarding when you can replicate tight groupings round after round. It does get expensive though, especially if you don't own the firearm yourself.

Another hobby I've picked up that I enjoy doing after work is coffee roasting. It can get so technical that you fully focus on the science and mechanics of roasting, watching the real time temperature and temp delta readings to adjust on the fly, that it wholly occupies your mind and attention. If you look away for a few seconds too long, you'll end up with a terrible roast. Coffee overall has become a fun science project for me, altering roast profiles, measuring extraction yields, grinder burr geometry, ground particle size analysis, water chemistry, latte art, immersion brew, percolation brew, etc etc. Few things like a perfectly brewed cup of high grade specialty coffee can light up my day. Not sure what kind of coffee WSO drinks but I chase after that wonderful panama gesha that smelled and tasted like fruity pebbles or that ethiopia yirgacheffe that tasted like peaches, apricots, lavender, and caramel I've had in the past. Trying to achieve that perfect roast can cause you to chase your tail though given there are so many variables. But that's a different type of stress...

Hiking, movies, backpacking, etc are some other weekend activities that do the job.

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Jun 7, 2019
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